September Mommies - Feb. thread! - Page 9

[banana girl]

hello ladies

boy, does it ever hurt to hear news like shannons. Being a part of this group of women means alot to me. I know you are all going through the same roller coaster of food and nausea and worries and excitement that I am. it helps me feel connected to something larger than myself and my daily concerns.

I guess the down side of this connection, is experiencing this heart break even vicariously. I know we all live in fear of something going wrong with our pregnancies and not knowing when or where it could happen.
It is a very hard thing to face, knowing we are at risk for loss and pain during this exhausting process of growing a baby. I find myself nervous on stairs, afraid I'll fall. i hold my stomach when I sneeze cause sometimes it hurts. i have stopped letting my cats sit directly on my stomach and I take shorter baths at a cooler temperature.

i read somewhere that the work of pregnancy is worrying. The idea was that during the pregnancy you should be worried and that facing and processing those fears is important so that you can deal with the possibility of those fears coming true. I am still really struggling with this fear.

I am terrified of losing this baby, telling my family and friends, living with myself and my own recriminations and dissapointment. Facing my husband's loss and dissapointment. Dealing with something that momentous is terrifying and reading of that loss in another's life is terrible.

My heart aches for Shannon, but I must admit this reminds me to treasure the nausea and misery of being pregnant. I hope you guys don't mind my philosophysing about this, but this gives us all alot to think about and feel about.

love and kisses
Anna

[JenInMpls]

tuna cravings

Caroline, your tuna craving might be a need for Omega-3 oils, which tuna has in high amounts. Flax seed oil is also very high in Omega-3's and if you find a way to eat it in a raw, cold form (i.e. don't cook it), like making a salad dressing with it, you may find your craving lessening. A mom at my school had this same craving and when she started eating flax seed oil it went away.

You could also eat salmon instead of tuna. supposedly it has less mercury.

I had my first prenatal yoga class today and, as ridiculous as it sounds, I'm exhausted. I'm already ready for bed.

And, as Danielle said - it's snowing. AGAIN. Remind me how much I hated this snow when I'm whining about the heat in July, ok?

Heather - I didn't now how to pronounce Darshan when I first saw it, but I got it right. But it's true, you'd spend his life correcting people. You can either look at it as expanding their horizons or saddling him with a burdensome name - I personally think that if you teach a child to be proud of their name, it's not torturous to have a unique name. My good friend is named Sieglinde and loves her unique name.

hogs and quiches,

j

[Jodie]

Shannon~ I just wanted to say you are in my thoughts.
I just read your news and I am . Everything seemed to be going so well, this just seems unbelieveable.

My biggest worry is that this baby will be lost.
I even had a dream Tues. morning that I was losing my baby.
I keep saying to myself "Trust that everything will be ok."

[banana girl]

omega 3 oils

my understanding regarding mercury in fish involves the size of the fish itself. as in body size.... a salmon is a much smaller fish than a tuna or a swordfish. their diets are different and are less likely to be mercury contaminated.

omega 3 oils are available in liquid, paste or capsules. We splurged on the yummy orange paste for me and i currently cannot stomach them. i am hoping my next trimester will allow me to take them again, they are supposed to be great for cell development.
love and kisses
Anna

[cottonwood]

Just wanted to pop in here and say 'hi' -- I'm pretty sure I'm due around the end of September.

[sistermama]

The only thing to be careful about with salmon is that you should eat the wild kind. The farmed kind doesn't have much omega 3s and it has lots of pesticides that run off from the shores. Plus they have to dye it to make it look nice and pink like the wild kind, otherwise it would be gray. Yuck!!!

[adventuregirl]

Welcome Blueviolet!

Anna, I think your post about the fears we face in pregnancy was a really good thing to think about. I am trying to find my place in all that, I feel that in my first pg I had no fear and had a surprise and hard time when I lost that baby. But now I sometimes worry about having too much fear and that affecting this baby. Its a weird thing, but I think we all have our own things to learn facing these feelings and finding where and what we need to get to the other side.

It is so cold here today! 20 below, brrr! Jen, now I know how you felt a few weeks ago! Warm fuzzies to all!

