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post #1 of 102
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I'm just wondering how your DS & DD call you.Since I have taught my kids to call me "mom" in certain public situations i.e in school, formal settings i.e wedding etc..But they can call me whatever i.e "mommy etc.." when in not in formal public setting i.e grocery shopping just between the 3 of us talking.I wonder if any of you mothers teach that to your kids, or it doesn't matter.Personally I don't see it anything wrong with a 6 & 9yr old daughter calling her mother mommy.Both of my daughters are very sweet and it's a way of showing expressing love, bond, by calling me mommy.Also both of my daughter's babysitter/Pal who is 15y.o I have known her since she was born and know her parents which we are good friends with them.Still to this day she calls her mom "mommy" which I think that's sweet, and don't see anything wrong with a kid any age calling there parent's mommy & daddy.
I think that the reason I do this to teach them to call me "mom" in certain public situations is because I get this from and was taught by my mother.
post #2 of 102
I'm Mama in all situations. I still call my mother Mama.
post #3 of 102
Mama. Sometimes Mommy.
post #4 of 102
? why is mom more formal then mommy? and why must your child be formal when talking to you in public? just asking!

I call my mother mum and my father daddy- and I'm 38!

my son calls me mommy and my husband daddy.
post #5 of 102
Well, DD can't say anything yet, but my DH still calls his mom and dad mommy and daddy. He said he started calling them mom and dad in school and such once he realized that it was not normal. It takes me off guard every time he says "mommy" but I think it is a little sweet. Strangely, BIL (23) calls them mommy and daddy too but SIL (17) calls them mom and dad.
post #6 of 102
Mommy. My kids are 7 and 13. I don't know how long mommy will hold out, but I can't imagine training my kids to call me something else in public.
post #7 of 102
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Originally Posted by Porcelain Interior View Post
Mommy. My kids are 7 and 13. I don't know how long mommy will hold out, but I can't imagine training my kids to call me something else in public.
Well it's not exactly training just teaching them..
post #8 of 102
I have called myself "Mom" and "Mommy" and "Mama" to the boys ever since they were born. My five-year-old uses "Mom" when he is feeling more playfully teasing, more independent, more casual. He calls me "Mommy" most of the time and he calls me "Mommy-Mommy" when he's feeling particularly affectionate (I love that!!! ) He doesn't hardly ever call me "Mama", it's just not his personality (he's been calling me "Mom" since he was a toddler! ) My two-year-old chooses to call me "Mama" most of the time, "Mommy" the rest of the time, and never says "Mom", but again, that's just his particular personality. I have never dictated any rules or guidelines for which of these terms they should use in what situation, since I feel it should be a personal and easy expression of the relationship.
post #9 of 102
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Originally Posted by KimL View Post
? why is mom more formal then mommy? and why must your child be formal when talking to you in public? just asking!

I call my mother mum and my father daddy- and I'm 38!

my son calls me mommy and my husband daddy.
Well the reason I do this I think that it's HABIT the way I was raised also I just think that there's certain time not there's anything wrong with my kids calling me mommy, to call me mom.

I think that the reason I teach this my kids to talk somewhat formal in public so they will have a lasting first good impression.
post #10 of 102
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I'm Mama in all situations. I still call my mother Mama.
Same here. Sometimes when we are playing around my dd will call me mamalyn as well.
post #11 of 102
I'm Momma. Everywhere. Every time.

I call my mom "Mom" and my dad "Dad" in all situations, except occasionally on the phone, I'll call my dad "Daddy". My dd (5) thinks it's hysterical that her 43 year old mother is calling her 85 year old dad "Daddy".

I can't imagine making a distinction between "Mom" and "Mommy". If anyone outside my family cares, they've got way way way too little to think about!
post #12 of 102
DS1 calls me "mom".

DD1 calls me "mommy" and "mama" about equally.

DS2 calls me "mommy" most of the time, and "mama" occasionally.

