Well in my time zone it's already August 3rd, so I'm not waiting anymore for someone else to start the thread. It's August, ladies!!!!!
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Let's get hoppin' on vamping up or finding some summer lovin' before the summer is totally over!: : : : : : : : : : : :
AlwaysByMySide, of COURSE there is room for one more. You are highly welcome. And I totally admire your attitude about your change in relationship status and being so positive about jumping in over here and joining us actively dating single moms!
I can't wait to hear what mischeif you get up to! 
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I saw the Genuine Article today. For, like, four hours. We had an amazing time. I got to see him and remember how charmingly handsome he is, and be impressed by his sweet, good nature and quick wit (laugh out loud funny!).... and we had time and privacy even to dance together. He's such an amazing dancer. We really move so well together, flowing effortlessly from one style to another, one move to the next.....like we were born to be dancing partners. Even if there's an awkward misstep, which is inevitable (we're not professionals, after all), there's no problem and no embarassment. We're so comfortable together. And at one point he made a funny remark that was so hilarious that we had to just stop, mid dance pose, and laugh really hard for awhile and wait for the giggles to subside until we continued the dance. Which was almost even more effective at creating intimacy and familiarity between us than the actual dance pose that the joke/giggles interrupted. He's so laidback and good natured that it seems sunshine just might actually be pouring forth from his eyes and smile (heck, his skin, i dunno!). What a sweet, bright guy. And an engineer. Smarty pants with a masters degree and great prospects. Two sisters and 4 neices & a nephew that he's totally close to, and he's totally open minded in terms of keeping his eyes open and not missing the boat, should the right woman come across his radar, and he'd be thrilled to settles down and get started on his own future and family life. My current children don't give him so much as a moment's pause. He insists that he can't imagine treating any step children he may have someday (should he decide to spend the rest of his life with a single mom) any differently than his own. But he is quick to add that he does feel strongly that he wants to have children of his own as well, even if he partners up with a woman who already has a brood. 
This works well for me, since I will probably want to have more kids at some point (I'm not yet 30, so I have time yet to worry about that in a few years if the right potential father comes into my life). We are actually the same age, born in the same season of the same year. I just enjoy his company. I was feeling kind of weepy last night because I had a run in with being rudely snubbed in public by a friend of my ex husband..... and then found a half brother I had been out of touch wtih for years via facebook (which is a good thing, but made me all the more emotional), and the G.A. talked with me on the phone and patiently encouraged me to tell everything I had on my mind, and I cried a little for a few seconds even, when explaining why I thought I might be feeling emotional, and he was so sweet and patient and helpful.
And can I just mention that in 7 days when I am dropping off my kids in their dad's city, he is going to drive two hours to pick me up and drive ME two more hours home, and then spend a few hours with me before catching some sleep at my place and then drive two hours to work the next morning? Six hours of driving in 18 hours, just to spend maybe 6-7 waking hours with me, two of them which will be driving on the freeway. and 100 dollars in gas. But it's the absolute next soonest time that I will be able to see him without my kids and he doesn't want to wait a day longer than necessary.
: : : : : : : : : : : :Let's get hoppin' on vamping up or finding some summer lovin' before the summer is totally over!
: : : : : : : : : : : :AlwaysByMySide, of COURSE there is room for one more. You are highly welcome. And I totally admire your attitude about your change in relationship status and being so positive about jumping in over here and joining us actively dating single moms!
I can't wait to hear what mischeif you get up to! : I saw the Genuine Article today. For, like, four hours. We had an amazing time. I got to see him and remember how charmingly handsome he is, and be impressed by his sweet, good nature and quick wit (laugh out loud funny!).... and we had time and privacy even to dance together. He's such an amazing dancer. We really move so well together, flowing effortlessly from one style to another, one move to the next.....like we were born to be dancing partners. Even if there's an awkward misstep, which is inevitable (we're not professionals, after all), there's no problem and no embarassment. We're so comfortable together. And at one point he made a funny remark that was so hilarious that we had to just stop, mid dance pose, and laugh really hard for awhile and wait for the giggles to subside until we continued the dance. Which was almost even more effective at creating intimacy and familiarity between us than the actual dance pose that the joke/giggles interrupted. He's so laidback and good natured that it seems sunshine just might actually be pouring forth from his eyes and smile (heck, his skin, i dunno!). What a sweet, bright guy. And an engineer. Smarty pants with a masters degree and great prospects. Two sisters and 4 neices & a nephew that he's totally close to, and he's totally open minded in terms of keeping his eyes open and not missing the boat, should the right woman come across his radar, and he'd be thrilled to settles down and get started on his own future and family life. My current children don't give him so much as a moment's pause. He insists that he can't imagine treating any step children he may have someday (should he decide to spend the rest of his life with a single mom) any differently than his own. But he is quick to add that he does feel strongly that he wants to have children of his own as well, even if he partners up with a woman who already has a brood. This works well for me, since I will probably want to have more kids at some point (I'm not yet 30, so I have time yet to worry about that in a few years if the right potential father comes into my life). We are actually the same age, born in the same season of the same year. I just enjoy his company. I was feeling kind of weepy last night because I had a run in with being rudely snubbed in public by a friend of my ex husband..... and then found a half brother I had been out of touch wtih for years via facebook (which is a good thing, but made me all the more emotional), and the G.A. talked with me on the phone and patiently encouraged me to tell everything I had on my mind, and I cried a little for a few seconds even, when explaining why I thought I might be feeling emotional, and he was so sweet and patient and helpful.And can I just mention that in 7 days when I am dropping off my kids in their dad's city, he is going to drive two hours to pick me up and drive ME two more hours home, and then spend a few hours with me before catching some sleep at my place and then drive two hours to work the next morning? Six hours of driving in 18 hours, just to spend maybe 6-7 waking hours with me, two of them which will be driving on the freeway. and 100 dollars in gas. But it's the absolute next soonest time that I will be able to see him without my kids and he doesn't want to wait a day longer than necessary.
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And you sound very taken with him. I hope this is "it" 
because I'm not jealous of your position. 
This has been an issue from day 1, like you said, and I've been all the time hoping that this thing resolves the way you want it to. Can I ask you this: how would you feel if he agrees to have another child with you and you just aren't sure if he's only doing it because he knows he'll lose you otherwise? Is that what you want? a reluctant father-of-your-future-child(ren)? If he sacrifices his desire not to have more children so as not to lose you, is that romantic or just a horrible situation....? I honestly don't know. I'm just throwing thoughts out there. If he loses you and lives his life miserably but sticks to his guns of knowing he doesn't want more kids, is that absolutely bat-shit-crazy or is that the sane choice, at least from the point of view of the future would-be-child? Or from your point of view if you imagine that maybe you deserve to embark upon co-parenting with someone who desires a child also (I say embark because I'm sure he'd come around and adore the child once he/she arrived)? Would you be willing to take a chance if he somewhat-less-than-emphatically agrees, and go ahead with TTC and having a child, just banking on him getting more 'on board' later, as tends to happen?
I like WD a little bit more every day, but I just don't think he'll ever fill that role, to be honest.
. From his history I wouldnt have high expectations for a long term thing though - usually when they live that long without ever having had a serious long term relationship either its because they dont want one, or because women tend to leave come a certain point. Surely there is the chance he just hasnt met "the one" yet - but I wouldnt count on that last option. But hey - if you are looking for some fun and not intending it to be marriage potential, go ahead and have fun and enjoy life. But do try to keep your heart safe until you know him better 
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