[sistermama]

I'm trying to manage my fears about my labor by taking a Hypnobirthing course in the early summer. I had a really long and difficult labor with ds that resulted in me transferring from home to the hospital, where things just got 100 times harder. I don't want my fear of that happening again to turn into a self-fufilling prophecy, so I'm hoping to work on it with positive visualization.

Has anyone done Hypnobirthing before? Or is anyone planning on taking some other kind of course? I didn't take anything my first time.

[Caroline248]

Hey...all of you from TTC...have you checked out the Feb BFP thread?? Some BIG news....

Caroline

[banana girl]

As this is my first pregnancy i am still feeling completely at a loss when my mind considers actual labor. i was joking around with my older sister (mother of two lovely healthy homebirthed, breast fed, co-slept, non vacinated, sugar free, chiropractic toddlers) we were discussing the stages of pregnancy and decided there are 4 stages.

#1 am i really pregnant? I don't feel any different, just hungry and tired...
#2 o.k. so i am pregnant, but I can't quite believe there's a baby in there.
#3 There is definitely a baby in there, but how in the world is it gonna come out?!!!!
#4 I don't care if it has to come out of my nose, just get it out now!

I am still in stage two, my body insists that I am pregnant, but I can't even think about the fact that there is a another human being living inside of me. So unreal....

so no, I haven't really thought much about my fears about labor, cause i haven't quite accepted that it is inevitable! My body will get me there though, i am just so glad i have 9 months to figure this stuff out!!!

love and kisses
Anna

[shannon0218]

Hi everyone,
Thanks so much for all of you well wishes and hugs.
We actually did the D&C yesterday afternoon. If nothing else I think I have perhaps found the best OB out there.
After the ultrasound on tuesday I figured I was stuck waiting 48 hours to hear what was wrong. The doctor actually called here tuesday night and left her home # to have me call back. She told me there was no heartbeat. She offered anther U/S for the next day so I can be sure before doing anything, she even told the tech to allow me to see the screen if I wanted to. She met me in emerg just after and explained this ultrasound showed the same as the one on tuesday. She gave me my options and I had already decided on the d&c. The m/c last time going naturally was terribly traumatic for myself and Steve. To go through that much pain and my blood pressure dropped very dangerously low to leave empty handed was just too much. She fit me in for the d&c at 4:00 yesterday. Spent half an hour talking to us and told me in a month, they would start some major investigations into what is going on. She has some concern it may have to do with my rhueamtoid arthritis but has promised if she can't get to the bottom of things she will refer me to someone who can. We left with her office/cell and home #'s and instructions to call with any questions or concerns. We will likely be waiting a few months before trying again, I think we both need some time to heal emotionally and physically.
Good luck to you all and I will still be lurking to check on your progress!
Luv Shannon

[banana girl]

Hello ladies

my boss stepped out and I think I can sneak in a quick message before he gets back!

Blueviolet welcome! We are glad to have you here with us.

Hey sistermama where did you hear about hypnobirthing classes? I am not even sure what that means, much less where to find out more about it.

Shannon, thanks for checking in with us. We are all thinking of you and feeling your loss. Best wishes for your recovery time. Be good to yourself.

Lova and kisses
Anna

[shannon0218]

Hi Anna,
There is hypnobirthing and hypnobabies. The hypnobabies is more focused on home study but I've heard good things about both. I actually had hypnosis for nausea and it helped tremendously! I had asked the OB yesterday if I had only been feeling better because the baby died, she said with the hormone levels where they were, she felt that while the baby had stopped developing earlier, my body still seemed to be producing hormones and that the heart may have only stopped beating a few days before. The thing that I liked is that in nausea script I got from hypnobabies (my friend does hypnosis and read it to me) it had suggestions that just because you are not sick does not mean your baby isn't alright. The worry had been killing me. Oddly enough, even through this, I'm still far calmer than the previous miscarriage--perhaps because I didn't go through finding the baby was not viable and waiting for things to happen on their own, then going through labor.
Sorry I jumped on a question not addressed to me, but I have been doing the research on it
There is a website [URL=http://www.hypnobabies.com] adn you can join their yahoo group which gets you free access to all the scripts.
Also, a little while back there was a thread on it here that had lots of information.

