This is getting so old! hitting + being bossy+ yelling

[LilMamiBella]

My son is 10 and is constantly bossy with his 7 year old sister. Like today he told her she couldn't watch the suite life of zack and cody because shes too young. Then she said that he slapped her in the face. He said that was all true and that he's sorry and to not call his papa. This happens every day. He knows its wrong, we tell him every time to quit doing those things. We've taken things away, forbade him from paying with friends, no games or tv, timeouts, and even spanking. Nothing works! I don't know what to do with him.
He's also loud all the time, no matter what you say.

eta: I ended up telling him he had to clean the kitchen and pick up any trash in our yard. He's doing it and seems ok with it so far. I'm sure I'll be back tomorrow with the same delimma.

[mom2grrls]

First I think being the oldest brings a bit of bossiness just because lol. When i hear my oldest(10 also) being especially critical/bossy toward the younger ones(7 and 5) I examine myself first and make sure I'm not providing the example KWIM? I would say if the punishments are not working, stay away from them and actually focus on what will help the problems rather than how you will punish for them. A couple of good books for this age is Raising a Thinking Preteen by myrna Shure and How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk. Another good one for learning about what behaviors are generally normal for this age is Your 10-14 y/o by Louise Bates Ames. Sometimes it's easier to deal with certain things when you know they will end eventually

[LilyGrace]

We're dealing with a version of the same here. Meet Mr. Know It All, who not only has to inject his opinion into every conversation but has to argue his rightness over silly things. It's downright frustrating!

My line lately has been "thank you for that, but this doesn't concern you." and turning back to my conversation, or "sorry you feel that way, the rule here is ____."

I hate to embarrass him, but it was getting ridiculous. At this age he's so sensitive that it shuts him up for about 5 minutes while he goes to skulk. I'm hoping by age 11 it'll pass entirely!