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Originally Posted by dislocator3972 View Post
Can anyone please remind me WHY IN THE WORLD I thought it would be a good idea to move to Alaska right before having my first child?

I know lots of people are native Alaskans, but for those of you that aren't:
How do you handle being so far away from family, friends, etc?

Obviously, there are people to be friends with in Alaska, and so far everyone I've met has just been amazing, you guys are awesome, but I just feel so isolated. Maybe that's a PP thing?
I think what you are feeling is quite common, both in a new to Alaska perspective and a new to motherhood perspective.

We are pretty isolated up here. We do lots of video chat and pictures with our family (the only family I have up here is my mother and I rarely see her) and lots of phone calls.

I have a few friends that I'm really close with. I really miss Fairbanks, where my long term friends were, but the longer we are here, I slowly make more good friends. I suspect you'll slowly make them as well. I'm starting to meet some of the mama's from here IRL, and so far, each of them has been awesome.

Can you go to LLL meetings? That really helped me when my babe was very little. I was very overwhelmed... I was struggling with breastfeeding and had nobody to turn to... as no one I knew breastfed, so I was very alone. Through LLL I made some great friendships (and they even steered me to mothering.. where I found folks I already knew... but was able to develop great friendships with (like miss Penelope ).

((hugs))
post #262 of 271
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Originally Posted by dislocator3972 View Post
Can anyone please remind me WHY IN THE WORLD I thought it would be a good idea to move to Alaska right before having my first child?

I know lots of people are native Alaskans, but for those of you that aren't:
How do you handle being so far away from family, friends, etc?

Obviously, there are people to be friends with in Alaska, and so far everyone I've met has just been amazing, you guys are awesome, but I just feel so isolated. Maybe that's a PP thing?
It is hard up here, being so far from family. But your friends will become your family, that's how it is up here. And the cool thing about that is that they are your friends, you chose to be friends with them so obviously you like each other. Not always so with family .

After I had my first, I realized how much support I was going to need so I started going to infant playgroups and made some great friends who were in the same place as I was-brand new baby, all alone....Next thing I knew, we were spending Christmas together!

Hang in there!
post #263 of 271
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Originally Posted by dislocator3972 View Post
Can anyone please remind me WHY IN THE WORLD I thought it would be a good idea to move to Alaska right before having my first child?

I know lots of people are native Alaskans, but for those of you that aren't:
How do you handle being so far away from family, friends, etc?

Obviously, there are people to be friends with in Alaska, and so far everyone I've met has just been amazing, you guys are awesome, but I just feel so isolated. Maybe that's a PP thing?
I moved up here one year exactly before I had my first child. I hardly had met anyone during that year even though I was working. I was actually fired from one job after two months, the day before I would qualify for health insurance. The reason they gave me: 'cultural differences' and they thought I may not respect my elders. I just don't think I fit in anywhere. The last job I had the manager told me I was a liar and couldn't be trusted because I did not tell the owner I was pregnant on the day they hired me. I didn't tell them until I was 5 months along and I was certain I wasn't going to miscarry as I had the only other time I'd ever been pregnant which was 10 years prior. I told the manager why I withheld that information and she insisted I couldn't be trusted. Both of these bosses were women and I'm not sure if that is the reason or if they were just both very mean people and I was unlucky enough to work for them.

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Originally Posted by Icequeen_in_ak View Post
I think what you are feeling is quite common, both in a new to Alaska perspective and a new to motherhood perspective.

We are pretty isolated up here. We do lots of video chat and pictures with our family (the only family I have up here is my mother and I rarely see her) and lots of phone calls.

I have a few friends that I'm really close with. I really miss Fairbanks, where my long term friends were, but the longer we are here, I slowly make more good friends. I suspect you'll slowly make them as well. I'm starting to meet some of the mama's from here IRL, and so far, each of them has been awesome.

Can you go to LLL meetings? That really helped me when my babe was very little. I was very overwhelmed... I was struggling with breastfeeding and had nobody to turn to... as no one I knew breastfed, so I was very alone. Through LLL I made some great friendships (and they even steered me to mothering.. where I found folks I already knew... but was able to develop great friendships with (like miss Penelope ).

((hugs))

I did attend LLL meetings and the Providence cuddlers and cruisers play groups. I even went to a couple play groups in mom's homes. I am not in contact with any of the people I met through those groups, except one woman who I ocassionally talk to on the phone. We never meet up because of our different socio-economic status. She wants to meet places that require I spend money and would require I have a second vehicle. I am an introvert so it's difficult for me to really get close to people and my lifestyle change of becoming a mom in my 30's was isolating for me as well as having just moved to this state. I also am quite embarrassed to have anyone come to my home. I wouldn't be able to even think about the visitor for fear they are disgusted by my home.
post #264 of 271
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Originally Posted by dislocator3972 View Post
Can anyone please remind me WHY IN THE WORLD I thought it would be a good idea to move to Alaska right before having my first child?

