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post #61 of 125
My older dd, who understands the difference, has paper taped to the walls surrounding her bunk bed so that she can draw there.

My younger dd is only allowed to color on paper on the floor or on an easel. The paper around her sister's bed it too high up for her to see.
post #62 of 125
Nooooo way, definitely not. It may be their rooms, but I'm the one who has to scrub/wash/prime/repaint. Writing and drawing on the walls, floors, fabrics, etc. is just not, NOT allowed.

Stickers I'm a little more lax about because they are not really a huge deal to remove. I don't promote or encourage them to stick stickers anywhere but on themselves and paper, but if someone sticks one on a window or a wall I don't go nuts either. I just peel it off later.
post #63 of 125
Not in this lifetime.
post #64 of 125
I don't let her color on the walls, but she has lots of available space to express herself (we have chalk for outside and she can draw on pretty much anything with that. We have a MASSIVE mesh saftey fence around the pool that is a perfect canvas with tons and tons of space). When she's old enough to want to take on PLANNING to paing on her walls, I'm open to it.
post #65 of 125
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Originally Posted by 1growingsprout View Post
Really?? you must live in a city with out graffiti issues then
Hardly. My city is covered, and I mean covered, with graffiti. Some of it is gorgeous, but most of it is ugly and I wish it would go away. My point was that the only similarity to drawing on the walls of the inside of your own bedroom (with permission from the owners) and scrawling graffiti across the walls of buildings that do not belong to you and upon which it is unwanted is the fact that walls are involved. I don't let my kids draw on their walls, but I have faith that if I did my kids would be smart enough to know the difference between their walls and someone else's and doing something with permission and doing the same thing without permission by the time they're old enough to be out and about unsupervised. It's sort of like saying that if I let my kids fold down the corner of a book to mark their place rather than using a bookmark, they might go to the library and rip up all their books. Or if I let my son pee behind a bush in the back yard in an emergency, he'll be dropping trou' in the middle of the street when he's 30 because he doesn't feel like walking to the bathroom.
post #66 of 125
I won't have a problem with my daughter decorating her room as she sees fit. Painting is not that expensive and not that hard. I've done a *lot* of painting in my life and even though I don't like it, it's worthwhile to me to allow my daughter the freedom to explore the world and alter it to suit her personality. But then again the walls in my house are: royal purple, dark dark blue/purple, green, raspberry, sky blue, and navy. And it's a small house.

We intend to put up chalkboard paint and whiteboard paint in the playroom on some of the walls. I think that using tons and tons and tons of paper to scribble on is incredibly wasteful and unnecessary. I'm pretty hardcore about not wanting to produce a bunch of stupid trash.

Besides, there are a few computer scientists who have said that one of the best things their parents ever did for them was to allow them to paint and draw on their rooms because they did complex math equations and sat there and stared at them during their teen years. If some of the most brilliant minds I have ever heard of think that being able to express themselves this way was instrumental then I'm absolutely willing to give it a shot.
post #67 of 125
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I won't have a problem with my daughter decorating her room as she sees fit. Painting is not that expensive and not that hard. I've done a *lot* of painting in my life and even though I don't like it, it's worthwhile to me to allow my daughter the freedom to explore the world and alter it to suit her personality. But then again the walls in my house are: purple, dark dark blue, green, raspberry, sky blue, and navy. And it's a small house.

We intend to put up chalkboard paint and whiteboard paint in the playroom on some of the walls. I think that using tons and tons and tons of paper to scribble on is incredibly wasteful and unnecessary. I'm pretty hardcore about not wanting to produce a bunch of stupid trash.

Besides, there are a few computer scientists who have said that one of the best things their parents ever did for them was to allow them to paint and draw on their rooms because they did complex math equations and sat there and stared at them during their teen years. If some of the most brilliant minds I have ever heard of think that being able to express themselves this way was instrumental then I'm absolutely willing to give it a shot.
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post #68 of 125
I should note that I'm living in an apartment.
post #69 of 125
I should also note that if you are in a rental then I understand that it is a totally different situation.
post #70 of 125
No way.
post #71 of 125
as a toddler no, as a teenager probably yeah. One of my best friends when I was a teen had a room where there was stuff written, drawn and painted all over the walls of her room. Done by herself and her friends. It was so cool. So I would probably let my teen do it, with the express understanding that they are helping me repaint when they move out. My friend was in college across the country when her mom sold her house so I'm sure that room was a nightmare for her to repaint, but her room is one of my best teenage memories.
post #72 of 125
Heck no!

