Originally Posted by artgoddess
If you want people to buy stuff for your little one I would not recommend directing their buying. If someone calls and asks, that's great and you can direct them. But to direct them before they buy is a little much in my opinion.
I do agree with this statement. That's why I put the "if you feel compelled to get a gift" line in there. And I understand that people like the thrill of gift buying, which is why I also didn't do a registry but gave places people can go. My problem is that everyone will get plastic toys and then I'll have to deal with the returns, which is a lot of headache for me since I will only get store credit to stores that don't sell anything I would get her, except for clothes (which I primarily buy used or on super sale) and some cleaning products or dvds, neither of which have anything to do with my daughter.
And yes, I have told people they do not need to give a gift. But they apparently don't like that and feel it's rude. I understand that, and I appreciate it, but I wish people would just say "okay, I'll just give her a card" because that's what I would love to have more than anything - a card that says: this person was here and they wanted to say happy birthday.
As far as being a bit much for directing people before hand? Yeah, it can be. But with my family, I'm sick and tired of dealing with everyone. They know I don't want plastic toys and they know I cloth diaper. Yet they insist that nothing is wrong with the plastic they
buy bc the toys are BPA-free, like that's the only reason I don't like plastics. And they still insist on getting diapers. If they're eco-friendly, I keep them as an emergency back-up, which comes in handy once in a while. Anyway, my point is, my family is odd when it comes to me and my choices. About everything. (Seriously. Three years after becoming a vegetarian I still got "why don't you eat meat?" and "why aren't you eating the meat?" at holiday dinners. It wasn't until I finally ignored them and they kept asking and I said "I'm not answer you. Why? Because I have to answer you every time we eat together and you always get the same answer. It's not going to change. Now stop asking." that they finally stopped ... Actually, my grandmother left the table, went upstairs and then cried for attention (yeah, she was always seeking attention). By then everyone finally stopped.) So when they get invites or mention that a holiday is approaching, I tell them what they can and can not buy. And I flat out told them - and wrote on facebook - to not even bother with plastic toys bc Maeleigh will NOT be allowed to have them. Is that rude? Yeah, a bit. But I'm done playing nice with them.
Sorry for the long rant. Felt good to get that off my chest though!
EDIT: I'd like to note that that is only with my family. Not with our friends. Most of our friends understand that we don't do plastic and are kind enough to not get it, even though they don't agree with it. And the few of our friends who don't know (mainly bc we met them through their children and they all adore Maeleigh) would never be treated like that. And it's not even DPs family. Just mine. I'm not normally that rude to people. I promise.