I think that I'm getting too emotional

[BlessedMommy2006]

I'm way too tied into the circ issue. I have all kinds of haunting mental images of little boys being cut. I try to block out the issue and not think about it, and then I imagine a defenseless baby getting cut, and I can't block it out anymore.

I just want to curl up into a ball and cry, cry for all the little boys that had to experience such pain so early on in life.

I want to cry, because regardless of me sharing facts gently, so many will still choose to do it. I hate the fact that I can't stop this injustice from happening.

Why do I have to be so emotional about THIS? Why can't I get mad at ax murderers, child abusers, wife beaters, FGM, etc?

I'm about to send my friend some links for information and just thinking about the strong possibility that her pro-circ bias will overrule any information I have to share, makes me so sad. But I have to try. I have to try for the sake of the possible poor boy that has no voice.

Okay, I want to cry now. :

[perspective]

Originally Posted by BlessedMommy2006

I'm way too tied into the circ issue. I have all kinds of haunting mental images of little boys being cut. I try to block out the issue and not think about it, and then I imagine a defenseless baby getting cut, and I can't block it out anymore.

I just want to curl up into a ball and cry, cry for all the little boys that had to experience such pain so early on in life.

I want to cry, because regardless of me sharing facts gently, so many will still choose to do it. I hate the fact that I can't stop this injustice from happening.

Why do I have to be so emotional about THIS? Why can't I get mad at ax murderers, child abusers, wife beaters, FGM, etc?

I'm about to send my friend some links for information and just thinking about the strong possibility that her pro-circ bias will overrule any information I have to share, makes me so sad. But I have to try. I have to try for the sake of the possible poor boy that has no voice.

Okay, I want to cry now. :

*hug*

Your a great person for caring in the way you do. It means a lot to males out there that someone does care about this issue. keep up the good work, because remember, changing ONE mind will be a whole LIFETIME of difference to a boy out there.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

honestly I think most of us has been where you are right now. When I first became aware of all the issues surrounding circ I was a mess. Even had to take a break twice from the board to distance myself. It is hard to wrap your head around and know in your heart how wrong circ is and then be forced to the awarness you cant stop it.

It still hurts me but like grieving over a death it becomes easier to bear in a way over time.

[claddaghmom]

This happened to me w/ another issue.

It's hard when you see something with clarity. It makes you logically want to stop it at all costs, but everyone else is saying it's okay or even good. I think it causes a lot of stress on the psyche.

Viewing violent and graphic images does have a physiological affect on your brain. Perhaps you should stay away from triggering images and let your mind settle a little bit.

[Beccasteve03]

Hugs Momma!

I understand where you are coming from! I get sick to my stomach when I see my friends little boys, every singe one of them have been circumcised.

When I was pregnant with ds we didn’t know we were going to have a boy. Hubby and I had several discussions on circumcision and I told him that I would prefer not to, but since I didn’t have a penis I wanted hubby to ultimately make the decision. After lots of discussion we decided that we didn’t care that our boy would look different from his daddy and that we would keep our baby just they way he was born. I am so happy we came to this decision, but now 2 years later I feel like I almost let my son down since I really didn’t fight for not circumcising him! I thought I was educated then, but boy have I learned a lot since he was born. Every day I am so thankful that we didn’t, I don’t think I would be able to forgive myself if we had!

I also found out from my mom that she didn’t have my brother circumcised either. Not something that a girl wants to know about her brother , but I am really proud of her for protecting my brother and going against the norm 25 years ago!

[tutucrazy]

I feel this everyday! The only thing that helps me is trying my hardest to save babies. If I stopped trying then I would feel enormous guilt for sitting on my knowledge and not using it to make change and protect boys' rights. It's is a very emotional battle b/c the nature of the crime. (BIG HUGS) Keep up the good work!

[PuppyFluffer]

I've been there. In some ways, I'm still there.

One thing that has helped me a great deal is to get a perspective on where I have power and where I don't. I don't sign the consent form for another's baby, I don't have the power to decline for another person. All I can do is to do my part to make sure that a person is educated to the best of my ability so that they can exercise their power in an educated way.

My power lies in educating a person. I have no power over their final decision. If I know that I've done my part to educate them....I have to let go of the outcome.

It's not always easy!

[Harmony08]

I'm there too. Most of the time I try not to think about it. Until recently I have thought about it as a parent by parent decision and was just happy I had spared my boy. Now, I am also haunted by the image of defenseless little babies being assaulted in this way. I want to do something. I don't know what to do. It is almost exactly the same feeling I got years ago in college when I saw a movie with gang rape images. Haunted me forever, made me feel so useless in the face of all that horror. I wish I had something to say to make you feel better. Thank you for expressing what I am feeling so that we both do not have to feel alone.

[BlessedMommy2006]

Thanks for your kind words everybody. It's good to know that I'm not alone in this struggle.

I can block out thinking about circ until I imagine the little boy getting his foreskin forcibly ripped off his body with little to no anesthetic and being in pain for a week afterward. Then I just want to cry.

Maybe it will get easier over time.

[BaMo]

You are not alone. I feel the same way.

I'm having a hard time with one of my good friends who decided that it was up to her husband whether to circ or not. I gave her all of the info and she ended up "letting" him go through with it. I just don't get her rationale and I've had such a hard time with. She is such an AP type parent that it hurts even more.

[Pookietooth]

I hurt for them too. And I'm angry for them. I think it's really hard knowing it's going on around you and not be able to do a dratted thing about it. to you.