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post #61 of 98
Congrats OP! I think what you did is very cute.
post #62 of 98
Personally, I think those spots are offensive towards adoptive families, so good for you, Alvenchrst.
post #63 of 98
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Originally Posted by TCMoulton View Post
Also, as I found out with my 2 pregnancies, there are many days where back pain can be excruciating yet disappear the next day
I have that too. Price of being fat . Walking is good for all of us.

I am not trying to minimize real pain. My pain is actually the result of being in a car accident five years ago. I haven't had a day without a headache since. My headache comes from a neck ache, which also extends into my back. It is excrutiating. Sometimes I feel like I need to add a "shock system" to my body to minimize just the impact of feet touching the ground.

But...
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So that people with difficulty walking into the store can have yet another errand they have to run?
That's how it is for *everybody* who needs a handicap parking spot. Pregnancy doesn't put anybody above that.

And again, for most folks pregnancy is a healthy condition of life, not a medical condition. It's amazing that fact would be debated on MDC.

As said earlier, it would be best if everyone not in need of a sport closer to the door would use the spots further away.
post #64 of 98
P.S. This thread is way off topic. For those coming in for the sole purpose of debating this (I'm here as as one adoptive parent celebrating another adoptive parent's experience of entry into expectant motherhood, and debating only because I feel she is being attacked), perhaps a new thread should be started elsewhere for this discussion.
post #65 of 98
:: OP - Good for you! I hope that you are thrown a baby shower as well. ::

Our signs at Babies R' Us do not say Pregnant Women; they say Expectant Mothers Parking. They are designed to make a woman getting ready to be a mother fell special. OP is preparing to be a mom, therefore she qualifies.
post #66 of 98
Yeah, I'm on team "good on ya OP"! : and congrats!!!
post #67 of 98
Awww.. I think it's okay hun! I can tell from your post you are very excited, and I don't want anyone bringing you down for this! You are an expecting mama! I'm sure if the place was crowded you wouldn't have done that.. so no harm!! Enjoy this exciting time!!! :
post #68 of 98
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Our signs at Babies R' Us do not say Pregnant Women; they say Expectant Mothers Parking. They are designed to make a woman getting ready to be a mother fell special. OP is preparing to be a mom, therefore she qualifies.
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OP Congratulations!
post #69 of 98
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:: OP - Good for you! I hope that you are thrown a baby shower as well. ::

Our signs at Babies R' Us do not say Pregnant Women; they say Expectant Mothers Parking. They are designed to make a woman getting ready to be a mother fell special. OP is preparing to be a mom, therefore she qualifies.
Agreed!
post #70 of 98
To be honest, I would have not parked there. I see those spots as places for very pregnant women who are having trouble walking...and that's it. I've been pregnant four times and never felt the need to park in them as long as I've been able to walk and get around without pain. In fact, I can only think of one of my pregnancies where I had a condition that made it very uncomfortable to walk, where I used special parking spaces towards the end - and I was very appreciative.

I've always figured that pregnant / expecting or not, regardless of the number of small kids in tow, those spaces are for people who *need* it for physical reasons. They're not status symbol spots because probably over half of their clientele is probably expecting in one way or another, and if that was the intent of those spots, over half the parking lot would have signs.
post #71 of 98
to the OP, i think its fine. Would i have done it? No i dont think i would have been brave enough!

But you ARE expecting, and if thats what it took to make it a little more tangible for you....more power to ya! You made it clear that the lot wasnt busy, so you werent taking a parking space from anyone else. So the "but those spaces are for people who really NEED them!" isnt even an issue. (and handicap spaces are protected by law, so thats another thread entirely.)

