September Mommies - Feb. thread! - Page 7

[shannon0218]

Where's everyone hanging out?? Do you realize we had been dumped to the second page!!!!!
For me I continue to be dead tired, but in looking at some of my books, I came to a similar conclusion as Jen and Jo--no wonder!!! what a lot of change going on right now!!
On Friday night we went to our favorite pub when our favorite waitress was working, (it's been closed for 6 weeks for renovations- and before that we avoided it because we didn't want to explain why I would not have a beer) Anyway, I ordered Cranberry juice and soda and they just looked at my strange, so I told them and they were so happy. One of the other girls we know well is 5 mos pregnant and after we talked for a bit she kinda looked at me and said, you know, I never thought pregnancy would be this "hard" I can't even imagine doing what she does in her condition, they are quick and provide amazing service, Friday night they were PACKED and only the two of them working, they just NEVER stop moving.
ON the uterus front, I think I can feel mine. I still haven't gained any weight at all but my waist bands are definitely tight.
So how is everyone feeling today??

[4under6]

Shannon-

I can relate to the pregnant waitress thing!
I wait tables, which can be difficult on it's own, but even this early in pregnancy has proven difficult! I suffer from SPS during pregnancy(Separation of Pubic Sympysis- see my other post), and it hurts!
Tip those pregnant waitresses!

Jen-
I plucked down a huge chunk of change Thursday on maternity clothes. I am a plus sized gal, so it's hard to find cute plus sized maternity stuff!

Steph Badomama-
Welcome! It would be fun to meet with you and Jen this spring here in Mpls! We could go have some good Vietnamese food. I know the place you were speaking of, but have never been there.


Still fairly miserable here. Nothing new.
I had an ultrasound Thursdayt to confirm dates(long cycles, goofy ovulation patterns), and I am officially due September 1st!

[chrissy]

Hi girls,

I am still here reading, just pukey and tired and too much computer time seems to aggrivate the pukeyness.

Also my beloved lemon drops have forsaken me. They worked wonderfully for about 5 days and then with no warning they made me want to barf. : My husband found me some hard ginger candies at the hfs and they seem to help for now.

Jen, I loved the song!

Welcome to Steph!

Okay that's about all I can tolerate of typing.

to you all,

[JenInMpls]

Danielle - you will be pleased to know that when we did have a quite pregnant waitress, we did tip her very well because we just couldn't believe that she was waiting tables at 7 months pregnant. And I hear you about the difficulty of finding larger pregnancy clothing - I think there were 2 xl's in the whole store I went to on Friday, and I bought them both! The woman who was working eyed me up and assumed I was an m or an l - I laughed and was flattered but I said probably more like an xl - she pulled mostly l's off of the rack and phew, talk about panty lines...!

I am happy to have gotten a good night's sleep FINALLY. With no odd dreams in the morning hours, either. Woke up to a pigeon sitting on top of the air conditioner in our window cooing and the cats jostling for the best viewing spot. Funny.

Shannon have you recovered from your long day?

I can't imagine that I have to go back to school tomorrow... *sigh*

j

[shannon0218]

Danielle, we tip well, there is nothing I appreciate more than good service! Patty and Shelley are the best waitresses any pub could EVER have--thus the reason we had to avoid them for a bit because generally they'd have our 2 favorite drafts sitting on the table by the time we sat down!
At Christmas we gave them each a $50.00 tip, they seemed so surprised, I was sortof surprised that more of the regulars didn't do that at Christmas.
I too don't know what I will do about maternity clothes, I don't need them yet as I lost 10 lbs before conceiving so all my old clothes will fit for a while.
Anyway, back to my research for a client!
Shan

[JenInMpls]

Originally posted by shannon0218

I too don't know what I will do about maternity clothes, I don't need them yet as I lost 10 lbs before conceiving so all my old clothes will fit for a while.

I've lost quite a bit of weight too, I think - Jo commented this morning that she got poked by my hip bone, which has never happened before - but most of my weight loss has been on my butt and thighs, which is making my pants baggy but still tight on the waist.

