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post #41 of 69
Thread Starter 
I'm a fingertip dilated as of last night. And thankfully my contractions stopped.
post #42 of 69
Did a henna belly on Tuesday and have been itching like mad since. I even have red scrtatch marks all over my belly, just what I needed.
post #43 of 69
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Originally Posted by Quickbeam View Post
The moon did the trick! Adelaide Mary was born at 3:25am. Oh man, mamas- it was a bear of a labor. Oy. My DS was 8.8 and baby girl was 7.15, but she felt like a ten pounder. I would have been in trouble without the birth tub.

Anyway, she nurses like a champ and she's already peed on me.

Thanks for a fun and supportive DDC, gals. I look forward to reading everyone's stories.
Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
post #44 of 69
Talulah, I'm sorry your labor fizzled out. I was hoping it was the real thing for you.

Rant from the girl who was determined to stay positive:

I'm in a bad place today. I can't manage to stay positive. I'm trying really hard. I'm not even yet 38 weeks so I feel like I need to suck it up and deal with it but I'm in a lot of pain. My baby is posterior and I've been trying hard to turn her but I don't think it is working. My back is on FIRE. On top of all of that my mom wants me to do wedding stuff for my sister this weekend which involves a 3 hour drive and then next weekend she wants me over for the whole day to put together invitations : This is after I spent SEVEN hours wedding dress shopping with them last Saturday and came home to the worst back pain ever. I just want to cry. I'm so done doing stuff, I want to go hide in my bathroom and not talk to anyone until the baby comes out.
post #45 of 69
Thread Starter 
I was really thinking it was the real thing because it had been 2 days of contractions (which I've never had happen before), they were getting painful, they actually were regular la de dah. I even called hubby home from work! Meh. No labor for me.

I suspect we shall be padromal labor buddies for a few more weeks after all

At least they finally stopped at 2am.

I'm sorry you're so uncomfortable Jilian I feel your pain. I say you just go ahead and HIDE for the next few weeks.
post #46 of 69
Yikes, Jilian, I'm with TF. HIDE. Say NO. Sorry but your health and comfort come before wedding plans, your sister's or not.
post #47 of 69
jillian I'
m so sorry it will be over before you know, the last days are the worst
post #48 of 69
Yes I want to hide too. I told everyone in my house this is it this week. By next Monday I need to go more inward, I usually do around then. Thankfully fair stuff will be over this weekend.
post #49 of 69
Jill- Tell you mom that you are very sorry, but you cannot do this right now! She should not try and lay a guilt trip on you either! Does your community have a pool? Maybe some swimming either early AM or evening can take some pressure off your back. I really wish I had a pool right now. Are you seeing the chiro again next week?

Talula- sorry the moon didn't work out for you I'll keep you company! At least you have some labor signs. I have none!
post #50 of 69
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On top of all of that my mom wants me to do wedding stuff for my sister this weekend which involves a 3 hour drive and then next weekend she wants me over for the whole day to put together invitations : This is after I spent SEVEN hours wedding dress shopping with them last Saturday and came home to the worst back pain ever. I just want to cry. I'm so done doing stuff, I want to go hide in my bathroom and not talk to anyone until the baby comes out.
Ick. Tell your mom no and get your MW or OB to back you up on it if you think she might throw a hissy/lay on the guilt. It's easy to say, "Sorry, ma but doc's orders...I need to rest because I'm in a lot of pain and we're trying to get the babe to turn." Also, we're not supposed to be traveling right now, anyway! I'm restricted to within an hour of my residence. You can also use that excuse..."I'm not supposed to travel." This may sounds selfish and militant to them, but in the end you have to do what's right for you and your baby. If that means staying home and getting some rest, then there's nothing wrong with that and you're not a bad person for doing it.
post #51 of 69
I'm still hanging in there, too... 38w5d today and ready to go...if only the smootcher was ready, too! I was having decent contractions for a couple days, but they fizzled out today, so...still waiting. What is it about 3 a.m.? For the last three or four nights, contractions woke me up at 3 something, with me thinking - hey is this it? And then eventually I fall back asleep and wake in the morning without a baby. Oh well. I'm in a better place mentally today, kind of ok if baby comes or waits, but, that attitude seems to vary by the minute.

Jillian - I agree with all the PP's who suggested finding a way to excuse yourself from all these expectations. You need to take care of yourself so you are ready for labor and have the strength to heal up and enjoy your babe afterward. I hope that your family will be understanding. I know that's not always the case.

Lucy - CONGRATS!!! So happy for your and your little girl. Give her some extra smootches for us that are still here waiting!!! :::
post #52 of 69
Jillian- ack! I know how hard family is (I found out yesterday, third hand, that my mom is leaving my father. And I found out when family members started calling me and wanting to know what "I" was going to do to fix the situation and why "I" had "let" the situation reach this point) but you need to step back and focus on the babe. I actually wrote out a little "I live in a two room house. I am expecting a baby this week. I do not have contact with my mother at this time and while this is incredibly sad in my opinion, there is nothing I can do to "fix" things. You will have to discuss this with her." note and have it sitting on the counter to help me stay strong while on the phone with relatives. Maybe something like that would help you too? Just a list of talking points like "I am expecting a baby in the next few weeks and am already mothering two young children. Due to this baby's position I am in a great deal of pain and cannot be as active as I would like. While I want to participate in this wedding to the best of my abilitiy, please realize that this ability is limited. I'll have to let you know on a day to day basis how much I'll be able to do."

