Originally Posted by Butterflymom
Who needs a guy and back to back dates when you have a couple dozen friends to surround you now and into the future....?
I SO totally agree.
I started working at my kids' "preschool" (Parents Day Out program), and there is a smaller group of 4 or 5 of us that work there that have started doing stuff together outside of work, and I feel like my social calendar is full of good friendships and get togethers, and I kind of like that.
Moniker-less called me last night, and in the midst of what I thought was a regular, just friendly conversation, he told me he was still crazy about me. And, to be honest, it's been hard for me to ignore how amazing he DID make me feel, and the boy could SERIOUSLY kiss. (It's actually pretty sad to me that someone that kisses THAT well is going to end up spending his life kissing nobody, unless he finds a doormat to marry, and even then I can't possibly believe that as soon as there are rings involved, that he'll ramp up the kissing quotient. But I digress...) Today, we got into a semi-argument today over the same issue as before, and I just confirmed it in my head that this cycle needed to stop. And if (okay, let's be for real here, when) he calls again, I'm not only going to tell him that MAYBE we can be friends, after a cooling off period, but also that he's going to have to find someone else to watch his daughter two days a week, for free, because I'm starting to really feel used, and I'm not getting any work done. I thought I was doing it as a short-term favor, but it's turned into feeling like I'm being taken advantage of, and I'm over it. (Which sucks, because I know it will fall on his mom to find a replacement, because he has no involvement with their caregiving really, but at some point, I need to look out for me, right? Right? Why do I feel so horrible about this?)
A long time ago, I put up a profile on an online dating website. I don't have a subscription to any of them though, so it's really up to the guy to do the against-the-rules sneaking of the email address into a message to get anything going. The only person I've gotten far enough in the online dating world to get an email address connection from, I couldn't see any of his posted pictures, and it turned out that he was morbidly, morbidly obese. And, as shallow as it is, I'm just not attracted to that.
Anyway, so I've made a connection with a local guy, 40 (Sagesgirl - proud of me?
), divorced, no kids, seems normal, looks normal, we've emailed back and forth a few times. I'm terrified to meet "strangers", so I've told him it's going to take some talking to get me to take that kind of a step. But, still, a prospect.