Its hard, when you are waiting to adopt, and yet dont have this tangible physical thing to point to and say "see i'm having a baby!"....after i was first homestudy-approved, i felt EXACTLY the same as when i got that positive pg test...sort of dizzy, walking around in a haze, knowing my life has now changed forever but no one can tell. I went to the library to pick up some books on older child adoption i had reserved, and as i was checking out, excitedly told the clerk "i need these books because i just got approved to adopt a child!" and she just looked at me, confused, and said nothing. Bummer. (Of course its possible she didnt hear me, or didnt know what to say, etc...but still....it would have been SO NICE to hear "Congratulations!")...i had a better experience talking to the guy at the post office when i was sending out homestudies.

but its hard, when you are waiting, when you are "expecting" but are not pg. My family pretty much forgot i was adopting, because it took so long. You can only maintain that first level of excitement so long, and then its easy to get depressed if you run into road blocks or if it takes a long time. There are long stretches where NOTHING new is going on, where you are just....waiting. At least w/ pg there is some new development each week or month, with a final end date. When i was trying to adopt from the foster care system it got to the point where i wondered if they would EVER give me a child.

So do what you have to do to celebrate yourself as an Expectant Mom!
post #72 of 98
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Originally Posted by runnerbrit View Post
:: OP - Good for you! I hope that you are thrown a baby shower as well. ::

Our signs at Babies R' Us do not say Pregnant Women; they say Expectant Mothers Parking. They are designed to make a woman getting ready to be a mother fell special. OP is preparing to be a mom, therefore she qualifies.
I agree! Congratulations!
post #73 of 98
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Originally Posted by Alvenchrst View Post
Yes I totally did! I felt slightly ridiculous in my head for doing so since I figure the reason Babies R' Us puts those spaces right up front is because pregnancy takes a physical toll and it's nice to not walk so far. I'm sure nobody noticed or cared, but it was kind of fun. I had my two youngest with me anyway and it was helpful, and I was going there specifically to buy something for the future adoptive child and I do technically consider myself an "Expectant Mother." Come to think of it, it's nice that they put Expectant Mother when they could have put, Pregnant Mother.

Anyone else ever done this before?? Or told someone "I'm Expecting"?

I did it. I was in the parking lot 10 minutes before the store opened and thought "heck, I AM expecting, so why not?" No worries about other preggo expecting mamas...they had 100-minus-1 other parking spots to choose from.

It's fun to reclaim a little of the pregnancy excitement and perks that society gives women with big uteruses.
post #74 of 98
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post #75 of 98
I'm 8 months pregnant and purposefully avoid these spots even when I have my three-year old with me (whom I still have to carry across the parking lot because he's scared of cars). I'm fit and I really resent feeling like my pregnancy is some condition that makes me "special" or otherwise incapacitated. I can understand that some women are in serious discomfort or pain (I will not argue that) but I would never feel entitled to special treatment because I'm carrying a child. So I think you did right - if it made you feel good, you're as entitled to the spot as anyone who is pregnant.
post #76 of 98
All the parking spots I've seen around where I live are for 'expectant mothers or caregivers with small children' I had no physical problems while pregnant so never used the parking spots then. I walked 2km a day up until I gave birth (wanted that baby OUT!) But with a 30 lb 15 month old I am really grateful for them!
I don't think it's silly you used the parking spot. You *are* expecting after all! And I think all of those parking spots should be for those with small children as well as that makes things more difficult in my experience.
post #77 of 98
i did it...and it felt really good to me totally fair in my opinion!
post #78 of 98
Congratulations!

I think what you did is fine. You ARE an expectant mother, and as you pointed out, the signs don't say anything at all about being pregnant. The only place I have ever seen those signs is BRU, so it's not like I go out running errands and expecting to find a good spot just because I am (36 weeks) pregnant and sometimes in pain and sometimes uncomfortable.
post #79 of 98
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I think it's sweet that the OP is so excited that she's going to have a baby soon. You can just tell the enthusiasm coming from her post!

However, as someone who has had two agonizing pregnancies, I can more than vouch for the fact that those spots (rare as they may be around here) can be lifesavers.
: i say since it was so early and there were no other cars in the parking lot, you were just fine. i assume if a 9month preggo drove by, there would be plenty of spots for them. good for you!
congrats on your upcoming bundle of joy! :
post #80 of 98
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wow! never thought of that. i thought they were like handicapped spots but for people with temporary handicaps related to pregnancy...like women on bedrest, one's with hips that are falling out of the sockets due to the relxin in their bodies, or other problems.
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