Funny/jaw-dropping comments about homebirth (etc.) - Page 3

[emma1325]

Originally Posted by MegBoz

Yeah, cuz just DRINKING WATER when you need to hydrate your body is such a risky, dangerous choice to have made.

I know, right? His remark made me think of what they did to women in insane asylums of the past. Creepy.

[mouthcave]

"You're so brave." Various things about "miracles"/being lucky that do not apply to hospital births.
"What will you do with the baby once he's born?" ???
I've found that a lot of people are really freaked out by birthing without an epidural and definitely think I regret doing it. Or they automatically think I was TERRIFIED once I actually knew what I was getting into. Like, "So you won't be doing that again, will you?" with a smirk. Actually, if we plan to have another child that is the ONLY way I will do it unless something serious comes up.
Mostly people haven't said much of anything to me and if they do, they act all weird and embarrassed about it. I think it is because it involves my vagina? That is all I can make of it, haha.

[lafemmedesfemmes]

shortly after my first son was born, one acquaintance said to me, "ah, so you did it cavewoman-style, did you?"

and a family friend called to congratulate me shortly after my first son's birth, and she said, "i can't *believe* you had that baby all by yourself, and then CUT THE UMBILICAL CORD!" and i laughed because she put SO! MUCH! EMPHASIS! on the fact that i cut the umbilical cord all on my own.

christina

[Evergreen]

My brother in law made a big deal about how worried he was that the birth center discharged me 4 hours after birth. He never said anything about my home birth though.

[CallMeMommy]

DS was having some evaluations for gross motor delay last month and one of the therapists was completely baffled at the home birth and asked if we had to take him to the hospital afterwards (um, no) and had no idea that the midwife was "able" to do the newborn check and PKU, etc. One of DH's aunts asked how we were going to get him circumcised (um, we're not). Other than that, just the standard "you're so brave!" or "my kid would have died at home" responses.

One jaw-dropping positive comment I got was from a friend who had 3 scheduled c-sections (so I was thinking she was going to be one of those "zomg my baby would have died!" people) who thought it was cool and said her SIL is a midwife. Totally didn't expect that!

[mysticmomma]

Originally Posted by lafemmedesfemmes

shortly after my first son was born, one acquaintance said to me, "ah, so you did it cavewoman-style, did you?"

and a family friend called to congratulate me shortly after my first son's birth, and she said, "i can't *believe* you had that baby all by yourself, and then CUT THE UMBILICAL CORD!" and i laughed because she put SO! MUCH! EMPHASIS! on the fact that i cut the umbilical cord all on my own.

christina

Did you gnaw it off with your teeth? maybe that's what she envisioned?

[lafemmedesfemmes]

Originally Posted by mysticmomma

Did you gnaw it off with your teeth? maybe that's what she envisioned?

maybe i should have told either woman that i had. the reactions would've been priceless!

christina

[Night_Nurse]

Originally Posted by jtrt

The question I find strangest is, "Can't you afford to go to a doctor?"

Amy

I know. People find it odd that I willingly paid thousands of dollars out of pocket for a homebirth when I could have had a hospital delivery for a $75 co-pay!
And I would gladly do it again!

[Belle]

Originally Posted by emma1325

You know, I'm a natural child-birther, but I'd like to learn more about homebirth and have one with my next child. The possibility of the cord being wrapped around the baby's neck and the inability for a midwife to handle it quickly enough is something that terrifies me...so I can actually relate to this concern. I'm sure that more education will alleviate my fears.

All of us are joking when we say that midwives can't handle it. It actually happens very frequently and it isn't as big a deal as most people think it is. My homebirthed baby was born with the cord wrapped around her neck twice. My midwife just unwrapped it from her neck once her head was born. They had oxygen available if she had needed it but it wasn't necessary. She was just fine.

[ericswifey27]

Re: Vbac at home

"They let you do that after a csection?!?"

"You are so brave"

"Can they do stuff like an epidural at home?!?"

"Wow (long, long pause.)"

[mommy2two babes]

Originally Posted by emma1325

I freaked out over the iv, as I'm terrified of needles, more specifically needles with drugs dripping into my body.

The oral surgeon reprimanded me for being so upset over the iv, and remarked, "you have a baby! Did you do this when you got your iv during childbirth?" and I replied that I opted for natural childbirth without an iv.

He then scoffed and said, "They should have held you down and MADE you get the iv."

I know a bit OT but yuck. As if you should lose all rights and choice when you have a baby. I had 6 women hold my down to get my hep b shot in grade 7. they all thought that I was just afraid of needles really it creeped me out that they were injecting stuff into me.
I suppose they thought they were doing me a favor:

[Beeblebrox]

When prepping for my first homebirth:

*scoff* Yeah. Let me know how THAT goes. (at me)

Me: Sure, absolutely I'll be happy to let you know how wonderful it was!

[rmzbm]

Originally Posted by ericswifey27

Re: Vbac at home

"They let you do that after a csection?!?"

"You are so brave"

"Can they do stuff like an epidural at home?!?"

"Wow (long, long pause.)"

I HATE the "let" comments!

[Fly Girl]

My mom said, "You HAVE to have an epidural!" And then later she said that it was unfair of me to have a homebirth because all of the family wanted to be there and look at my baby through the window while she is in the nursery. What?? You mean you don't want to come over to my house after she is born and hold her?

[Beeblebrox]

Originally Posted by Fly Girl

My mom said, "You HAVE to have an epidural!" And then later she said that it was unfair of me to have a homebirth because all of the family wanted to be there and look at my baby through the window while she is in the nursery. What?? You mean you don't want to come over to my house after she is born and hold her?

Also, why is she assuming your baby would be in the nursery anyway. Sigh, Hollywood.

[MegBoz]

Originally Posted by mysticmomma

Did you gnaw it off with your teeth? maybe that's what she envisioned?

:
Awesome! I think I might remember that for future use. Just too funny!!

[buttercups.nest]

Not quite on topic but I had to share....I was having my hair cut this morning and overheard a conversation about how awesome scheduled c sections are......hmmmm really?

[Blue_Moon]

''And what does your husband think about you doing that?''
Hubby usually laughs about it. He's more into than I am!

''what if the baby doesn't come out?''

And my favorite one from my MIL
''I know lots of different cultures in (insert name of our small little town) and none of THEM ever had a UC!''
Which is funny because my husband's aunt had an unplanned UC on her kitchen floor a few years ago! LOL.

[Bluegoat]

Originally Posted by buttercups.nest

Not quite on topic but I had to share....I was having my hair cut this morning and overheard a conversation about how awesome scheduled c sections are......hmmmm really?

Yes, my uncle, told me this with my last pregnancy. His wife had just finished a scheduled c-section, he told me it was really "the way to go" no going in and getting sent home, etc. I just said umm-hmmm.... thoughtfully.

[Juvysen]

Originally Posted by Bluegoat

Yes, my uncle, told me this with my last pregnancy. His wife had just finished a scheduled c-section, he told me it was really "the way to go" no going in and getting sent home, etc. I just said umm-hmmm.... thoughtfully.

My grandmother told me that, too... She had both her children by required scheduled cesarean because her uterus had been scarred (she'd been told she wouldn't even be able to have children). Her mother had supposedly almost died in childbirth and scared her, too, so I think she was grateful to just go in and have them take the baby with no labor.

My mom and my aunt (my grandmother's two daughters), however - my mom had two natural, no-epidural hospital births , my aunt had two homebirths: