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Poll Results: How did the subject come up with the dad?

This is a multiple choice poll
  • 6% (9)
    I told him I didn't want to, and a big argument started.
  • 20% (26)
    I told him I didn't want to, and we disagreed briefly, but he came around.
  • 24% (32)
    I told him I didn't want to, and he agreed.
  • 2% (3)
    I asked him what he thought about it, and a big argument started.
  • 3% (4)
    I asked him what he thought about it, and we disagreed briefly, but he came around.
  • 13% (17)
    I asked him what he thought about it, and he agreed with me.
  • 0% (0)
    It came up at a Dr visit/lamaze class/LLL meeting/etc, and a big argument started.
  • 3% (4)
    It came up at a Dr visit/lamaze class/LLL meeting/etc, and we disagreed briefly, but he came around.
  • 0% (1)
    It came up at a Dr visit/lamaze class/LLL meeting/etc, and he agreed.
  • 0% (1)
    He brought it up, and a big argument started.
  • 0% (0)
    He brought it up, and we disagreed briefly, but he came around.
  • 0% (1)
    He brought it up, and he agreed.
  • 2% (3)
    We never really discussed it, I just decided and saw no reason to talk about it.
  • 10% (14)
    The daddy is an intactivist.
  • 11% (15)
    other
130 Total Votes  
post #41 of 50
our 3 year old is circ'd.

we UP'd for ds2. we wanted a UC but ended up transfering. we had a circ discussion while i was pregnant. we looked at both sides and hadn't really made a decision. (the biggest "yes" argument was so he could look like daddy and brother.) when we got to the hospital, they asked us if he was a boy (we still didn't know) if he was going to be circ'd. we didn't really answer because we hadn't decided so the nurse said she would ask again later. she never asked so our mind was made up for us. he's not circ'd.

any future boys will not be either.
post #42 of 50
I asked DH what he thought and we had an argument. We don't even have a boy and aren't ttc for at least 4 months so we agreed to shelve the argument (little does he know there is no way I am chopping off any part of any kid's body and will not let this drop) until we know for sure we are having a boy.
post #43 of 50
I told DH I didn't want to. We did a little (15 minutes) of research together and he agreed. Since then I have become much more vocal about it and he is happy we didn't circ DS, but doesn't understand my passion for the issue.
post #44 of 50
I told DH there was no way I would allow anyone to cut a piece off of my child's body. I told him that if he did the same kind of research for his side of it that I had for my side I would at least sit and listen to his reasons. He never came up with anything other than, "I don't him to be made fun of in the locker room" The two things that made him come around to agree with me were 1. Our doctor telling him it was uneccesary and he does not recommend routine circumsion. and 2. Seeing the board that they strap the newborn to in the hospital to perform the circ. That freaked him out.
post #45 of 50
DH was circ'd for religious reasons. We are not religious. We had a HUMONGOUS blow-out fight that lasted for like a month. He actually cried. It was bad. I got all the usual "want him to look like me" "what about the locker room" "everyone else is circ'd" crap from him. He refused to look at any info and only half heard anything I told him. He seemed to take my anti-circ stance personally, as if I was rejecting him because he was cut.

Eventually, he came around and accepted that I wasn't saying anything bad about him or his parents' choice (that was a lie) and agreed to keep DS intact. He says he's happy we kept him intact, but the mood in the room still gets a little tense whenever the subject comes up.
post #46 of 50
My DP is the oldest of 4 circumcised boys (if you can call them that). His mother was against circumcising, but his father insisted that his sons just had to look like him. They totally botched DP's circ and only partially removed the foreskin, and the peds told his mom it was fine and would heal eventually on it's own (this also happened with one of his brothers). So he spent the first 10 years of his life rubbing it (because it itched, he says) until the partially-intact piece of foreskin came off. He is, what I consider "partially circumcised". His penis doesn't look like a typical circ'ed penis, but it doesn't look like a typical uncirc'ed one either. Because of this (and the COMPLETE lack of necessity to butcher part of our child's body routinely),we immediately agreed that if we had a boy (we are expecting one in a few weeks here), he will NOT have his penis touched!
My parents and his dad think we are crazy and are doing a major injustice to our son. Ignorance.
post #47 of 50
As soon as we found out this baby was a boy, I went and looked at the information that I had leftover from my Bradley class last pregnancy (at that time, we knew the baby was a girl so I didn't pay too much attention) and there was a strong suggestion to watch one being performed- one quick trip to youtube and I was sweating and feeling ill and told DH I did NOT want that to happen to our son. I don't think he had strong feelings one way or the other, but then we watched the Penn & Teller Bullsh*t episode about circ together and that totally made sense to him.
My father, who I expected opposition from, was thrilled that we are leaving his grandson intact- apparently he attended a bris and pronounced the idea of circ "barbaric" after witnessing it. He told me, "I can't tell you how happy I am to know that my grandson will not have that done to him." :
post #48 of 50
Am I reading this wrong, or do all the options assume that the mom is against circumcision from the start?

My husband told me he was against circumcision and why, and I came to agree with him. Is that an option?
post #49 of 50
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by RubyWild View Post
Am I reading this wrong, or do all the options assume that the mom is against circumcision from the start?

My husband told me he was against circumcision and why, and I came to agree with him. Is that an option?
That would be "the daddy is an intactivist."

Sorry there aren't more option, but the limit on surveys if 15.
post #50 of 50
My son's father was very defensive when I brought it up and he was adamant that it was the right thing to do. I gave him the chapter of Women's Bodies Women's Wisdom about circumcision to read and he didn't even finish it before he handed the book back and said, "okay I agree. No circ for the baby if it's a boy." I was so relieved that it was that easy to convince him. He really just didn't know anything about the subject except that he'd been circ'd and since it worked for him....
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