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post #21 of 25
7/24/09 at 8:33pm
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Originally Posted by Marsupialmom View Post
Since she is in high school I bet there is many more activities for her to get involved in that will take up the week ends.

Tell her to get involved and enjoy these activities. Band, drama, glee club, et can take up a lot of time. This will make his weekends even shorter until you can refile.
This is a great idea -- but it was one that she had tried already. He was catching on and not letting her go. Instead, he would drag her to his parties/get-togethers and then proceed to ignore her or make fun of her.

I suggested this idea to her, also. And she said she is fed up. That she can't deal with him and his wife any more.

Have any of you had experience with this? Do the police get involved? And what happens if they do get involved?
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post #22 of 25
7/24/09 at 9:15pm
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Originally Posted by FireFrog View Post
This is a great idea -- but it was one that she had tried already. He was catching on and not letting her go. Instead, he would drag her to his parties/get-togethers and then proceed to ignore her or make fun of her.

I suggested this idea to her, also. And she said she is fed up. That she can't deal with him and his wife any more.

Have any of you had experience with this? Do the police get involved? And what happens if they do get involved?
If the police get involved and your dd still refuses to go, I don't think they can make her. They'd just tell him to go back to court.
post #23 of 25
7/25/09 at 2:34pm
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moondiapers -- thank you for the reply. It's reassuring to know that. I want DD to have a relationship with her father, but it needs to be safe and healthy for her.

She did tell her father that she wasn't going this weekend, but it took 5 different times before he would listen to her. She had to text, email, voicemail, and talk to him in order for him to finally acknowledge that she was not coming over until he took her to counseling and worked out a plan to treat her better. It was so hard for her, but I am proud of how she stood up for herself. She never yelled and she was always respectful (I heard all of the conversations and I saw all of the texts/emails that she wrote).
post #24 of 25
7/25/09 at 3:20pm
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Originally Posted by Selesai View Post
Contempt hearings are basically a request to the court to enforce its previous order and/or order appropriate relief.
Exactly. So Dad could file for contempt against Mom, but would be made to answer for his own contempt regarding counseling, in the process. And Mom cannot necessarily be held to task for a 14-year-old's refusal to see Dad, in the same way she could be if daughter were only 5 and could be forced to get in the car and go...
post #25 of 25
7/25/09 at 4:16pm
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And, I made sure the I had DD available to go with him. In other words, I in no way stopped or interfered with the father's right to exercise his visitation. DD did all the talking -- all of the ideas and words were her own. He chose not to show up and get her, even though he could have.