I call my parents "mom" and "dad" and have done so since I was about 12, I think. I did call mom "my mommy" when I was leaning on her through a contraction somewhere around hour 40 with Aaron, though (context of "I want my mommy").
post #13 of 102
DD calls me Mama, regardless of the situation. Mama is my "other name." I consider it just as solid and official (where DD is concerned) as my legal name. There is no reason to ask her to call me anything else.

I remember the exact moment when my mother told me to stop calling her "Mommy" because I was too old and it made me look like a baby. I was eleven. It still stings. It made me feel like she didn't really want me to be her child anymore and like I was so inherently inadequate that a special facade needed to be put on in public, so that she wouldn't be embarrassed.

Also, I don't understand why you feel "Mom" is more formal than "Mommy." Both are just nicknames for "Mother." I guess you could prefer to be called "Mother" in a formal situation, though I think that would stick out as odd more than it would impress people.
post #14 of 102
I'm mom, mama or mommy. My kids are 3 and 7 and alternate between all 3. I love mama, but I honestly don't care which they use.
post #15 of 102
They both call me mommy
post #16 of 102
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Originally Posted by Mama2Bug View Post
DD calls me Mama, regardless of the situation. Mama is my "other name." I consider it just as solid and official (where DD is concerned) as my legal name. There is no reason to ask her to call me anything else.

I remember the exact moment when my mother told me to stop calling her "Mommy" because I was too old and it made me look like a baby. I was eleven. It still stings. It made me feel like she didn't really want me to be her child anymore and like I was so inherently inadequate that a special facade needed to be put on in public, so that she wouldn't be embarrassed.

Also, I don't understand why you feel "Mom" is more formal than "Mommy." Both are just nicknames for "Mother." I guess you could prefer to be called "Mother" in a formal situation, though I think that would stick out as odd more than it would impress people.
Well I guess that I can loosen up a little..
post #17 of 102
DD calls me "mama" (she's almost 26 months now). Most of the time I refer to myself as mama, but plenty of times I also say "mommy". I would love it if she always called me mama, but I don't mind if she calls me mommy as well. And I guess maybe she'll want to call me "mom" when she gets older, but that will be her choice.
post #18 of 102
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Originally Posted by Mama2Bug View Post
Also, I don't understand why you feel "Mom" is more formal than "Mommy." Both are just nicknames for "Mother." I guess you could prefer to be called "Mother" in a formal situation, though I think that would stick out as odd more than it would impress people.
I agree with this. My mom was a narcissist and very controlling, and very concerned about what people thought of her/us, and she never let us call her "Mom" because she thought it was too casual and disrespectful. We could call her "Mommy" in private and in public we were to call her "Mother". It sounds like your mom may have been very controlling, too.
post #19 of 102
I'm always Mama. This seems like an unusual thing to be concerned about.
post #20 of 102
I think that if you want your children to make a "good first impression" you should concentrate more on their manners and how they address other people in public, not you. Most people are not really going to care if their kid calls their mother "mommy", but they might care if the child calls THEM "Hey you," or "gimme!".

Even though most folks in our circle of friends prefer to be called by their first name, I've taught my kids to try to ask friends' parents, big people at church, ect. what they would like to be called, and to use Mr./Ms. Lastname as a default.

What first impressions are you concerned with, out of curiousity? I do get the concern that many young people today don't know their elbows from their rears when it comes to conventional polite formal behavior, but it generally doesn't come into play until business interviews/scholarship interviews/formal dinners--and let's hope you're not going to be sitting with your child at their first job interview for them to even call you Mommy in the first place!

Are you children otherwise polite? Do they hold open doors for people, use please and thank you, address adults as Mr/Ms/Mrs unless asked to do otherwise, not interrupt other people when they're talking, ect? If so, then they're making good first impressions with the people who are concerned with formality. And if you haven't been teaching them those things, they still are not going to be impressed even if your kids say "Mom" in public.

Still, either way I don't think it's going to scar your children if you have a different preference for them to call you in public, as long as you're not tactless or punitive about how you bring it up. But if you have no preference or you really would prefer something other than mom because you like what they say, then don't worry about what other people think.
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