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How do you handle christmas time birthdays?

post #1 of 58
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I know its still months away, but i've been thinking about what I want to do for ds's first birthday and infact, all his future birthdays. He was born December 26th, day after Christmas. I'm not sure how to handle a party, if i should even have one. I wonder if anyone would even attend, my family doesn't celebrate birthdays or christmas and dh's family all gets together on christmas. I know the inlaws are going to pressure us to just combine christmas and bday party. But I frankly didn't grow up with christmas, don't care much for it and don't want ds to miss out on having his own special day.

Any suggestions, what do you do for your lo's with similar b days?

TIA!!
post #2 of 58
Definitely vote for separate events. My birthday is in November & it was still combined with Christmas & I hated that. It totally made it feel like my birthday was unimportant. When they're young it really doesn't matter (a one year old doesn't know the difference) but once he's old enough to understand there should be something separate.
post #3 of 58
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Originally Posted by julesdsm View Post
I know its still months away, but i've been thinking about what I want to do for ds's first birthday and infact, all his future birthdays. He was born December 26th, day after Christmas. I'm not sure how to handle a party, if i should even have one. I wonder if anyone would even attend, my family doesn't celebrate birthdays or christmas and dh's family all gets together on christmas. I know the inlaws are going to pressure us to just combine christmas and bday party. But I frankly didn't grow up with christmas, don't care much for it and don't want ds to miss out on having his own special day.

Any suggestions, what do you do for your lo's with similar b days?

TIA!!
And why should he miss out on his birthday, just because it's after Christmas? If people are going to be at your house at Christmas, then can't they be there for his birthday too?
post #4 of 58

My DD was born 12/23

She will be three this year.

Both years we have done something just for her birthday. Usually a party the week of her birthday and we only invite a few people. Grandparents are here for xmas anyway, so it works well.

I want to make every effort to keep her birthday separate from the holidays. December is a busy month around here. We have two December birthday and then Christmas. Whew. I am already starting to shop and save stuff back. lol.
post #5 of 58
oh, this is soooooooooo my problem! My DD1's b-day is Dec. 27th............only it gets worse - my DH's b-day is November 28th DD2's b-day is Nov. 29th and DSD's b-day is Dec. 13th

yeah - it sucks!

Usually what we do is have a "group" party (my nephew's b-day is Dec. 10th) where all family attends AND have their own b-day party too. The past two years I have kind of taken off DD1's b-day because she has been to little (last chance!! LOL).

I didn't grow up with "outsiders" coming to my party (maybe a stray uncle or something). Maybe just leave the door open for family but have a special party for the LO with just you and DH. Cake, balloons, decorations, presents - so he feels special.

Anyways - that is what I plan to do. Have a group party for ALL the kiddo's and have each of them on their actual b-day have a party with us, as well as anyone who WANTS to come over, KWIM?

Well, if this doesn't help at least you know you are not alone!
post #6 of 58
LOL - guess I should have just told you to look at my siggy instead of listing all the b-days again huh?
post #7 of 58
My birthday is 12/25, and even on the same day, it was a big deal to me that there was a separation... it was Christmas until about 3 pm, then it was my birthday.

DDs bday is Nov 29, and while there is a lot going on around that time- Thanksgiving, then getting ready for Christmas- her birthday is for her, and we focus on that. However, we aren't big 'party' people, and tend to do small family get togethers instead of massive stressful events.

DH grew up not celebrating Christmas and birthdays as well, and while we do celebrate, part of the reason we don't do huge celebrations is because I want to honor his comfort level as well. It really isn't a huge issue in our family interactions, if people don't like what we choose, they are welcome to grumble.
post #8 of 58
Same as a birthday at any other time of year -- if you don't give a child a Christmas gift and expect them to remember it in July for their birthday, don't give a December baby a combo gift/celebration either. Two holidays, two celebrations, two gifts (if you do gifts).
post #9 of 58
DD's b-day is Dec. 22, so we face this problem as well. We absolutely celebrate her birthday apart from Christmas. We don't believe in huge birthday bashes or anything, so we spend her birthday making a homemade cake (this is our fun tradition), making ice cream, making punch or lemonade. We have family over and play games and open presents. As she gets older and wants friends at her birthday, I'm thinking of doing a half-birthday party in June.
post #10 of 58
My birthday is Dec 30th, and my DD was born on Dec 9th last year! (Add into the fact that DH has another daughter born on Dec 26th) Needless to say, December is a busy month for us as well!

