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post #161 of 285
FondestBianca, You can still get SS without the work credits. SSDI is the one that counts your work credits, and SSI is available to anyone with a qualifying disability. I tred to copy and paste the info, but this computer is being wonky. Just click on thr SSI or Faq buttons on the SS page, and it explains the whole thing. HTH.
post #162 of 285
Thread Starter 
Thanks for the textbook site Krystal!!!!!! I am so going to use that now!!! I will have to let DP know about it too.

Kluella, that is so messed up that something like that is looming over your heads 6 YEARS later!!! Really that is just absurd. Won't even go into my personal veiws on MJ, but yeah. That reminds me of a girl I know who got her twins taken away because of something that happened with her parents and her sister 18 years ago! They even got the girl back. And the poor girl I know had no chance to even care for her babies. Took them right out of the hospital. She is only 16, but such a good mom. She was on random UAs for months and months and jumped through every hoop, but she still cannot have her babies. it breaks my heart. She even pumped milk for them for several months in hopes that she would get them back and be able to breastfeed.

That makes me really glad that I did not give birth in hospital. I know SOOOOO many people who are investigated by CPS just because they are young and have a child. Sorta off topic, but very similar in the respect of holding things that happened years ago against ppl *sigh*.
post #163 of 285
nm89, I totally get where you were going with that! Yes, it is hard to still be 'paying' for it so much longer after we have moved on with our lives. But in MO any felony 'drug' conviction automatically disqualifies you for most family assistance. If we were not married, I could get benefits for myself and DS, or if he had a felony for theft, assault, or murder, we could get benefits, but the war on drugs marches on....
post #164 of 285
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You have got to be freaking kidding me that he could have had a felony MURDER charge and it would not harm him in the way a MJ charge does?!!!!! WTF!? Seriously that makes no sense. Boggles my mind.
post #165 of 285
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Originally Posted by natural_mama89 View Post
You have got to be freaking kidding me that he could have had a felony MURDER charge and it would not harm him in the way a MJ charge does?!!!!! WTF!? Seriously that makes no sense. Boggles my mind.
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post #166 of 285
That is my understanding from speaking with the local family services office, yes. There are a lot of situations where the fine print says oh by the way, if you were convicted of a drug-related felony, no soup for you. Literally.

Here is a direct quote from the MO DSS site for TANF:

Temporary Assistance offers two types of services to families. The services available are cash assistance and case management.

Who Is Eligible?
The child who:

is under the age of 18 years or 19 and attending high school or equivalent and expected to graduate;
is in need of assistance because there is insufficient income to meet basic needs;
is deprived of support because of the death, physical or mental incapacity or the continued absence from the home or unemployment;
is living with one or both parents or a close relative who makes application for assistance.
and whose parent(s) with whom he or she is living:

has not been convicted after August 22, 1996 in a Federal or State court of a felony or any crime related to illegal possession, use, or distribution of a controlled substance;


Though now that I read over it a few times, the wording is unclear. (A felony or any crime) related to etc or is it (A felony) or any crime related....?

Either way, it stinks.
post #167 of 285
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That is just insane:
post #168 of 285
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Originally Posted by appalachia View Post
FondestBianca, You can still get SS without the work credits. SSDI is the one that counts your work credits, and SSI is available to anyone with a qualifying disability. I tred to copy and paste the info, but this computer is being wonky. Just click on thr SSI or Faq buttons on the SS page, and it explains the whole thing. HTH.
I dont have enough credits for the SSD. I called back again and tried from every angle but, I'm stuck. No way around it. I don't qualify for SSI. Dh makes too much.

Make too much for help, make too little to afford on our own what the help would have provided. The lower middle class trap.

I just thank goodness we were able to get ourselves a comfortable, reliable, home when we were able.... now we just have to keep making the payments! We went from living with my mom and having about $400 in bills + food per month to buying our house and having zillions of bills each month. The joys of home ownership. Really though I am very thankful I we have what we do. Keeping it is the hard part.
post #169 of 285
I need some help ladies - we are really low income (Like impossible low income) but I still do things like go to fast food sometimes (when I have a ton of foodstamps!) I have 3 little screaming understulated kids and sometimes I just get overwhelmed and am like "OK OK LETS GET OUT OF THE HOUSE AND EAT!!!" (cause the kitchen is too messy to cook in or I havent gone shopping yet because I had no quiet time to write a list or whatever.)

