Queer & Pregnant! Aug., Sept., Oct. 2009 - Page 5

[carmen358]

Raene. I'm glad you're feeling better emotionally. I know it's so much more than being tired but sometimes a good sleep really does give you a new perspective on things. Sending good birth vibes your way!!

[carmen358]

I'm just about at 22 weeks and I can't believe how fast time is flying by now!! Eeeeeek! We have our next m/w appointment next week and will be attending their home birth info night in early September. Can't believe we're planning that part already. I didn't hear back from the m/w about my u/s so I'm assuming everything is fine and that we'll hear some more details next week. She said she would call only if there were any concerns.

The little one is kicking up a storm on a regular basis and I'm really enjoying it DP can feel it sometimes when she puts her ear/cheek against me. There have been a few hard kicks that I thought I could feel on the outside but since there were no other witnesses I'm not sure...

I hope everyone is doing well and enjoying the last days of summer!!

Eagerly awaiting a birth announcement, Raene!

[Raene]

That's exciting, Carmen! All the kicks and stuff...it's so reassuring.

Still no birth announcement here. Last night I was playing cards in bed with DP and the contractions were so strong I had to stop and walk around. At one point I thought...omg, can I really do this again? My contractions go from not happening to HUGELY intense...there's no in-between...and I'm such a wimp.

But then when I questioned myself, they went away. Boy was that disappointing! Shouldn't question myself I suppose.

Took a long walk this morning with DD and the contractions started up again but they fizzle out when I stop walking, so I guess they're nothing really. Ahh well...soon I hope.

[indigoscot]

wazzmum and raene any news!!!?! i'm hoping your lack of posting means you're either having or have had your babes.

from the july ddc:

QTRANDI
Baby Boy: Rudy
Born: Tuesday, July 7, 7:20-ish am
Birth Stats: 7 lb 4 oz
21 inches long

afu, we are 20 weeks tomorrow! dp is still throwing up occasionally but for the most part her m/s is gone. she's been eating a lot of protein too, yay!

g

[Raene]

Happy 20 Weeks, Indigo!!

No, no baby here. I've basically given up. Tried every natural thing, acupuncture Friday, Reiki yesterday...and just...nothing. I'm 41 weeks today and feeling really upset about this. I wish I was patient and calm, but I'm not. I'm freaking out, actually. Castor oil is the one thing I haven't resorted to and it sounds terrible...but I think come tomorrow morning I will go that route.

We're off to the mall for lots of walking.

Wazzmum, any news? You guys will probably have yours before I do.

[wazzmum]

happy 20 weeks indigo! that's super exciting to be half way there!

we're with raene in the no baby yet boat. dp is due thursday so really any day! i feel like it could be soon but it could be wishful thinking. tomorrow morning dp goes back to have another foot reflexology massage, she said it was very relaxing and her reflexologist has good intuition about going into labor. i'm looking forward to hearing what she says tomorrow!

we just finished making scalini's eggplant parm!! it's extra spicy tonight.

thanks for thinking of us - we are hanging in there. this waiting is so hard! we really want to meet our baby before dp's parents visit for 2 weeks. then we have a 4 day break before mine come for 2 weeks! we're enjoying the calm before the parents!

raene, i really hope you are holding your baby soon! your midwife doesn't work with anyone else who would sweep your membranes? would dp try? how will you take the castor oil? good luck with that if you decide to try it.

soon soon soon! i'll be sure to keep everyone updated.

[carmen358]

Originally Posted by Raene

Happy 20 Weeks, Indigo!!

No, no baby here. I've basically given up. Tried every natural thing, acupuncture Friday, Reiki yesterday...and just...nothing. I'm 41 weeks today and feeling really upset about this. I wish I was patient and calm, but I'm not. I'm freaking out, actually. Castor oil is the one thing I haven't resorted to and it sounds terrible...but I think come tomorrow morning I will go that route.

We're off to the mall for lots of walking.

Wazzmum, any news? You guys will probably have yours before I do.

I know you've probably heard this already and it means nothing but a friend of mine had her son 3 weeks late in January and just had to wait. I hope you don't have to wait that long and I'm sure he/she will come when they're ready Hang in there! (easy for me to say, isn't it!? )

Happy 20 weeks, indigo

wazzmum, wow, you are there too! Good birth vibes your way too!