[JenInMpls]

Well, if my colleagues thought I was overplaying my nausea and exhaustion, they got a reality check today when I bolted out of the faculty meeting for the bathroom.

Anna, check http://www.hypnobirthing.com for a practitioner near you. It looks like you can either send them an e-mail with your location or you can call them.

Shannon, hope you're doing all right.

Content to lie in bed and watch the icicle outside of my window,

jen

[banana girl]

reality check

Jen i envy you your icicle view. I had to run, not walk out of the mailroom today to find the toilet. After painfully barfing my head off, I layed down on the sofa in the staff/ faculty lounge and drifted away..... was staring blankly at the dew drops on the can of soda shown on the front of vending machine... ahh, so wet, so cold.....

Had to go back to work though, hubby has class till 6:00. We have a chiropractic appt at 6:20. My boss needed to leave early today and I don't have a clue where the car is parked.

so i am nibbling on animal crackers, sipping on lemon tea and wishing i was in bed. oh and feeling very very very sorry for myself, just in case you didn't notice. Te hee he

Love and kisses to all
Anna

[austinmomma]

Sept. due date

Hello,
This site was just reccommeded by a friend of mine. I am also due in September (5th) with my 1st. The only scare I've had was being hit by a drunk driver almost two weeks ago. But I am a little relieved because I've since heard the baby's heartbeat at a prenatal check up. Yay! I'm so glad this site is here and that I now have other moms-to-be to chat with. Thanks!

[banana girl]

welcome

Welcome austinmomma! Glad to have you here with us!

sorry to hear about your scare, man i would just want to beat the be-jeezus out of someone like that! The urge to protect yourself and new little one from harm is pretty intense sometimes. I am a first time momma too. am looking forward to hearing more from you.

Well ladies i am finally getting out of here. There is an orchestral group warming up across the hall from me and my headache is starting to warm up with them. Hubby is done with class and we are heading to the chiropractor. looking forward to my adjustment, but not to the drive. BIG SIGH....

Speaking of car rides, i am traveling again this weekend. This weekend we are heading to Champaighn IL. My mommy dearest is visiting from Montana and my whole family is heading there to celebrate 1st quarter birthdays and see momma. Boy, my momma can hardly wait to get her hands on me! She's already sewing baby clothes and stuff. She's so dang cute!

Well hubby is here to get me so i gotta run. Till tomorrow,
Love and kisses
Anna

[JenInMpls]

Austinmomma, thank GOD you're all right! How scary! I'm glad that you and the babe are doing well.

My midwife thought I was due Sept 5 as well, but according to my calculations, I'm due the 2nd. I just tell people "the first week of September". I just can't see how my calculations could be off considering I know EXACTLY when I conceived!

All I want to do is go to bed... but I have mid-year reports to write. BLEAH!

So say jen

[chrissy]

welcome blueviolet and austinmomma!

Anna, your mom sounds so sweet! have a great trip.

Shannon, i'm so glad you checked back in with us. i am thinking of you a lot. i'm so very glad to hear that your provider is being so gentle and helpful with you.

Caroline, yay for hearing your babe's heartbeat!!! what a beautiful sound!

my midwife gave me the phone number of one of her clients who recently delivered and i went to visit her today. she was really nice and it was great to hear her beautiful birth story and how much she loves the midwife. i can't believe i'm really going to do this!!

back to sulk on the sofa,

[badomama]

Hello everyone and welcome to blueviolet and austinmama!

Shannon, glad to hear you had a good experience with your OB. You sound really positive. Very glad you checked back in with us to tell us the rest of the story!

Chrissy, congrats on finding a good mw! Sounds exciting.

The news from the equator is that it is still hot. Kenya just instituted seatbelts and individual seats (rather than smashing 4 into a 3 seater row) on their commuter buses, and I'm really hoping TZ will follow suit.

Has anyone felt their uterus yet? I feel something hardish and puffy (not as soft as my increasingly chubby waistline) above the pubic bone. Could that be it, or just the other organs being shoved out of the way?

Dreaming of icicles in Dar,

Steph