Back OFF lady! - Page 2

[baglady]

I just wanted to say congratulations on holding your temper. I would not have.

From what you described, I can't imagine any of the other mothers are to keen on inviting this lady back.

[Funny Face]

Originally Posted by frontierpsych

Wow, if you bring your daughter over to her house she will teach her how to be an intrusive annoying woman? Nice.

Originally Posted by Youngfrankenstein

I just love it when people think they are going to re-educated, "fix" and teach your kids a lesson to make up for all of the horrible things you're not doing as their parent!

You should have thanked her profusely for saving your child a lifetime of bad parenting in one morning!

This is so annoying. She wasn't the first person I've felt was trying to save my child from my 'lax parenting standards' but she was definitely the worst.

Dd was the best behaved child that day too (not saying she is in general ) but that day we didn't have any problems and she was very kind and friendly to the other girls, so I'm not sure why she decided to pick us apart, except that it seems she had a compulsion to do so.

Originally Posted by NiteNicole

I don't have any problem saying something like "I have it under control over here" or "why don't you step away and let that that mom deal with her own child in her own way, you're not helping." Say it loud enough for everyone to hear, in a nice voice, with a smile and other people will follow your example.

I was very close to saying something but it was seriously chaos. The child was screaming, the mom was trying to yell over her and the other lady was trying to talk over them too. That and the fact that we were all holding babies and the other children were staring on made it quite a scene. I felt like I was just going to further overwhelm mom and child.

I think that mom plans on getting together with this woman again next week. I guess some people don't have the same reaction to overstepped boundaries. I seriously doubt I'll be going back.

I guess I'll keep looking. Dd has pretty much NO contact with other children and she needs to be able to be around other kiddos. I hope to find a good fit eventually, right now I just sit there and think "How on earth did I get here?! This is not my life!" it's like a Twilight Zone Playdate. :

[LavenderMae]

There would have been nothing wrong with you politely telling her to back off. She needs to hear it in fact. I don't know if I could have held my tongue and I am extremely introverted and hate confrontation but I think that woman would have pushed me a bit too far. :

[Norasmomma]

This is why I don't go to mom's groups.

I just had an incident yesterday with a woman who I used to go to mom's group with and I have seen her around town, her DD is about 6 months younger than mine. anyway her DD is a very quiet, reserved child and will just stand near her mom all the time in public. My DD is a firecracker who can't hardly sit still for 5 minutes, she is just a go-go kid. Well we had finished shopping and DD had to go to the bathroom, so we had to go back into the store. I was hungry and thought it might be nice to get a treat at the deli. The woman was waiting with her very patient DD and my DD started just doing her typical 3 y/o old needing a nap flop fest....this lady then proceeded to tell me that the reason her DD is like that in the store is because she is soooooo strict with how one behaves in the store-gimmee a break. Everyone in town can see the difference is these kids are from practically different planets energy wise. I have a "spirited" extrovert who is waiting for any moment to show off for everyone-that's her personality. This woman has a quiet child who obviously is not that way....we left while DD was starting to have a tantrum, it must be my sh*tty parenting that brought that on, and not the fact that she was in need of nap. so annoying.

[MoonStarFalling]

I would have told her off and then left or ignored her if possible. I hate people who step right in and parent even though you're standing right there. I can't say I've ever run into anyone as rude as this lady though.

I do scheduled playdates all the time. We have a wonderful local AP meet up group and I've never once had a negative experience. There are good groups, keep looking.

[Green Eyes]

One word for the rude woman: insecure.

I've got to admit, I find it extremely amusing when people act like that. I like to sit back and observe - makes for some great stories! Like one of the moms in my daughter's Brownie troop, who never acknowledged me or said "hello" back to me for two years... at our daughters' advancement ceremony she came up to my husband (ignoring me), introduced herself, and started talking about when she was in high school and listing all the slang words that she knew for vagina!

Don't let the rude woman take the play group away from you and your daughter, that's not fair! I would go and ignore everything she says, if she makes a comment directed at you, act like you don't understand the language, just give her a blank look and go about your business.

[ckmannel]

Originally Posted by childsplay

(and when I say best kids, I mean it, I've met some doozies of parents who's kids never cry, throw tantrums, ask for anything, get dirty, who's kids sleep 20 hours of the day, never poop-especially in public God forbid......)

[SandraS]

Reason #629 why I never do playdates...

[pauletoy]

Sounds like she needs to be told to STFU. JK

I never know how to respond in these situations.

[sapphire_chan]

Having been the obnoxious pushy UAV, tell her privately as soon as possible "let people parent their own kids. Please think before you step in or make remarks."

If she's basically good, but clueless, you'll see her really rein herself in and you should thank her in private and continue to invite her to playdates.

If she's just a domineering UAV, she'll keep it up and maybe even make some rude remarks about you to the other moms. In that case, when you host, don't invite her and if she's at someone else's house just answer any of that behavior with "ChildY is MomX's kid, leave her alone."

Oh. Nvm. I replied after reading only the first 2 paragraphs.

"Whose house should we visit so that DD learns not to be an interfering busy body who needs to STFU?" :

[medicmama]

Originally Posted by pauletoy

Sounds like she needs to be told to STFU. JK

I never know how to respond in these situations.

exactly!

How did you not tag her in the head? Sorry not a good example for the kids but i've been known to be agressive.

[Evergreen]

Ughh. I would imagine that the other moms would be just as annoyed as you and start trying to schedule events without her knowledge. Then you updated. Ugh.