Yeah--- a question on circumcision from someone you barely know (or someone you know well for that matter) is so weird and obnoxious....
Seriously....I can't believe the sorts of comments I have gotten---and mostly from women who have children....which was SO disappointing!!! I actually wrote/posted on this on the main board a few weeks ago. Here was my post:
I can't figure out why many women can't refrain from from being constantly negative about _______ (fill in the blank with the word: pregnancy, birth choices, kids, sleep, life….etc.) I have been stunned and really disappointed (and quite frankly depressed) with the nasty-ass comments that many women (some total strangers) 99% of whom have kids have said to me re: the words I listed above. It makes me not want to discuss this at all, and now I find myself avoiding the topic at all costs except with a few “safe” people.
It’s as though women want other women to suffer or feel bad/frightened about the fill in the blank words above!!!! Why, I don’t know—unresolved anger, shame, guilt, or something? I am shocked how strongly women have wanted to shove negative comments/stories in my face—and how strongly they react to a “thanks, but no thanks” comment to my wanting to listen to it. These boards are a safe-haven and reminder that not all women are so miserable....
I mean, I know having a kid changes everything - I know sleep, sex, etc. suffers…I know birth is hard, I know….______(Again, fill in the blank)…which is why I chose to not have a kid until 34. And I fully chose it now, knowing that I might regret it later in relation to my freedom, my marriage, my whatever—but what the hell????--- it’s my (our) road to travel and life has to keep changing anyways!!!!
Something that this experience has taught me so far is that I will always say only a few POSITIVE generic comments to a women who discloses that she is pregnant to me…..because the last thing anyone wants to continue hearing is that “congrats, how exciting—your life is going to suck from now on!!!” or “congrats, how exciting—childbirth and pregnancy is the most horrible painful experience you will ever have in your life!”*********
That rant was spurned by several days of unsolicited advice/comments about:
1. How I am "dreaming" if I think I don't want an epi during labor...
2. How my current, occasional fatigue is just "practice for the rest of your life"
3. How my sex life will be over whether I like it or not....
4. And so on, and so forth....
Thankfully I DO have good experiences here on this board- and have several "real life" friends who are very happy and positive mommas--- through the ups and the downs! So they are my role models!
I am using my hypnobirthing "bubble of peace" in a BIG way lately!
PS- I do not/would not pass judgment on my friends/co-workers/women in general who want to have an epi, or who have one when they didn't plan it.... We are all different and our choices are just as valid and important as the next....so I REALLY don't get why saying that you are NOT planning on having one sparks such a bitchy, judgmental reaction in so many!!!!???? I have decided not to answer the question from this point forward, as I just get to irritated with the responses!!!!
THANKS FOR LETTING ME RANT!!!!!!!!!!!
A joyful and peaceful pregnancy to all!!!!