I'm really at my whits end. Some days are better than others but I'm really having a hard time holding it together on the really bad days. Life has been chaotic for all of us lately, on the days when DS is well behaved I finally feel like I'm seeing some light through the clouds but then he always reverts back to being total uncooperative, destructive, etc. I'm yelling a lot more than I want to.
I know its a combination of things influencing his behavior: teething, new baby, dad is gone, etc. Most of them I can't do anything about. Meal times for example are getting really difficult. He's normally a really good eater but lately he has been refusing to eat and just throwing the plate of food against the wall.
Bed time has been fluctuating. Before baby he went to bed easily without a fuss, after she was born I expected him to sleep poorly (which he did) but did eventually get back into a routine. Now its all out the window again. He's in and out of bed, crying and screaming, refusing to nap at all even though he's clearly tired and acting out because of it. He's also waking up MUCH earlier than usual. Its very difficult for me to deal with that on top of a crying infant. I give him pain relief for the teething but so far it hasn't helped.
I'm working with him on the destructiveness but he clearly takes great enjoyment in doing what he knows he's not supposed to. Being big for his age he breaks into everything and climbs so nothing in my house is safe, its pretty much barren at this point in an attempt to keep him out of things. He does a lot of it to get my attention, I know.
I feel like someone is always crying in my house. The poor baby can't even take a nap because he's constantly making noise. It takes me hours to even get a meal because I'm going back and forth between the two of them, and before I know it the day is over and I'm ready to collapse. I can't divide myself up equally when I'm constantly diverting him from disaster, I can't give either of them as much attention as they need without letting everything else go to heck and without somebody screaming and crying. Getting help isn't an option because I have no family here and nobody I can trust to take him for a while.
Please give me some kind of useful advice or a hug or something
I know its a combination of things influencing his behavior: teething, new baby, dad is gone, etc. Most of them I can't do anything about. Meal times for example are getting really difficult. He's normally a really good eater but lately he has been refusing to eat and just throwing the plate of food against the wall.
Bed time has been fluctuating. Before baby he went to bed easily without a fuss, after she was born I expected him to sleep poorly (which he did) but did eventually get back into a routine. Now its all out the window again. He's in and out of bed, crying and screaming, refusing to nap at all even though he's clearly tired and acting out because of it. He's also waking up MUCH earlier than usual. Its very difficult for me to deal with that on top of a crying infant. I give him pain relief for the teething but so far it hasn't helped.
I'm working with him on the destructiveness but he clearly takes great enjoyment in doing what he knows he's not supposed to. Being big for his age he breaks into everything and climbs so nothing in my house is safe, its pretty much barren at this point in an attempt to keep him out of things. He does a lot of it to get my attention, I know.
I feel like someone is always crying in my house. The poor baby can't even take a nap because he's constantly making noise. It takes me hours to even get a meal because I'm going back and forth between the two of them, and before I know it the day is over and I'm ready to collapse. I can't divide myself up equally when I'm constantly diverting him from disaster, I can't give either of them as much attention as they need without letting everything else go to heck and without somebody screaming and crying. Getting help isn't an option because I have no family here and nobody I can trust to take him for a while.
Please give me some kind of useful advice or a hug or something
