May i Just scream

[Onemagicmummy]

My sister, who was to be my second birth partner, who was going to be looking after my eldest two kids, making tea, helping hubby look after me while he has a break, a cuppa, a pee, who know about this since JANURARY! is not NOT COMING!!!!!! may i just scream!!!!!! i have had prodromal labour ALL BLOODY DAY so im a bit grumpy, but COME ON SIS at least have the guts to TELL ME YOURSELF instead of me finding out THREE DAYS before your due to arrive throught MUM that your not gpoing to make it, and im not even 1oo% sure of the reason why, summat to do with her benefits claim and taking time off and stuff, which i totaly understand but she could of at least TOLD ME earlier on in the week, i may of been able to plan something but not now, oh no, im completely screwed, i now have NO ONE to look afte the eldset two kids while im in labour, i DO NOT want my dad here during that, its not something i am comfortible with and neither is he, there is no way i can afford a doula, not now, i have no one i can ask!! WTH am i gonna do now!! there is no one, and no time and no money!!!

arghhhhhhhh

Kiz

[sky_and_lavender]

Whoa, that sounds so difficult, Kiz! I'm sorry!

I hope this is one of those cases in which things work themselves out. Or maybe someone else (your husband? your mom? a friend?) could help come up with an alternative solution so you don't have to handle it while you're coping with early labor. I'm sending you good vibes for a least stressful outcome. :

[Onemagicmummy]

i have a feeling mum may ready sis the riot act, but it wont change anything really.

gonna have to sleep on it and see what i can come up with tomorrow. im not bothered about having a second person for me, i know i can do it just me and hubby, its the kids that i am worried about.

Kiz

[Spring Sun]

You can ALWAYS find a doula in training that will do it for free. Can you put the word out to your mom community?

[Onemagicmummy]

hmm i could go post on my UK board too. and ring doula UK tomorrow about their hardship fund, i would be more than willing to make a donation once funds got better if they said yes to helping me out.

my worry is its too late, im 39 weeks on Tuesday, they dont know my kids, etc <im a worry wart>

the simplest thing we can think of at the mo is have the 4yr old go with my dad and the younger two if i labour during the day. if its at night its not a big deal as they will more than likely sleep throught it.

off to post on UK board

Kiz

[Michigan Mama]

i hope you can find a peaceful solution!!!!

[Koalamom]

That sounds so tough, especially when you could have the baby any day. I hope it works out for you. I guess you need someone if you are having a hospital birth, but with a homebirth, you could just have your baby at night while kiddos are asleep. That is what happened with this last birth. 2 yr old dd slept through the whole thing.

Yeah I would be totally uncomfortable with my dad there. Not the kind of relationship I would want to establish. Maybe he could take them out for the day so he wasn't around?