I'm interested in seeing what I weigh at the midwife appt on the 17th, since we don't keep a scale in our house.

jen

[shannon0218]

Alright I WANT TO KILL MY MIL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Steve only just told her a couple days ago. I had to call her to today to get addresses of his family members for our wedding invites (for those of you who do not know this, we are getting married for real on June 19th) Anyway, she says congratulations, we must be happy, to which I reply yes we are. blah blah blah. I then say jokingly--Yes there are jokes about rolling me down the aisle--to which she replies--get this--in her churchiest possible voice "well you know you have some control in that" I wasn't implying that I was planning to gain 100lbs by my wedding day, but at 6 mos along it would be pretty hard not to notice I was preggers!! That and I'm only barely 5' tall--my closest friend who is my maid of honor already calls me the weeble. It so pisses me off, she is one of those who knows everything about everything, even if it's something she has never done. When we lost the other baby, she had lectures for me then too. (I am not the type that takes kindly to being lectured unless I'm paying the person doing the talking!!)
Oh, I am just livid!!!!! She's such a B#&%h!!!!!!!!!!!! She's so bad that even though Steve absolutley HATES being called Steven, when he finally told her a few months ago she said "tough! that's your name" The man is 37 years old!!!!!!!!!!! I mean when we chose names, Steve was insistent it not be one that had a common short form but the real name is longer (like his)
Anyone else wanting to kill a family member????

[Jodie]

Hello
Glad everyone is doing ok.
Still feel nausea off and on, but it seems to be disapating or not as bad. Something in my house stinks and I don't know what it is. I walked in yesterday and started gaging. :LOL

My appointment Fri. was great!
Midwife says my due date is more like 9/18 but I'm sticking with 9/24.
Everything is good except my iron. Its too low.
So I have to focus on foods high in iron and drink molasses, honey and lemon in water 2 times a day.
And drink 2 quarts of pregnancy herbal tea, along with a few quarts of water.
Dh was sweet last night and made spinach, field peas, and sirlon steak. I accually ate the spinach and peas and half the steak.
Though it took me awhile to eat it.

Jen~ love the song.

[JenInMpls]

Shannon - the closest I've come to wanting to kill a family member is my mom and her insistence that I could not be getting sound medical advice from a midwife and that I really should go see an obstetrician. Like she had good experiences with a doctor during her pregnancies - with me the doctor x-rayed her to figure out if I was twins, left me breech (lucky for me and mom I turned a few days before birth) and then put my mom on Valium directly after my birth because he thought she had "postpartum hysteria". Thank God at least I wasn't nursing on THAT! So... I don't see the advantage of going to an ob. When I bring this stuff up to her, she just says "well, times were different then."

She also thinks that I should call my midwife for every ache and pain. Stomachache? Call the midwife. Constipation? Call the midwife. Trouble sleeping? Call the midwife. Nausea? Call the midwife. (Maybe this was her m.o. with me as a baby that made the doctor think she was hysterical.) She also constantly asks me about my blood count and my hemoglobin. I think she believes I spend a lot more time at the clinic than I do.

Other than mom... no one else has set me off yet.

Shannon, I hope you don't kill your MIL, that might put a bit of a tarnish on your wedding! My cousin Tracy got married when she was 7 or 8 months pregnant and she was beautiful. She and her husband are still married today, nearly 15 years later. MIL will have to cool it. It's your day! If you have to tell her to back off, good luck. Your hubby will have to stand behind you.

jen

[boobykinmamma]

Hi, everyone! Just wanted to say welcome, greenbeing--I somehow missed your name the other day.

I'll post more when I have more time. Take care, mamas!

[badomama]

Welcome to another week!

Hi all,

Jodie, congrats on your good appt!

Anna, thanks for the sympathy! Am I right that you are the one who works at a mailing center in Madison? I lived there two residences and two years ago. Loved it there!

Shannon, your MIL sounds like a peach. I hope you find a way to suggest that she keeps her mouth shut. You deserve to have a lovely wedding just the way you want it and without any disapproval.

All of you struggling with nausea and vomiting, very sorry! It sounds terrible. Maybe I should just be grateful, but I'm a little worried that I haven't really experienced anything like that beyond a little queasiness and some food aversions. Being sick is a good sign right?

My weekend news: My mom wants to take a doula training class. I'm very happy that she is getting into it, but am still worried that I won't have the mental energy not to be annoyed with her if she attends the birth. We have a warm but strained relationship. What do you all think?

