DS (3.5) has recently become horrendous when we're out at stores. He expects something (usually junk) every time, even though I will talk with him about the situation after we get back, before we go, and even while we're there. He seems to get it before we go. He knows the expectations and that he's not getting a treat this time. But when we get there, it's like he loses any seed of self-control he had. He sees candy and junk and will ALWAYS ask for it. A 'no' or even a redirection (just this morning I told him he could get a meat stick if he really wanted something- and he does like them, I asked if he'd like to help me pay too) does nothing. He goes into full-on tantrum, running towards the door or away from me. If I pick him up he punches me.
It's really frustrating and quite frankly makes me angry. I don't want to help him when we get home (like taking his shoes off) and I don't want to take him out to the store, and I think today was the breaking point. He's seemed like he's been ready at least 5 times now before we go, and when we get there it's a disaster.
Interestingly enough, he's a gem for DH. DH will often pull the carrot and the horse maneuver...i.e. if you're good, then... and I feel he uses it quite excessively and often then tries to get out of actually rewarding him or following through with his deal.
I need insight and ideas please!
It's really frustrating and quite frankly makes me angry. I don't want to help him when we get home (like taking his shoes off) and I don't want to take him out to the store, and I think today was the breaking point. He's seemed like he's been ready at least 5 times now before we go, and when we get there it's a disaster.
Interestingly enough, he's a gem for DH. DH will often pull the carrot and the horse maneuver...i.e. if you're good, then... and I feel he uses it quite excessively and often then tries to get out of actually rewarding him or following through with his deal.
I need insight and ideas please!