I know lots of people are native Alaskans, but for those of you that aren't:
How do you handle being so far away from family, friends, etc?

Obviously, there are people to be friends with in Alaska, and so far everyone I've met has just been amazing, you guys are awesome, but I just feel so isolated. Maybe that's a PP thing?
Just wanted to send a
post #265 of 271
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Originally Posted by ~Purity♥Lake~ View Post
I moved up here one year exactly before I had my first child. I hardly had met anyone during that year even though I was working. I was actually fired from one job after two months, the day before I would qualify for health insurance. The reason they gave me: 'cultural differences' and they thought I may not respect my elders. I just don't think I fit in anywhere. The last job I had the manager told me I was a liar and couldn't be trusted because I did not tell the owner I was pregnant on the day they hired me. I didn't tell them until I was 5 months along and I was certain I wasn't going to miscarry as I had the only other time I'd ever been pregnant which was 10 years prior. I told the manager why I withheld that information and she insisted I couldn't be trusted. Both of these bosses were women and I'm not sure if that is the reason or if they were just both very mean people and I was unlucky enough to work for them.




I did attend LLL meetings and the Providence cuddlers and cruisers play groups. I even went to a couple play groups in mom's homes. I am not in contact with any of the people I met through those groups, except one woman who I ocassionally talk to on the phone. We never meet up because of our different socio-economic status. She wants to meet places that require I spend money and would require I have a second vehicle. I am an introvert so it's difficult for me to really get close to people and my lifestyle change of becoming a mom in my 30's was isolating for me as well as having just moved to this state. I also am quite embarrassed to have anyone come to my home. I wouldn't be able to even think about the visitor for fear they are disgusted by my home.
I think you were unfortunate to be surrounded by such awful employers I've worked for some really crappy bosses over the years, that I make a very concerted effort to be a very caring and sympathetic boss now. ((hugs))

I really wouldn't worry so much about the state of your home. I stressed for SO many years that my house wasn't "up to snuff" to have people over, and what I discovered is that every single one of my friends, suffered the same thoughts. We all got over it, and we enjoy the fact that we don't have to run around, tidying up in order to feel comfortable having friends over. I am who I am... if my friends can't love me for my flaws (I'm far from the best housekeeper) then they aren't truly friends... y/k? So I say let go of that fear.... a house is just a house... clutter is just clutter, it really doesn't say anything about you, other than you embrace life more than wasting it tidying up... y/k?
post #266 of 271
OMG, Karen, I'm remembering when you brought Emma over and I spent days crying because the bedroom they played in had toy bins that hadn't been washed out...It seems a little funny now, but at the time my anxiety level was sky-high.



love, p
post #267 of 271
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Originally Posted by ~Purity♥Lake~ View Post
She wants to meet places that require I spend money and would require I have a second vehicle. I am an introvert so it's difficult for me to really get close to people and my lifestyle change of becoming a mom in my 30's was isolating for me as well as having just moved to this state. I also am quite embarrassed to have anyone come to my home. I wouldn't be able to even think about the visitor for fear they are disgusted by my home.
:

We're in something of a similar situation. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE our house. It's odd, it's ours, it's literally wall-to-wall books...But the folks we know don't have big families, don't homeschool, don't live on a budget the way we do.

So while they're thinking, "Hmmm, should I get the new end tables to go with the new couch, or stick with just a glass coffee table?" I'm thinking, "The vacuum died again and we have wood season in front of us. And it's time to give Iris a hammer and nails again so she can pound away into a piece of firewood...and my old flannel-backed vinyl table cloth probably needs a good scrubbing after the last painting session. Oh, and where will we store all the egg cartons and old newspapers this year?"

The folks we know have showcase homes, the kind where they must have house-elves to do the cleaning and cooking and tidying. But they don't have 5 homeschooled kids, who eat, sleep, play, invent, dance, sing, and fight in that space.

I was so intimidated about having people over...we decided to go with BBQs, which works out well in the Autumn especially. Only problem was 15 grown-ups, 20 or so kids, one potty. Ummmm....

love, p
post #268 of 271
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OMG, Karen, I'm remembering when you brought Emma over and I spent days crying because the bedroom they played in had toy bins that hadn't been washed out...It seems a little funny now, but at the time my anxiety level was sky-high.



love, p
LOL!

You know... I was thinking of you in particular when I typed part of that post. I remember you being SO apologetic about the state of the book cases and the *gasp* dirt fragments in the toybox... and I sat there thinking "this place is SO comfortable and you can tell people LIVE here" I LOVE being in a home where you aren't afraid you are going to break something, or dirty something... or your child is going to destroy something. I have friends with the showcase as well, and it's agonizing to visit. I'd rather be at my house where they kids can drag out all the bins and have a blast (and quite honestly, probably not make more than a mess than was already there LOL)

I swear... I do pick up the big messes daily, but I've just learned not to sweat the small stuff. If you can't love me for my dusty entertainment center, then so be it
post #269 of 271
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Originally Posted by roadfamily6now View Post
Okay, So I am just learning about all this bleach being bad stuff. (yeah, I'm a little late in that game)
So tell me, what do you use?