I've started a new thread under the forum Talking Amongst Ourselves and titled: parenting on a shoestring budget --or something like that. Anybody want to join me in discussing tips for simple, low-income living?

May we all have a healthy development week!

Steph

[badomama]

forgot one thing

Jen- I forgot to mention that I loved the song. It totally cracked me up!

Steph

[sistermama]

I am tired of feeling so crappy!!! My son is grumpy at me all the time because I'm not being his normal mama. I'm sleeping awful and waking up everytime he or my husband move. I am absolutely exhausted. I can't take 6 more weeks of feeling like this!

Does anyone else have Medicaid? I am so pissed off at them because even though they will pay for my midwife, they won't take a proof of pregnancy from her. That makes a lot of sense...she can be responsible for the well-being of my child, but she can't certify that I am, in fact, pregnant? They told me that i had to go to a doctor to certify that I'm pregnant. If I had the money to go to a doctor, would I need Medicaid???? So now I have to go to the Health Department wait forever, pee on a stick there and then have a doctor read it. Great use of time, mine and the doctor's right?

[Jodie]

Well, I haven't wanted to kill any family members yet.

My FIL would be at the top if he keeps on.
He called last night and asked if he could witness the birth.
He has never seen a birth and wants to see his grandchild born.
My response was uhh... NO!
I don't even want my parents there, let alone DH's dad the alcoholic.

Dh said last night maybe we should get one of our friends to hang on the portch and be a bouncer, in case people we don't want there come by.:LOL

[4under6]

Well, so far there isn't anyone I want to kill yet, family-wise.
I thought it would be my mother, who I am actually really close to, but I thought she'd be giving me crap about having a fourth baby. Nothing yet.
But it's coming.
I can feel it.

This week, my focus is on laundry.
Laundry has taken over my house.
It never goes away!

[wardermom]

I was 30 weeks pregnant with #2, when dh and I got married.

I know about the laundry not going away! That and dishes. We also suffer from general clutter everywhere. I just don't have the energy to get much done. I'm relying on the kids to help out more, but honestly, it's kind of gross to get out a "clean" dish and have to wash it before I can use it! I'm not going to give up on them and do it myself though!(lazy me)

I can't wait until my first mw appointment. It's on the 17th. It's been a long time to wait. It's difficult for me to get an appointment when I want because the evening appointments fill up so fast. It's just not the same for me when I have to take my kids though. It's not relaxing or fun at all. With my first few, we visited the mw as a family, dh included. Now, it's nice to get out by myself for a little while.

[adventuregirl]

Happy Monday, girls!

No desire to kill anyone yet here, but almost nobody knows I'm pg, so its all good for now. In the future, I have no idea....

My mom is on the edge of her seat waiting to let the cat out of the bag, she promised not to tell anyone and has kept it, but is going nuts waiting until we give the OK.

Sarah, I am probably going to apply for pregnancy Medicaid since we have no insurance and I am currently unemployed. It is our safety net in case we have a hospital transfer, we are paying for the mw out of pocket. I'm delighted to hear they are such a joy to work with. : Jeeze, my mw didn't even need to confirm my pg with a test, uh I happen to KNOW that I am pregnant! DUH!

On people wanting to attend the birth, I think I would be pretty firm on not saying yes. You never know if you are going to want anyone around you at all. If no is what you feel, then be straight, but if you feel MAYBE, be really clear about what that means. For instance, you might feel ok with it until the moment comes and then you feel a strong NO, prepare the people in advance not to take offense, you need to birth the way you need to birth and feeling bad that someone might be offended is NOT a part of the program. I could possibly run into this with my mom, she will be coming from Florida, so her dates will be set and if she gets here before I give birth, it will end up being an issue. I plan to tell her that she may be sent to a hotel if that's what I feel I need. Its weird and tricky, but stress over guests can be detrimental to your birth, so I think its best to get it all very clear and out in the open way before the time comes. OR, you could just not call anyone unless you want them there. "Ooops, it went too fast, I had no time to call!" I like the bouncer idea too, hee-hee.

OK, guess I had more thoughts on that topic than I thought. I think I have read more than my share of threads on this topic in the past and have absorbed a lot of other mamas experiences/insights/warnings...

10 weeks, 2 days, no spotting, feeling good (mentally)!

