anyone dtd?

[beansmama]

Okay, so i'll be 2 weeks pp tomorrow...i've been feeling ready for nearly a week and a half now! I know, i know! It's early...but i didn't have any tears or anything...i haven't been sore for a while.

Yeah - still dealing with lochia, though.

I'm just wondering if any brave souls have tried yet? I reaaaaaaally want to...but i think i'm going to wait a few more days. I'd do it NOW (lol) but methinks dh might be a little yucked out by the lochia (we dtd while i had my period before...but i always used sea sponges...which i know are outta the question now).

I guess i'm just feeling that need to reconnect with dh. I mean, we've been snuggling, kissing, lovey, etc...but i'm really desiring *that* level of closeness, if you kwim! I think it might help me feel less ppd (i'm on zoloft as well, btw).

Also - what are you doing for bc? I'm planning on getting a non-hormonal IUD, but dr. says i'll have to wait 8-12 weeks pp. So i guess in the mean time condoms will hafta do (blech).

[gossamerwindweb]

Oh yeah, I'm TOTALLY DTD....

Still pregnant too... but DTD. LOL!

After my daughter I remember it was torture to wait 4 weeks even, so I gave in and we DTD at 4 weeks. I did have a tear and some stitches with that birth though. So if this one goes really smoothly and there is no vulvular or perineal damage I will probably give in sooner. DTD is something I really love.

And... condoms... until he gets an appointment with a urologist...

[NaturalMindedMomma]

I am 5 days PP and OMG I want to SOOOOO bad.

My bleeding is all but gone.

DD1, I DTD 8 days post partum, I did have 2 abrasions then that did not require stitches then.

I had no damage at all this time. I SO WANT TO DO IT.. But I know it is waaaaaaaaaaaaay to soon.

2 weeks is probably a good bet.

[mags]

Umm, my DH wants to dtd, but I'm not ready yet. In fact, it always hurts so much the first time after having a baby, I'm dreading it.

[georgiegirl1974]

you ladies are CRAZY!!! I'm 2 weeks pp and I'm definitely going to wait until my 6 week appointment at the very least. With DD, it hurt FOREVER. Hopefully this time wont be as bad.

[christibale]

You women are NUTS! Go for it if you are up to it. I had a bad tear that is not healing, and I am 4 week pp. DTD is not going to happen for another while yet.

[bajamergrrl]

I'm 2 weeks pp and while I'm feeling pretty good, I don't think I'll be up for DTD for a while yet. I don't think DH will be either.

[curious&eager]

I'm at five weeks with a decent tear. I'm not a big dtd person, so if the books say wait six weeks there is no reason for me to jump in any sooner. It usually hurts when we dtd for me, so I'm afraid it's going to hurt any more. I think I'm just usually dry. Would you think that some kind of lubricant would help? If you've used any, what would you recommend?

[Avani]

Nope but if i was propositioned by some hot guy i may

[alicewyf]

I REALLY wanted to yesterday but I also had some hormonal mood swings so I think it had something to do with that (I was taking video of Lillian and I started crying and couldn't stop...at least it was happy crying!). DH and I just fooled around instead and made out for a bit while Lily was sleeping.

I don't think I am physically ready at 1 week PP...I had a labial tear and I am also still bleeding pretty profusely, though no more clots, thank goodness. It is kind of like the heavier days of AF still. I am going to ask my midwife what she thinks at my 2 week PP appointment on Friday. I have a feeling I will be asked to wait longer due to my tear. I'm not really afraid of the pain part, I just want to feel close that way with DH again.

[rjruiz_415]

I am 6 days PP and feeling like I am probably up to it. I do not feel sore at all, bleeding is looking like it might be close to done (fingers crossed) and there were no tears... Still hoping to hear from someone who has already

[tracymom1]

At almost 2 weeks postpartum I feel ready but my bleeding is still quite heavy and I just can't while that is going on. Okay, TMI here, but the postpartum bleed smells so strange that I just feel a little grossed out by my own body these days! I can't wait for it to be done already! I really did not think I would feel this good so soon after birth - what a nice surprise!

[aricha]

Giving myself some more time to heal... My tear, which I opted not to have stitched, was in a rather um... sensitive area... and the midwife is already concerned that I might be risking reduced feeling in that particular area... so gonna give it all the best shot it has by not disrupting whatever healing might be going on.

As for wanting to... I'm guessing it must be the hormones talking, and I know perfectly well that those hormones are fickle things... make me want something one minute and burst into tears over the same thing two minutes later... so more physical healing and awaiting a little more emotional equilibrium, too.

[koalove]

just poppin in to remind everyone that your cervix is still open for quite a while after giving birth. im sure people do dtd early and have no problems, but yeah, cervix is open, right into the uterus.

[durafemina]

3 weeks here and I was considering it last night (very tiny nick in my perineum - probably fine by now - though I might have a peek).
Mostly the birth control/possibility of toddler or baby interrupting put me off (not that interruptions are so bad, but not when I want it be nice and slow and good the first time).
Getting an IUD in a few months. . . .but I'm stumped until then (condoms - gah!).

[katylynn]

Almost 3 wks pp, and not really thinking about it. Had an episiotomy, which healed slower than my others, but is feeling good now. I think I could go for it, and be okay, but not really having ANY interest. I guess I'm back to my old self again. My poor husband. ha ha. I told him to appreciate my raging hormones while I was pregnant, but he just couldn't bring himself to that point at the very end stating "that belly just gets in the way!"

[vonn's_mama]

OMG! Don't tell my dh that women like you exist! I am 17 days pp, and have no desire! That may in part be due to my 7 stitches from a tear and my still heavy bleeding, but last time it hurt forever, and I actually had to get treatment (estrogen cream and dilators), so I'm kind of not looking forward to trying this time. Sigh. I feel so bad for my dh!

[penstamon]

Wow! Just reading about you mamas that could dtd right now makes me depressed . My stitches are still healing at 15d pp and I am still bleeding/spotting a little.

Worse off though is my psyche- I feel soooooo unattractive due to this tummy that makes it impossible to wear any clothing in a flattering way. That and the milk that drips forth from my boobs constantly and makes me smell. DH had showed not even a tiny bit of interest and I think this whole milk-making mommy thing is turning him off.

[BoringTales]

I've been physically ready for a few days now, but holding off for as long as I can. I'd hate to get an infection or something. That being said, I doubt I'll make it to two weeks pp.

[Reha]

Well, we dtd a few nights ago! . I was 23 days pp

My interest in it surprised me, I think it was much longer last time around.

I didn't have any tearing at birth, I've been feeling great, and my bleeding was *almost nothing*

That said, it didn't feel that great. I ended up stopping it. And, the next day, I had a bit of bright red bleeding (just in the morning), so I think it was too soon for my body. I'll probably wait a few more weeks before trying again.