What is your 6 year old like? - Page 2

[Viola]

Originally Posted by transformed

Not to hijack but the tricky thing that I have found is that just because I stop responding - that doesnt mean my dh, mom, dad, teachers, in laws, and others close to us stop...

So then what?

It continues.

Well, that is what I explain to her over and over and over again. And she's not happy when people don't like her behavior, but I just explain why that is. I hope one day she'll get it.

[transformed]

Originally Posted by Viola

Well, that is what I explain to her over and over and over again. And she's not happy when people don't like her behavior, but I just explain why that is. I hope one day she'll get it.

so I always think...and perhaps am Right...people dont like ME because of his behavior.

[MandyB]

Whew! It's good to hear I don't have the only 6 year old that can go from being a total sweetheart to acting like a complete monster in a matter of seconds. My son is the same way, although it's mostly just at home and around either US, or at Gramma and Grampa's house. When he gets in these moods, I feel like I'm at such a loss on how to get him OUT of them without giving him his way and letting him think it's okay for him to act that way when he's upset. He will be very disrespectful and cry, scream, hit, kick (or pull out his "ninja" moves as he would say) when he gets set off. This sounds terrible, but sometimes it is just SO tiring and I end up giving into him just so he WILL chill out.

We're also dealing a lot these days with him simply "tuning us out". I can tell him 26 times to come to the dinner table, or brush his teeth, and it's like I'm not even talking until I threaten to take something away from him! Ugh!

I have to say though, when he ISN'T in these terrible moods, he's the sweetest, smartest, most compassionate little 6 year old boy I know! He's great at other people's homes, very polite and considerate. He just saves it all up for us!

[ThreeJane]

Mine is six going on sixteen.

Very similar to the OP who said whiny, mean, complaining, woe is me, nothing is good enough MESS.

If her shoes are untied, it's good for ten minutes of wailing.

If her sister's piece of cake is .00005 millimeters larger than hers, she's in hysterics.

If I want her to wear a skirt and she has deemed it will not be so, there will be murder.

She is EXHAUSTING. Thank God her sister will be four in a few weeks, so I don't have more than one doing "the rule of three".

Although my 11 year is a whole 'nother story...the drama, the arguing, the fighting, the bullying, the talking back, the crying, the hurt feelings, the huge sigh of impatience and eye roll when asked to do *anything* around the house...I'm about to lose my freakin' mind.

[MAMom]

Commiserating...

The book "Your Six Year Old" has helped me understand some of the fun (ha!) 6-year old behavior.

Also, "Kids, Parents and Power Struggles".

[Viola]

Originally Posted by transformed

so I always think...and perhaps am Right...people dont like ME because of his behavior.

Oh, I'm sure that happens. And I have been with friends and I think they just didn't agree with how I handled things, and they'd jump right in every time my first child moved.

I was just thinking more of the situations when I am not around, like school. She has to kind of negotiate some of those interactions without me.

I will admit that when I am in public with my children, I feel more pressured to come down harder or remove them from the situation more quickly if they are acting in ways I find embarrassing. Although, I can't recall my 5 year old having a real meltdown in public for a long time. More of the stuff that goes on is her having issues with me and yelling at me, but she's gotten quiet about it. Like she'll come up and whisper or mutter at me.