It was extremely important to me growing up that my birthday was kept seperate from the holiday, and my mother did a very good job at it. It's harder when they're super small, but I remember fondly that on my birthday from about age 6 on, we usually had a special dinner out - the place was my choice - and the family party was combined with the pre-Christmas celebration for cake and presents only because there was quite a bit of travel involved for the relatives. (Close relatives like my grandmother would give presents on my actual birthday) When I got to be a pre-teen, this worked out well because I started having my "birthday party" in June so I could have a pool party with my friends, and just had the special dinner on the actual day in December.
post #11 of 58
My brothers bday is 12/20 and he always had christmas day bday. Everyone went to my grandmas and desert was a huge cake made by grandma decorated for his bday. SO basiclly he had bday gifts and christmas presents the same day.
post #12 of 58
Just like they were in June. I grew up with a brother born on 12/28, and now I have two children that are born around Christmas. I do exactly what I do for the August and March birthdays, no exceptions.
post #13 of 58
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Just like they were in June. I grew up with a brother born on 12/28, and now I have two children that are born around Christmas. I do exactly what I do for the August and March birthdays, no exceptions.
That. My bday is Dec 15 and my parents always had separate events for Christmas and my birthday. There's nothing worse than the combo gift in Christmas wrapping paper.
post #14 of 58
DS was born on the 29th of December. Right now he's too little to care but when he's older I'll prolly do half birthdays for parties with friends.
post #15 of 58
My friend's son was born the 26th of December. It is also her husband's birthday (their anniversary is the 27th? so a busy time of year to be sure). This babe is #4, 3rd boy so they have all the toys and what not they need. Despite that I am sure he will get birthday presents wrapped in birthday paper. His father pledges to make sure of that ut seriously why would it be any other way. If you decided to celebrate half birthdays wouldn't all the other kids want in on that?
post #16 of 58
My ex's birthday is in Dec. 24th. His mom always had a birthday party for him early in the day and that evening have a christmas eve party. I think she handled it rather well. A childhood friend was in the same situation and they handled it the same way. My dh's birthday is in early january and he routinely got passed over for any presents cause it was 'so close to christmas' then saw his other siblings get parties later in the year.
I think it's really important to separate the two celebrations.
post #17 of 58
Thread Starter 
Thanks everyone for you input. Dh's b day is also dec 13 and he often got passed over for b days and isn't too happy about that. I'm thinking maybe we'll just do a small celebration with just us or invite invite family and if they come, great, if not oh well. I'm pretty sure Dh's family will expect to just combine the two, like they do with easter and dss's bday. But it might be more special if its just us anyways. Sigh, to be honest organizing any sort of b day party is kinda overwhelming to me since I never had one for myself, or attended one as a child.
post #18 of 58
I was born Dec. 18th and my parents have always tried to do something separate for me. My youngest was born Dec. 10th and I plan on trying to do something for her for her 1st birthday, though honestly we are having one combined party for all the kids this month since it falls right between all their birthdays and my sister is planning it. Anyway, yes I think that a separate event to celebrate and honor your child's special day is a great idea.
post #19 of 58
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But it might be more special if its just us anyways. Sigh, to be honest organizing any sort of b day party is kinda overwhelming to me since I never had one for myself, or attended one as a child
You also don't have to do a party if you don't want to! My ds1's b-day is Dec. 23, we did a party on his first b-day but none after that. I always give the kids the option of doing something special or having a party. Ds1 hates parties so we usually go the children's museum (his choice). Nice and quiet there two days before christmas! I also have a christmas time b-day so I'm pretty sensitive to it- yes please keep it seperate!
post #20 of 58
DS's birthday is 12-22. We have his friend party around the begining of the month. People go out of town and get busy as it gets close to the holiday.
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