Whispering...it's the new yelling

[demottm]

Hi all... I just started trying to give up yelling and I have found that whispering works better! I feel like it exerts the energy that yelling does without the noise. It works for now, we'll see how it goes.

[Wild Lupine]

I'll try it too and let you know how it goes, thanks for the tip.

[octobermom]

I have to be carefull my whispers can easily turn into threats.

Deanna

[SusieRain]

I have found that this works really well to correct children, too. It removes some of the embarrassment factor of being corrected. They are quicker to have a change of heart and less damage is done than when yelling. I was raised by a yeller and have to try very hard to not be one.

[Green_Ma_4]

I use to whisper, but then I saw this woman in the supermarket whispering to her child , and she looked so angry, but she was whispering. Everyone around her thought it odd as well, she almost seemed to be talking under clenched teeth or something. SO now, I dont whisper. I talk like a normal adult would to another human bean. In my normal voice, sometimes I get angry and its elevated a wee bit.....
no more whispers for me..
cheers
Pheen

[labdogs42]

I do the whisper thing sometimes. I think it forces my DS to pay attention better. I also like that everyone in the room can't hear what I'm telling him, so that he isn't embarrassed. I think whispering actually calms me down. I try to use it more often than not.

[swd12422]

I need to try this!

[MissMaegie'sMama]

Originally Posted by Green_Ma_4

I use to whisper, but then I saw this woman in the supermarket whispering to her child , and she looked so angry, but she was whispering. Everyone around her thought it odd as well, she almost seemed to be talking under clenched teeth or something. SO now, I dont whisper. I talk like a normal adult would to another human bean. In my normal voice, sometimes I get angry and its elevated a wee bit.....
no more whispers for me..
cheers
Pheen

ITA. I think whispering is effective when conveying instructions or advice to a child, especially if the child is worked up or upset. However- in my opinion- whispering is a little creepy when one's patience with their child's behavior has run out, and whispering is used in place of yelling. Whether whispered or yelled, the message is coming from the same place. At that point, whispering seems almost disingenuous. But I understand why a parent would choose whispering over yelling, especially when out in public.