[kjm]

indigo--welcome to the 1/2 way point!! Its feels so good!!

raene & wazz--those babies are hanging in there, but soon, so very soon, they will be in your arms


carmen-- I'm right there with you, sooo much movement its crazy!! finally yesterday kiddo moved up a bit--phhheww I've felt like the Liberty Bell for the last few weeks, either a foot or hand had been ringing my pubic bones for a while, but alas--finally some relief as my uterus expanded.

are we the only 5 left?? where is everybody??

Jodybird?? Travelgirlz? baby.fatty? Scalpel? basje? and others????

and what about you newbies?? Kimlyn??? hbog?

[starling&diesel]

Originally Posted by Raene

Happy 20 Weeks, Indigo!!

No, no baby here. I've basically given up. Tried every natural thing, acupuncture Friday, Reiki yesterday...and just...nothing. I'm 41 weeks today and feeling really upset about this. I wish I was patient and calm, but I'm not. I'm freaking out, actually. Castor oil is the one thing I haven't resorted to and it sounds terrible...but I think come tomorrow morning I will go that route.

We're off to the mall for lots of walking.

Wazzmum, any news? You guys will probably have yours before I do.

Hi everyone! I've been dropping in to check in on you all ... great to see such good news all around.

Raene ...
Have you tried verbena oil? That's what our MW gave us to induce and it worked like a hot dam! (What is a hot dam anyway ...). I took 5 drops in juice every few hours if I remember correctly. It was meant to be a cocktail of apricot juice, verbena oil and castor oil, but I didn't need the castor oil as my bowels were already ahead of the game, so to speak.
Good luck, mama! You'll be holding that wee'un soon!

[starling&diesel]

Raene ... I found a post where I shared this before. Here are the details on the cocktail. I was 38 weeks and had to be induced due to pre-e ... this worked overnight and I had my natural labour and delivery the next day!



LABOUR TEA
2 cups water
1 part cinnamon
5 parts clove
tonnes of chopped ginger

Boil for 30 minutes, remove from heat and add 3 drops of VERBENA essential oil.
Makes two cups

LABOUR COCKTAIL
2 tbs almond butter
2 tbs castor oil
blend with 300ml water
5 drops verbena (0.1ml)
200 ml apricot juice
drink quickly (within half an hour)

Leave out the castor oil if you want. I did, and it still worked!

[hbog]

Still here. Although, aside from the weight gain around the middle and the constant peeing I don't feel very pregnant at all. I'm not even feeling very nauseous any more, which worries me. I'm sure those of you who have puked for months straight are feeling all kinds of sympathy for me!
I'm nine weeks tomorrow. . . we still haven't told anybody but the girls.

[basje]

Originally Posted by kjm

indigo--welcome to the 1/2 way point!! Its feels so good!!

raene & wazz--those babies are hanging in there, but soon, so very soon, they will be in your arms


carmen-- I'm right there with you, sooo much movement its crazy!! finally yesterday kiddo moved up a bit--phhheww I've felt like the Liberty Bell for the last few weeks, either a foot or hand had been ringing my pubic bones for a while, but alas--finally some relief as my uterus expanded.

are we the only 5 left?? where is everybody??

Jodybird?? Travelgirlz? baby.fatty? Scalpel? basje? and others????

and what about you newbies?? Kimlyn??? hbog?

I'm here, just having a hard time keeping up with this long thread. Just managed to slide into the second trimester and feeling pretty good (finally). I've been enjoying my due date club forum but am reminded sometimes of how different most of are experinces are when I read the posts about the problems with their husbands being insenstive or not having the option of having the birth they want because their husbands don't agree. It makes me really greatful that I get to have this pregnancy be about me, without having to deal with anybody else!

That said, I get some strange reactions from people in person when they find out I'll be a single mother. True the pregancy was unplanned but I'm looking forward to the whole experince, and really don't know how to respond to the pity filled comments I'm getting. I'm a queer lady- I was never going to have a "normal" family structure... I just happened to save a bunch of money on sperm with some inconvient timing.

