Ok, we're back home.
It's amazing how quickly you remember all the things you have to do the morning after vacation ends. oh well, so here I am on Mothering not doing them.
I'm ready to finally respond to you ladies.
Originally Posted by Court
Hey Tear, I think we're cycle buddies! I'm supposed to O in a couple days too!
Did you? I think I O'd on Monday, but maybe yesterday with the full moon. How fun if we're cycle buddies!!!
Originally Posted by Court
Something about hitting that year mark though. I really need to work on ways of dealing. It's just hard to have a goal and to be so open-ended about it. That's not my personality. And I feel totally selfish saying any of this to girls who've experienced losses. That's part of the reason why I take such a long time to post, cause I feel so whiny.
This really struck me and I wanted to respond and share. Hitting the year mark pushed me over the edge, too. It's just so hard to keep trying to have control over something you can't. I got really intense and obsessed, then oddly hit some sort of turning point, I think, where I realized that this could go on for a while and don't I want to be living my life? Since then I've really tried to let go a little bit. I still get totally insane the few days before my period is due.
I hope this is coming across as helpful and not "smart-alecy". I guess I just want to say that as we approach, cross, move beyond the year mark, we should be easy on ourselves because it's a landmark that seems to hit hard and cause a lot of reflection.Court
, please don't feel bad posting about your feelings and frustrations. Each of us is struggling with a similar but unique to us situation. Having had a loss gives its own grief and sadness, but a reassurance in a way because it worked at least once. This knowledge makes me
feel like a whiner sometimes, because I probably just need to be patient, or maybe there's something easy to fix so that the beans stick. Anyway, my point is that nobody here has any more right than another to whine and share and be bitter. That's why we're here for each other, and I love when you share!
:ok, this is the mother of all posts...sorry enigo
, I'm so glad you joined us! Our cycles have been so similar from time to time over on Hope, Healing, etc. It's good to have you over here to share the bitterness with.LZP
, start posting over here lady! I can't keep up with you on the One thread, they post too fast! Starkyld and Jelinifer
, a more formal welcome! I'm glad to have you here, it's a great little support group.mae
: I really hope he doesn't get deployed to Iraq! That would be great news! I'm sorry you're not feeling well. I read that somewhere, didn't I? Carlyle
, fly safe today sweetie! And lurk away, you totally "get it." You've been a valuable support line to me. Beloved,
oh honey, I'm so sorry things are so hard right now. Please talk with your DH. He's hurting inside, too, and a conversation can only lead to better understanding and less inner controversy.
Give yourself time, too. I know how big that desire is to get pregs again right away. It wants to gnaw at you from the inside. But please remember to also give your heart time to grieve. lisko
, the thread looks great. I love the color coding! Thank you.
No worries about the updates. I like that this thread doesn't have "cycle status" updates and that we're mostly just checking in and sharing, nothing too fancy. How are you feeling, are you still ignoring where you are in your cycle? What a great idea! Although how fun would it be if you, Court, and I were all cycle buddies? And then we could take the end-April DDC by storm!!!
How is your DD after the sleepover? What kinds of friendship issues is she having? At 6 years old, I wouldn't worry too much since she's just figuring out friendships in a way. I love that age group: I'll be teaching first grade again in the Fall....oh man, it's coming up.
to everybody else! Check in and let us know how you're doing!
Ok, I'm done. I'm sorry for monopolizing. my vacation was awesome
. Back to our little house and all the maintaining that needs doing. I'm looking forward to it, actually. I got my class list for the fall, and I'm starting to get nervous/excited. Off to it I go!