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wierd experience on flight

post #1 of 13
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we flew home from Chicago last night on US Airways. we flew out on United and had no issues whatsoever, but the way home was a disaster. we got up at 5 am to make our early flight on time only to have it canceled and we were stuck in the airport for hours and hours with lots of arguments and headaches with trying to find a new flight. the CSRs for US Air were awful and rude. (but we did meet Tommy Lee from Motley Crue so theres something I guess!)

anyway, we were taking DS as a lap baby (no flames please, couldn't afford to fly otherwise). DP and I were getting settled into our window and middle seats and I was trying to nurse DS. a man, dressed as a pilot(i don't know which airline) came up and said the aisle seat was his. he seemed grumpy that it would be such a tight fight and then saw that i was nursing and said "oh, would you guys like a blanket or something?" i said, sure or a pillow would be nice, thanks. a few minutes later a flight attendant walked by and the pilot asked her again for the blanket, DS was not nursing at this point. the flight attendant asked another flight attendant for the blanket and this woman responded "we can only give it to her if she requested it. did she request the blanket? did she request the blanket??" I interupted and said yes sure I would like a blanket. the flight attendant said okay, gave it to me and then mentioned to the other lady that there is a legal issue regarding this and that she will tell her about it later. (I was not nursing when she walked by so i know the pilot said to her that I was nursing). DP looked seriously confused about what was going on and why that was such a fuss and so I explained to him that a woman was forced to cover up while nursing on a flight and I thought maybe even kicked off for it, and she sued the airline, which she had every right to do. i added very loudly that it is illegal to force a woman to cover up while nursing and that you can offer a blanket but i don't have to use it. at this point the pilot said "oh hey, i don't have any problem with that, my wife did it 3 times (he said he had 3 kids) so you know, but its just such close quarters that i thought...." and that was the end of it. except that i felt awkward after that and kept trying to use the blanket to cover DS who was irritable and po'd. DP grabbed the blanket and rolled it up and put it under my elbow ! then he asked the flight attendant again for a pillow and she said "oh, you have to buy those. its 7$ for a blanket and pillow, that blanket was just a courtesy...."

a courtesy for who? thanks a lot us airways.
post #2 of 13
I dunno -- doesn't really sound bad to me. Are you angry with just the pilot or with the flight attendants too? To me it sounds like the flight attendants acted appropriately. And with the pilot's later comments it sounds like he was just (maybe somewhat misguidedly) trying to make sure you were comfortable since he was a stranger sitting very close to you while you were BFing. If you had refused the blanket, it doesn't sound (from what you posted of his demeanor) like he would have insisted that you cover up or anything.
post #3 of 13
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i never really sad it was bad, just weird. after the blanket issue i felt awkward about nursing without it and it made me uncomfortable, i think the flight attendant initially handled it just fine but i guess i was frustrated that they were more than happy to give me a free blanket i did not ask for to cover myself with for the comfort of the pilot but not offer me a free pillow for the comfort of myself and my nursing baby. it just seemed ironic.
post #4 of 13
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Originally Posted by kristinekristine View Post
i never really sad it was bad, just weird. after the blanket issue i felt awkward about nursing without it and it made me uncomfortable, i think the flight attendant initially handled it just fine but i guess i was frustrated that they were more than happy to give me a free blanket i did not ask for to cover myself with for the comfort of the pilot but not offer me a free pillow for the comfort of myself and my nursing baby. it just seemed ironic.

But as far as the flight attendant knows you did ask for it and the pilot was passing on your request because when she checked to make sure you were the one requesting the blanket you said you'd like one.

I'm sorry you felt awkward
post #5 of 13
So if you're nursing, you get blankets for free? I wonder how many you can get before they realize you're just handing them out and not using them to cover-up? :

or, more realistically, how long before someone gets charged for a blanket they don't give a rat's rearend about using.
post #6 of 13
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i guess i was frustrated that they were more than happy to give me a free blanket i did not ask for to cover myself with for the comfort of the pilot but not offer me a free pillow for the comfort of myself and my nursing baby. it just seemed ironic.

Yes, I can really see your point here.
post #7 of 13
I think that was all just weird.
But, US airways is just terrible terrible terrible. Always. i have never had or known anyone who has had a good experience on that carrier.
post #8 of 13
I guess the good news is that it sounds like someone is talking to flight attendants at US Airways about their protocol with BF moms, and it includes not forcing blanets for covering up, but providing a complimentary blanket if the mother requests one. It sounds like they haven't worked out the kinks yet, but they've had a discussion on the subject that contains some appropriate actions. I'll call that progress!
post #9 of 13
I don't know if I'd be comfy nursing in such close quarters. Maybe the pilot, even though his wife nursed, wasn't comfortable sitting next to you nursing. Let's face it, you really are almost always touching shoulders/arms with the person next to you.

Of course with breastfeeding, you don't always have a choice as to when and where!
post #10 of 13
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I don't know if I'd be comfy nursing in such close quarters. Maybe the pilot, even though his wife nursed, wasn't comfortable sitting next to you nursing. Let's face it, you really are almost always touching shoulders/arms with the person next to you.

Of course with breastfeeding, you don't always have a choice as to when and where!
dp was sitting between us but yeah i really had no other option for feeding my baby
post #11 of 13
Oh, well if dh were sitting between me and the person, I don't see why anyone would care?!
post #12 of 13
that is bizarre!
post #13 of 13
Hmmm... Sounds like she doesn't want to get in trouble for trying to illegally make you cover up, so she's checking that YOU are requesting the blanket and she's not pushing it on you. She doesn't want to be disciplined and sued. That's what she'd explain to the other attendant in private, I imagine. The not-in-service pilot is probably not aware of laws or anything. Sounds like he'd like you to be covered up, but once he saw there could be a legal issue, he wasn't going to press the issue. I don't think there's anything you could have done differently really. And I don't think they were particularly rude or anything, just awkward and unsure. Maybe it was recent training for them?
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