I currently have my cutting board sitting with some hydrogen peroxide on it.
I mostly just use really hot water.
I'm not too worried about cross-contamination because I have two cutting boards (bamboo ones btw...they rock!) One is for raw meat, and the other is for produce, cheese, bread, and other non-raw things (I rarely cut cooked meat on a cutting board--it's usually in the dish--but if I do it goes on that board). Anyway, I took a sharpie and wrote "raw meat only" on the meat board so there's no chance of confusion. As soon as I'm done using it I scrub it with a brush and really hot running water (I have a soap-shall-not-touch-it brush that I also use for my cast iron and it works great).

I do most of my other cleaning with baking soda, vinegar, hydrogen peroxide, and (as often as not) plain old hot water. I'm a great believer in the cleansing power of HOT water

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Originally Posted by Pinoikoi View Post
Does anyone here pack thier kids' lunches? Two of my kiddos attend a school where lunch is free to all kids, but one attends a different school, and all of a sudden we no longer qualify for reduced price lunch for him.

Also, what do you put in them? I am always looking for ideas, and "Oh, I just snatch an orange off of my fruit tree that grows by our front door" doesn't really fit for Alaskan families
My DH typically takes leftovers, and my DS gets the reduced lunches which are only .40 here and we realized I can't hardly pack them for that price, so he usually just buys his...but I do pack them sometimes. I dont' stress too much about having a balanced meal each day per se, but more about there being balance across the course of the week... He's a real carb-o-holic and not so good with fruits, so I try to have nutrients hidden in carby forms if I can (eg: banana bread, cheese biscuits, etc)
Here's a random list of things I tend to put in:
  • Muffins, rolls, biscuits, crackers, a couple of slices of homemade bread with butter on them, or a sandwich (I usually toast the bread first so it doesn't get soggy)
  • cheese sticks (I cut a pound of sharp cheddar or colby-jack into sticks about the size of string cheese--cheaper than strings and tastes better too...I just drop in 2-3)
  • a bunch of grapes, apple slices (if you slice a whole apple but put the slices back together and then seal them up in a baggie or container then they won't turn brown OR alternate apple and orange slices--the citrus juice will keep the apples from browning )
  • carrots or broccoli with dip (he loves brocc and will eat it plain, but he won't eat the carrots without dip )
  • some nuts, granola, or trail mix
  • sometimes (certainly not daily) I put in something dessertish...a homemade brownie, a couple of cookies, some chips, a little candy of some sort...
  • He likes to just carry a water bottle, but sometimes I give him a can of V-8 cuz he really likes that too and given that he's not great about veggies lately, I figure it's a good thing for him to have.
  • Another favorite snack around here--if you can figure out how to pack it without making a mess--is a "peanut butter spoon" which is exactly what it sounds like: a spoonful of peanut butter.




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Originally Posted by dislocator3972 View Post
Can anyone please remind me WHY IN THE WORLD I thought it would be a good idea to move to Alaska right before having my first child?
I think a certain amount of isolation is normal to feel after having a baby. I know I felt it after my ds was born and I had lots of family around. What helped me the most was to have a regularly scheduled time to see other mothers...I was very lucky to have a great crunchy-mama playgroup (which expanded to include a monthly crunchy bookclub meeting and sporadic mothers-nights-out where the only kids allowed were nurslings...plus a lot of us went to the local LLL too). Anyway, a lot of the days were long and some of the nights were lonely, but I knew that every wednesday I would see other mamas like me, and that helped a lot. I'm actually trying to figure out how to best go about trying to organize a similar group here in homer right now (katiesk, want in?!) I'm thinking I may post a flier at the midwife/naturopath's office with my phone number on it and just see if I get any takers.
post #270 of 271

Guess what?

Someone started the new September thread for us
post #271 of 271
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Originally Posted by dislocator3972 View Post
Can anyone please remind me WHY IN THE WORLD I thought it would be a good idea to move to Alaska right before having my first child?

I know lots of people are native Alaskans, but for those of you that aren't:
How do you handle being so far away from family, friends, etc?

Obviously, there are people to be friends with in Alaska, and so far everyone I've met has just been amazing, you guys are awesome, but I just feel so isolated. Maybe that's a PP thing?
oh momma! I am so sorry to hear you are feeling this way.
have you been able to make some friends yet? Where are you again?
I have never lived close to family, but I managed. I'm sure if you were strong enough to move to "ALASKA" you can handle this challenge too!
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