Originally Posted by hempmama
And I know a lot of women who have given birth with an epidural, and not one IRL who has had an epidural headache or related backache. My hospital has an excellent anesthesia department, so maybe their statistics are just lower, but these complications, though they certainly happen, are rare. To the point that in hundreds of women who have shared their birth story with me, not one has had them.
I'm not arguing about how common epi backaches are, because I honestly don't know. However, I do know that my sister had a hellish backache for weeks after her first was born, and chose not to have the epi next time for that reason. I was her major post-partum support person, so I saw it. However, when she tells her birth story, she stops when she left the hospital, except for mentioning how much it sucked having to go back to see him, because he couldn't come home (he was slightly preemie, and they kept him in NICU for 5 days after she was discharged). I've never heard her mention the backache when telling about his birth, but she still had it.
That said, I'm not going to tell anyone what pain relief they should or shouldn't ask for. I find feeling only pressure when there should be pain beyond creepy and terrifying and will probably never understand why someone would want that...but I have a major
problem dealing with numbness, and consider it, in general, to be a far, far worse sensation than pain. For me, getting an epi for labour pain would be trading bad (and yeah - I've had some pretty serious labour pain) for nightmarish. Obviously, for others - maybe most - it's the other way around.