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post #41 of 49
Me too! I also think that since it's only been 9 months since you last did it is making you want the epidural. My kids are all almost 4 years apart and that has a lot to do with the fact that I was not ready to deal with the pain for quite a while.
post #42 of 49
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I have thought of hypnobirth or hypnobabies before (any recomendations about which one is better?) but I have such a hard time making my body relax....I don't feel like I could actually accomplish that.....but it doesn't hurt to start training and trying, I guess!
I haven't actually used the Hypnobabies yet (sorry it sounded like I had...not due till Feb), but I was totally convinced by the testimonials on this board, particularly from Veritaserum, if you can track her down. That's why I recommended it to my sister, which is who I got my kit from. Unfortunately I don't feel like she actually 'chose' to use it during the labor and birth, although everything still went great. I think she favored the CBE she got from the birth center and kind of disregarded the HB.

The Hypnobirthing class I took was exactly what I needed for my first birth, with a private instructor--who introduced me to Mothering! Yay! No complaints from me.

But from what I understand, Hypnobabies goes more in-depth into actual anesthesia techniques, which sounds like what you would benefit from. Plus it is a homestudy course, which is perfect for me with one hypnobirth under my belt and a 3 yr old I can't leave at home a lot.

In any case, like you said, it couldn't hurt to practice. It is absolutely wonderful to give yourself some true relaxation on a daily basis during pregnancy. You repeat visualizations and affirmations of having the birth you want, which helps bring that into reality. My sister and another friend who practiced during pregnancy but didn't really use it during labor said even that made it worthwhile to take the course.

HTH!
post #43 of 49
If epidurals were merely about pain relief with no other complicating factors or side effects, it probably wouldn't be a tough decision! Whenever I start to think how nice it would be to get an epidural, I remind myself of all the reasons I chose NOT to get it in the past. None of those have changed for me.
post #44 of 49
I also thought this way with #7. Isn't that funny? I was really wanting another UC, so the option was out, really. Even when I got into the shower, I thought I should go for that epi, because it was going to get much worse, and it never did. My babies come really fast, so that isn't much of an issue. But, it is still a terrible pain, and after #6, you just don't forget anymore.

Well, God answered my prayer. By the time I was actually having any pain, the baby was born in 1h15m later. But, this is the thing, it was the least painful out of all my labors. I kept thinking that I had so much longer to go, because it just didn't hurt as much as I thought it should.

So, God really answered my prayers on that point. He was also a little peanut though, too, since I had lost a twin early on. So, that may make a difference. I have little babies. Kymberli
post #45 of 49
I have only had one birth (so far); it was in the hospital, drug-free. When I decided I wanted a natural birth it wasn't so much because I was anti-epidural, but because I didn't like all the things that inevitably come with an epidural (the "cascade of interventions). Caths, IV fluids, continuous fetal monitoring, and staying in bed really don't appeal to me. Plus, I know my personality is just really bossy! I like to be in control and I don't like other people (incl. nurses and docs) telling me what I can and can't do.

OP, you've had lots of birthing experience at this point. I'm sure you'll figure what the best choice for you and your baby is.
post #46 of 49
In terms of hypnobabies vs. hypnobirth, I looked up a lot comparing the two and asking on here and the vast majority of opinions I received were that hypnobabies was a more comprehensive program and that people seemed to have more success with it. I used hypnobabies with my last birth and LOVED it. I cannot say enough positive things about it. It actually makes me look forward to giving birth again. I really doubted my ability to be hypnotized. I had learned Bradley with my first and thought I'd be great at it and it all went out the window during labor (granted, it was 28 hours of back labor so that might have had something to do with it). But I just felt relaxed and prepared for my hypnobabies birth. I was so relaxed during the pregnancy (I think partly because you are forced to take time for yourself to practice the skills) and also because the skills themselves help you relax. I was very relaxed during the labor and it was super short- 3 1/2 hours from start to finish. All but 3 contractions were pain free. Just pressure, similar to what it feels like when you get your blood pressure taken. I really could go on and on! Feel free to PM me with any questions!
post #47 of 49
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I have thought of hypnobirth or hypnobabies before (any recomendations about which one is better?) but I have such a hard time making my body relax....I don't feel like I could actually accomplish that.....but it doesn't hurt to start training and trying, I guess!
I've used and taught both and I prefer Hypnobabies for a whole bunch of reasons. I wrote some of them here:

http://www.birthnaturally.org/hypnobirthing.htm

Feel free to PM me if you have more specific questions.

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It is very hard to imagine being happy in a hospital setting where I was a "patient" and my baby was a "patient"....that would be very irritating and frustrating. I will have to do a bit more research about the hospitals here and care providers here and see how bad it would be.
Oh, I hear ya there! I love post-partum at home...even with several older kids. I got very, very little rest in the hospital after my first dd's birth and I was annoyed at how often they found reasons to take her away. Of course, I know more now, but I really have no desire to deal with that immediately after giving birth.
post #48 of 49
I have not read all of the replies, but the first thing that came to mind is the overall hospital experience. Find out as much as you can about the hospital- staff, procedures, room, etc. It's more than just getting the epidural- it's the whole hospital birth that you need to think of.

Best of luck with your decision. I've only had two kids, DD is 8 weeks today, and her labor was fast and furious (2 hrs). I came away saying, "Now I get why people request pain meds! That effing hurt!"

Erin
post #49 of 49
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Thanks for all the responses! Hearing from so many women whom I know share a lot of the same philosophies about childbirth and child rearing as I do is awesome!

I love the idea of going to the hospital, getting an epidural and then just hanging out, having fun with no pain until it's time to push the baby out. I know that actually does happen for some people like that...and I know that there are a LOT of risks and interventions involved...one of which is not enough pain relief, etc.

I have thought of hypnobirth or hypnobabies before (any recomendations about which one is better?) but I have such a hard time making my body relax....I don't feel like I could actually accomplish that.....but it doesn't hurt to start training and trying, I guess!

It is very hard to imagine being happy in a hospital setting where I was a "patient" and my baby was a "patient"....that would be very irritating and frustrating. I will have to do a bit more research about the hospitals here and care providers here and see how bad it would be.

Ugh. I really hate decisions like this!! I love getting the cute baby at the end.....I just wish they could teleport out!
It's my opinion, that if you want it, you should do it. I don't see much difference between this and wanting to VBAC. Obviously, I'm speaking of the emotional aspect. After six births, if you're feeling the strong desire to enjoy a pain-free birth, I think you should try it. It feels so weird for me to say that... Who knows, you may feel completely different towards the end. Your most recent birth was SO recent! I always think "epidurals FTW" for about a year PP! But in the end, I've never had one.
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