Teach me your ways, oh wise and organized mama's. :
post #170 of 285
Thread Starter 
Maybe go out to a park and pack a picnic lunch if you just must get out of the house? If you have food stamps you could make sure to have picnic-type things omn hand such as sandwich fixings and fresh fruit.
post #171 of 285
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Originally Posted by transformed View Post
I need some help ladies - we are really low income (Like impossible low income) but I still do things like go to fast food sometimes (when I have a ton of foodstamps!) I have 3 little screaming understulated kids and sometimes I just get overwhelmed and am like "OK OK LETS GET OUT OF THE HOUSE AND EAT!!!" (cause the kitchen is too messy to cook in or I havent gone shopping yet because I had no quiet time to write a list or whatever.)

Teach me your ways, oh wise and organized mama's. :
hmmm, we have a family ban on fast food so I'm not an expert there BUT, perhaps since Papa Murphys pizza is technically unprepared food you can use your food stamps to buy some when you don't want to dirty the kitchen with prep or spend an hour at the grocery. Maybe letting the kiddos pick their own toppings and get excited about cooking it at home will be enough of a switchup in their routine to keep them from going nutty. Letting your oven do all the work would perhaps give you a break too. Then just sit on the living room floor, pop a movie in, use the pizza cardboard as plates, toss a couple dish rags on the floor for greesey hands, and let the kids go for it. Doesn't cost you any money aside from the gas to drive there, gets you and the kids out of the house for a bit, cuts out dishes and messy preperation, and gets everyone fed. ??
post #172 of 285
cool idea - I have to see if we have PM here. I think once school starts for the kids things will be much smoother but we have just come off of hell year and with dh in school (24-5) its still a little hard.

I will have a moment to think! (I have been fooling myself into thinking I could homeschool. Not so much. Maybe in like 4 years.)

And organize! And clean! and prep food!

I am.so.excited.

PS-I actually just went to the store and threw 10 frozen family style dinners in my cart. Because my 20 month old doesnt allow me to cook. that helps.

And I try the park. I do. But this is Florida. and holy shamoly does it feel like it right now.
post #173 of 285
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Originally Posted by transformed View Post
I need some help ladies - we are really low income (Like impossible low income) but I still do things like go to fast food sometimes (when I have a ton of foodstamps!) I have 3 little screaming understulated kids and sometimes I just get overwhelmed and am like "OK OK LETS GET OUT OF THE HOUSE AND EAT!!!" (cause the kitchen is too messy to cook in or I havent gone shopping yet because I had no quiet time to write a list or whatever.)

Teach me your ways, oh wise and organized mama's. :
My favourite "fast food" is pizza. I like to pick up the deli pizzas (they taste better than the frozen ones) from the grocery store and freeze them at home. If I don't feel like cooking I can just pop one in the oven for 20 minutes. It's much easier than packing up the crew and going out. And bonus for easy clean-up and no prep time. Quite often I can get a minute or two to clean up the kitchen while it's cooking as well (or at least get some dishes into the dishwasher and wipe down the table).

I also like to cook double so I don't have to cook the next day, just reheat. I figure if I'm turning on the oven prepping stuff I might as well do 10 chicken breasts (or whatever) rather than 5. Same with potatoes, rice, etc. Then at least I only have dinner mayhem half the time.
post #174 of 285
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Originally Posted by transformed View Post
I need some help ladies - we are really low income (Like impossible low income) but I still do things like go to fast food sometimes (when I have a ton of foodstamps!) I have 3 little screaming understulated kids and sometimes I just get overwhelmed and am like "OK OK LETS GET OUT OF THE HOUSE AND EAT!!!" (cause the kitchen is too messy to cook in or I havent gone shopping yet because I had no quiet time to write a list or whatever.)

Teach me your ways, oh wise and organized mama's. :
Occasionally, instead of fast food, DH and I will stop by the grocery store on the way to the park and pick up a few goodies for an impromptu picnic. The kids LOVE it. We buy some rolls, some lunch meat, some fruit, chips and beverages and just assemble sandwiches at the park (we pack paper plates, paper towel, a cutting board and a knife before we leave the house). Works out cheaper than fast food every time.
post #175 of 285
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Originally Posted by transformed View Post
I need some help ladies - we are really low income (Like impossible low income) but I still do things like go to fast food sometimes (when I have a ton of foodstamps!) I have 3 little screaming understulated kids and sometimes I just get overwhelmed and am like "OK OK LETS GET OUT OF THE HOUSE AND EAT!!!" (cause the kitchen is too messy to cook in or I havent gone shopping yet because I had no quiet time to write a list or whatever.)

Teach me your ways, oh wise and organized mama's. :
I just always make sure we have lots of snacks for those "I'm too hungry to do anything" moments.. frozen pizzas, granola bars, canned soups, etc.