On the other hand, I don't feel like I fit in with the lezzi's online much either. I didn't have to do donor interviews, or pick somebody who looks like my girlfriend or spend eight months ttc. I haven't had a "lesbian parenting" experience at all. It's strange not to fit, and odd that I feel like I have more in common with the single straight woman who decides to have a kid on her own. Maybe once the baby is here or when I start dating again I feel like more of the queer parenting community, I hope so, but maybe not.

It's really strange to think about dating, and I can't really imagine going out to the bars or clubs (the way to meet people where I'm living now) as I am starting to show. Also because I did get pregnant on accident (drunken whoops with a male friend and the first bio boy I've slept with since I was 17) I notice a lot more bi-phobia from women I do meet. Although this incident has confirmed that I am really not interested in any other heterosexual experinces, others seem to find my claim still being a lesbian untrue. First off the bi-phobia is a real turn off in a potential partner anyway (biggotry just isn't hot) but I just didn't see this one coming.

[kjm]

Basje, Hbog Thanks for checking in!!

Hbog-- I am impressed with you abilities to keep it al such a secret. You are good

Basje--I hear ya on the not fitting in stuff, though our situations are very different. I started poking around on the Single Ma forum, but I didn't feel at home their either. I am dating, I have a partner but zhe's been clear from Day 1 --this is my kid NOT hirs!! I feel like I am infinatley clarifying things with people. Especially the hets---they keep putting in such a great concerted effort to congratulate BOTH of us--I keep want to be like "eeehhmm I'm the one having MY baby" but I know they are trying NOT to be all homophobic and dismissive of the "other mommy" which couldn't be further from our truth. Its NOT easy creating new Queer family models.

And as for dating--I am so fricken tired all the time I feel like I would have to be fortunate enough to find a new partner in my living room when I get off work to expand my bedfellowship!! I actually went out this weekend and was out until--get this---10:30pm!! but after the performance (which was attended by 3 out of the 4 people I've slept with this year) I was too tired to flirt!! One of my former flings did get a thrill out of feeling the foot protruding from my belly--and even then, as she was putty in my hands I dismissed myself and began my jorney home--ugghh such a square! HA!!

[jodybird511]

I'm still here too. Just been lurking lately, as I've been really busy trying to get things done before these last 6 weeks creep up on me. Also been SUPER tired again--feel like I'm back to the first trimester with the fatigue and the incredible frequency of peeing! I go back to the perinatologist on Friday for another growth ultrasound. The GD management has been going well--only a few numbers per week that are out of range. However, I've started gaining weight again now, so I'll be interested to see how big the bambino is on Friday.

We are nesting like crazy in our house (as well as in my office!). I'm a private practice psychologist, so I have a TON of things to get done before I take off for maternity leave. Ahhhhh!!!!

[indigoscot]

we had our big 20 week u/s today and we are having....another BOY !!! he is healthy and measuring a week ahead (like big brother) and has big wide feet (also like big brother). dp has a marginal placenta previa so we have to get another u/s later on. the tech was pretty sure it would move.

we are so excited about having another son!!

g

[wazzmum]

congrats indigo on your little boy! that's so exciting!!

i just read in the august ddc that raene had her daughter! the birth went well but her daughter is in the nicu with some problems. let's all send raene our wishes for a healthy baby. thinking of you and your family, raene.

[kjm]

indigo--yay! congrats of your healthy baby boy

wazzmum--thanks for the info on Raene, I posted for her on the DDC

jody--good luck getting everything done in time (eeeek) and congrats for keeping the GD manageable

[starling&diesel]

Praying for Raene and Cedar and the whole family ... ... may wee Cedar thrive and flourish!

[carmen358]

Originally Posted by indigoscot

we had our big 20 week u/s today and we are having....another BOY !!! he is healthy and measuring a week ahead (like big brother) and has big wide feet (also like big brother). dp has a marginal placenta previa so we have to get another u/s later on. the tech was pretty sure it would move.

we are so excited about having another son!!

g

Congratulations, indigo!! I'm glad everything looked healthy Still lots of time for the placenta to move from what I've read/heard.

[jodybird511]

I agree with Carmen...mine moved by 30 weeks. My doc said that most that are marginal do! Good luck, Indigo!

Also praying for Raene and Cedar!