[chrissy]

Nobody I need to kill either at the moment. My MIL is surely going to disapprove of our homebirth plan but too bad for her!

Adventuregirl, Yay, things are moving right along!

Jodie, about your FIL! What a weirdo, calling you drunk and asking to see the birth. :LOL about the bouncer idea! On a different note, I'm glad your midwife appointment went so well. Even though you know she is wrong about the date that is awesome that your little babe is growing so well to make her think s/he is even older than s/he really is!

sistermama, I hear you on the sick/grouchy/tired thing. It sucks.

Steph, please don't worry about not feeling too nauseous. Plenty of people are just lucky enough to avoid it. They do say it is a good sign to feel sick but they don't say that it is a bad sign if you don't.

Shannon, I'm sorry you are dealing with a jerk of a MIL. It is a very common affliction, I think.

Hey to Lynsey, Jen, Heather, Wardermom, Caroline, 3under3, and Anna! That's as far as the history goes so hey to everybody else out there too!

[banana girl]

Reflecting on the Weekend

Hello ladies i hope you all are doing well, send ing you happy thoughts of eating with gusto and enjoyment.

I had a lovely weekend with the family, but am now so wiped out I almost wish i hadn't gone. It was great fun surprising my father for his birthday, allthough he didn't seem to be as pleased as we might have hoped. Some people just don't enjoy surprises and we all sort of avoided/ blew him off for a few days before hand. Which he now understands, but seemed irked about.

I really enjoyed being with my family for the first time since they all learned of the pregnancy. Everyone offered to get me things and showed lots of sympathy although I did end up the butt of a few barf jokes. Oh well, was to be expected. Found myself wishing I had more energy and stamina. Had to head for the couch mid-way through dinner.

Survived the weird dinner smells and the sight of others drinking alcohol without disgracing myself. For that I am very grateful. Thank you baby bundle for not embarassing me in front of the whole family!

Today I enjoyed catching up with all of you, but had to wait till my grumpy ex-marine boss left in order to post a reply. He yelled at me the other day for sending "personal e-mail's while at work" I nearly cried my head off.

My emotions are starting to skyrocket, little things are setting me off into buckets of tears, which stresses the hubby out to no end, especially when he feels responsible. Had to tell him he better get used to it, cause it is gonna happen more often.

Today is our 4 year anniversary of first date/ first kiss. Am feeling too yucky to do anything really special, but am getting done from work at reasonable time, so maybe we'll do something....

Love and kisses
Anna

[JenInMpls]

MAJOR TRAGEDY!!! (?!)

OK, now that i've freaked you all out, breathe deeply: I haven't lost the baby or anything... but can you believe:

OUR TOASTER IS BROKEN!!!!!

One waffle too many, I guess. Sheesh, you go out and try to buy quality stuff like a freakin' Krups toaster and the blamed thing not only doesn't toast well but breaks a whopping 4 years down the road.

What is this world coming to?!

I had to make myself a fresh, from-scratch waffle! Dare I say it tasted better? But now I've got two left-over waffles that I'll need to eat in the future.

In other news, *whisper* I've been feeling a little better lately and *ahem* today I'm taking care of Jo who is nursing a migraine. Gosh am I glad I don't get those.

Anna, I bet your dad was pleased, it just didn't show too much... I thought at first that my mom wasn't at all excited but turns out she's ready to burst, she's so thrilled. She caved and told my uncle because she had to tell someone before she exploded!

I finished up a reference letter for my friends who are adopting. One of my greatest wishes in the whole getting pregnant thing was that they would get pregnant before me. You'd think that the straight couple who had been working at it hard-core (clomid, IUI with his sperm, IUI with donor sperm, hcg injections, ovarian ultrasounds) for 3 years would have had more luck. Wasn't in their cards, I guess. They're good sports though - if they hadn't kept laughing along the way, they would have dissolved into a million pieces by now.

Greetings to all, Jodie good luck with your FIL, Danielle good luck with that laundry - we're always behind on the laundry, and it's only the two of us - I can't imagine how it would be with 3 children!! - Melanie, my next mw appt is on the 17th too!

Monday is over. Tomorrow we get an estimate on having the bathroom retiled. Boy will I be glad when that reno is finished.

Jen the waffle queen