I agree with the other posters that picnics are a great way to get out.. just grab a loaf of bread, meat-y type things, fixins and fruit (don't forget the cutting board and knife).
post #176 of 285
Believe me Transformed, been there, done that.
I think what the other posters said is good, especially the pizza I do that sometimes too () where I'll end up taking them to the McDonalds playscape and end up buying them something off the Dollar menu, mostly because they are driving me up a wall.
Kluella, that completely sucks!!!!
Everyone else, Hi. Things here are about the same, too darn humid! But tomorrow is payday (whoopee) so I get to go school shopping.
post #177 of 285
Good Morning Mamas!
I have been so busy around here I havent had time to post. I had a huge post typed out for you last week, but of course as I hit the send button my puter went wonky and lost it all...

I've been reading the thread though. I'm so glad to have all of you and have learned so much already! Its so great to have this support. I especially liked the site for free antivirus, and learning about potatos/ onions, and now the textbook website!! THANKS mamas!

Dh starts community college today! This is his first time at college. I told him the books would be crazy amounts, so I will have to show him that site. He applied to school so late in the summer that we may not get any financial aid for this semester. But he also has his new job, and is doing well so far, so we'll hopefully make it through.
I am counting down the days until school starts for the kids next tuesday. I think we've had enough bonding time this summer and they're getting bored, and making me crazy! I have a pizza party planned tomorrow w/ my local mamas group, since I get 50% off of pizza where I work, and all the families are going to contribute $4 each. I will have to mow the lawn today b/c it will be in the back yard. Of course I just mowed it a few days ago, but the rain and sun are crazy around here and it just grows so fast!

Last week I put a bunch of our waldorf toys up for sale and sold all of them in a day.. I made like $350! But now the fun part of collecting $ from 5 or 6 mamas and having them actually come and pick up everything. Yesterday I had one cancel and one not show up when she said she would. We'll get it figured out though, but I'm hoping they all come pick up sooner rather then later.
I've had a few days off this week (4) which was tricky, but I did tell the manager to give me some time to work out this new schedule w/ dh (we only have one car). But he tried to squish a bunch of hours in for me this wknd.. so saturday I have a 10 hr. shift.

Transformed, if you need quick easy to make meals at home, there are all kinds of prepared foods, which may not be healthiest, but really help when you just can't cook. Of course there are tons of meals in the frozen section, and you can always pair them with some premixed salad bags. For salads you can get alot of things already cut up like carrots and peppers to add to it, or some cheese chunks. Spaghetti is also a quick meal, and we always have a bag of meatballs in the freezer that you can just heat up in the oven.
Another super quick meal we like is cut up some hot dogs and cook them in the pan, then through in a can of baked beans. Eggs are great quick meals too; through on a pot of water during the day and you'll have hard boiled eggs for snacks, or make egg sandwiches or breakfast burritos. There are lots of soups you can get too. I like to get the organic box kinds, especially butternut squash, then I add some cayenne and turmeric, garlic powder, and a dash of cream cheese. I agree that snacks are the way to go especially w/ kids. I try for healthy snacks most of the time. We cut up apples /w PB. Carrots and cukes w/ salad dressing or hummus, cheese sticks, PB and J cracker sandwiches, nuts, granola bars, that kind of thing.


Hope everyone is doing well!
post #178 of 285
Thread Starter 
Pertaining to the textbook site, which is better, the online version or the downloadable one?
post #179 of 285
natural mama89- I love, love, love the bumgenius! A supply of 18 one-size is officially on my list now! the $200 they would cost new is about what I spend on diapers every 5-6 months currently. If only we had the money to save right now!

also, dh got his paycheck today and with his YTD we would Q for food assistance. Called DSHS and they said they look at the month in which you apply (in which case we wouldn't Q) but when I said dh is full commission and can have a flux difference in pay up to $1000+ or - each month he said they may use the YTD to help come up with a number to predict future pay. And really dh could technically make the equiv of minimum wage one month and $10,000 the next. Luckily we've never gotten that low but we also haven't gotten that high... but, either is possible in this business I guess.

So I applied and now waiting for an interview. Fingers crossed! On one hand it's bad that we might qualify because technically if we made the amount monthly we'd need to qualify we couldn't even pay our regular bills... while on the other hand we haven't really been able to afford food consistantly for quite some and could use the help.

we shall see.

-how long does it usually take to get an interview once you've done an online app?
-How long after the interview (if you qualify) does it take to get your card?
post #180 of 285
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Glad to hear you like them. I used to have more and they just disappeared. I am going to be buying iris new diapers soon so if you want I could give you the 2 or 3 other pocket diapers I have. I am going to get more training-pant type ones for iris for daycare.
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