My husband and I waited and had our two girls within the past three years. We are both now 34, and between the size of the house and finances, it does not seem wise to expand our family. I love my girls, and they are more than enough. It's just that, in the past, we had spoken of maybe having three, but now it seems DH is turned off to that. Then once in a while he kind of says something that makes me think maybe we might have a third. If we ever did try for another, I'd ideally give birth at 37 (I like the 3 year age gap)and have a 6 and 3 yr old. It just seems like 3 kids "feels" complete. I don't know. I experienced a VBAC with my daughter who was just born, and it was AMAZING. The thought of never experiencing that again, even with my 3 weeks of postpartum depression both pregnancies...I just loved the experience and can't imagine never holding another newborn until perhaps I'm a grandma! I know my hormones are not 100 percent yet so maybe that's why I have this weird yearning/sadness at the idea. Don't get me wrong, I would never jeopardize my kids adding to the family. If things were going well I think I could handle it just once more. Doesn't help that my awesome OB told me after my delivery "We will probably see you again in another 2 or 3 years...YOU WERE MADE for having babies!" This was after a VBAC (1st daughter breech/36 wks), which was like the BEST thing I could've heard after my first delivery experience. Anyway, ehough of my blabbing. Anyone else have those pangs if they thought they were done and are now having second thoughts? I have found myself actually imagining a name to go with my two girls' names!
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8/4/09 at 10:42pm