They do have a say in what gets taped or hung up, though.
post #73 of 125
Nope, because we plan to sell our house soon. When we get a new house, still nope, because it will be a new house!
post #74 of 125
Nope. Art is on paper only with a 2 year old
post #75 of 125
Absolutely not at the moment, but I might when they are teens. Right now we are in a rental, and I want them to know that art has a place, on papers or canvas, etc. They are allowed to put stickers on their beds and we have large papers and canvases for them to paint/color/draw on.
post #76 of 125
No, they can draw on paper and hang the artwork. When we move (next month), I'll be hanging twine criss-cross in a pattern on one of the walls of the kids' rooms with clippies so they can hang their artwork.

(however, I did find out that waterpaints and washable markers do come off with soapy water...so if I want to do a mural, I may use that method. We rent.)
post #77 of 125
in the last 2 days the boys have colored the entire front of my white dishwasher. i don't mind tho. the pride that they felt having accomplished something together, on their own, with no guidance, and a strong mutual desire to just create on what they saw as a blank canvas inspired me to just tell them how awesome their art was and leave it at that.

on top of that, i feel like the things in our house, including the walls, are just things. i want them to know that i value their creativity, and their achievements, much much more than any material thing. whether i think of them as actual "achievements" or not doesn't matter, because they certainly do. i am a renter. but i know that i have to paint all of our walls before we move out anyway. i also don't buy new furniture, or alot of glossy nice stuff in general because i don't come from a mindset of "these are my nice things, look how nice they are." that said... they really don't show a strong desire to color the walls, much.

my children value each other, us, our pets, our friends and family. my older son shows tremendous respect for others pretty much always. and tho he doesn't say it, i think he somehow intuitively knows that by respecting someone you must also respect their attachments, even if you don't have the same attachments. i know whole-heartedly that my son would never go to someone else's house and color on their walls or their dishwasher. he would probably, knowing him and the way he operates, say something like, "i colored my dishwasher and its awesome. do you want me to color yours?" if he felt inclined. but that's even a stretch, because he really understands the difference between being at home with your family and the boundaries there and being around others and having to learn their boundaries before encroaching your own wants upon them. he knows that our household is basically a free place, and that other places are not so free and you have to abide by that and that's just how it is...

i don't think its something you have to teach them. they take it upon themselves to observe it. pretty early on to, as i see my youngest forming the same public habits.

i also agree with the waste aspect of all that paper...

and i strongly disagree that coloring the walls leads to graffiti... i know alot of graffiti artists. alot. and of all of them, i know 2 of their mothers. and their mothers would be mortified to have something drawn on their wall. a graffiti artist usually comes from a background of alot of hindered creativity, rebellious spirit in general, and an almost eerie compulsion close to exhibitionism. out and out vandalism, tagging, etc... not talking about graffiti art but just defacing property for the sake of being bad... that comes from a whole other set of issues. i don't think one single person on mothering.com has to worry about raising a criminal. we are giving our children the foundation for a successful adulthood. whether that foundation consists of wall coloring or not.
post #78 of 125
Not this house--we rent. When we owned, Erica painted a mural on her and Angela's bedroom wall.
post #79 of 125
Nu-uh, no way. For me, (and this is just me, I don't care what you do) it's a matter of respect. You respect your surroundings and drawing on the walls is not what I want to teach my kids.
post #80 of 125
Why would I let my children draw on their walls? That's defacing property. They are, however, allowed to decorate their rooms pretty much any way they want, providing it doesn't permanently ruin anything.

And it's their rooms? True, but I pay the rent and I will have to pay for painting it when we move, if the walls are all covered with writing.
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