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Had my 40 week appointment today and not only is babe now firmly posterior (he had shifted posterior for the first time last week) he is also in an almost transverse position with his head in my lower right pelvis, his back along my spine, and his butt/knees up against my left ribs. So I also hear you on the insane back ache Jillian! Over the last few days it has gotten really crazy. And I generally start having contractions (big, solid, hard to breath, wont go away with wine or hot shower but don't get stronger either contractions) every night around 4-5pm that continue till 2am-ish. Every night. I'm doing all the spinning babies and visualization I can, but I'm getting worried (not to mention further sleep deprived).

None of the local hospitals "allow" vbac after 41 weeks (and malpositioned babes often gestate longer). My provider will give me an extra week (calling me 40 again next week) but if babe is still wonky they'll want me to schedule a c/s for the following week. I know my EMTALA rights, but honestly I don't know how far I want to fight things if babe really is still sideways. Plus it's harder for a babe to get into a better position once the water breaks and in both my previous births my water broke on it's own right off the bat. So babe really needs to be in a good position before labor starts for this tow "work"... and I only have a week to get him back into alignment and out!

No pressure, right?
post #53 of 69
Clay, OMG I'm sorry you are dealing with the family drama right now. I swear that people just do not understand pregnancy or something. I'm sorry they are trying to put the pressure on you to fix things, stay strong! I hope your babe turns too. If you learn any tricks let me know, my girl seems to be very stubbornly posterior too.
post #54 of 69
Quickbeam - Congratulations!!!!

Amanda - We have the same d-day!!! Doc hopes that we won't have to do the overnight stay first. For now we're fully effaced but only dilated to 1, so we'll see. All that time before I was complaining about how much longer I had and now we have less than a week left and I'm wondering how I'm going to get everything done in time!!!
post #55 of 69
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We have finished everything other than installing the car seat and buying our food and beverages for the birth center.
With my DD we were installing the carseat between contractions. I would suggest doing it when not in labor.

: Congratulations Quickbeam


Wow, we are all falling apart! It's so hard to wait.

My M/Ws today guessed this babe at 9 lbs. or over (DD was 8.5 lbs). I asked about a membrane sweep at 38 weeks- I can't take the nausea, etc any longer than I have to. I know a lot of mamas on here don't agree with them but it got me started with DD.
They said they will do it, especially if baby seems large.

However, the hospital is not allowing anyone under 12 as a visitor due to swine flu. So if no one is here to watch DD when I go into labor they are not sure what they will do. I was told that they would possibly make DD and DH wait in the waiting room somewhere- while I have to give birth in the hosp, alone.

And the whole reason I have to go to the hospital is b/c my birth center was closed until the new one is opened- and hospital with my M/Ws is the only other choice my insurance covers.

So now I want this baby out but am getting really worried about how labor will go. This was supposed to be a birth like I had with DD- old, Victorian house birth center, home 4 hours later, etc.
In the last 2 months I feel like everything good is being taken from me regarding this birth. :

Maybe if I hang around long enough at home I'll have an unplanned UC. Except I never felt an urge to push with DD so I wouldn't even know when to push.

*sigh*
post #56 of 69
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Quickbeam - Congratulations!!!!

Amanda - We have the same d-day!!! Doc hopes that we won't have to do the overnight stay first. For now we're fully effaced but only dilated to 1, so we'll see. All that time before I was complaining about how much longer I had and now we have less than a week left and I'm wondering how I'm going to get everything done in time!!!
Tell me about it! I am thrilled that he will be "evicted" next week, but I am also almost wishing I could let my body do its thing and see when I would go into labor on my own. If I didn't already have three other kiddos I would wait it out and see if DH made it home in time from the business trip. But, since my parents will be out of town next week and I don't have any other family here, I really need to have childcare set up for my girls. Induction will have to do for this time around.
post #57 of 69
Enjoying these last weeks hoping baby stays put till 40-weeks so I can have a little baby shower with baby's older siblings on my birthday (a week before my due date) enjoy a free henna session and two more massages before this little one arrives.
post #58 of 69
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Maybe if I hang around long enough at home I'll have an unplanned UC. Except I never felt an urge to push with DD so I wouldn't even know when to push.
You don't have to.
post #59 of 69
Congrats Lucy! I almost missed that announcement completely! And very pretty name.
post #60 of 69
Woohoo!! I made it through my 12+ hour workday today and now I just have two days left. I am so happy to be done. I was a bit dramatic this morning, but I got myself out of it by early afternoon.

mouso we are totally installing the seat this weekend and having it checked. I still have a couple of weeks left, too, *crosses fingers*.
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