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post #241 of 338
We are joining the group! My boys start at the local ps on Monday. We have homeschooled for the last 3 yrs. and always said that when it wasn't working for everyone that we would make a change. It stopped working for my boys so we have enrolled them. I am excited for both of them as I think they will love it and do well but at the same time I am sad. In a way for me it is the loss of a dream. I always thought we would be one of those families where the kids all homeschooled and were thoughtful, intelligent, confident and community involved. We would explore together and learn together. It is not that with the kids in ps that we can't do this it is just that now I have to re-frame what it will look like. Sigh...

Anyway, thank you for this thread. Prior to reading it I was feeling a bit like a failure on the hs front.
post #242 of 338
Welcome welcome welcome Runnerbrit!!!
post #243 of 338
First grade is going well for Julian, now. He's in reading intervention with several of his classmates who are behind in reading and he's catching up very quickly, has been reading stuff all over the place and actually reading books for fun! Math, science, and social studies are easy for him and his spelling and writing seem to be fine. He's made a lot of friends and has started walking to and from school by himself, which he's proud of. He's playing afterschool flag football. We have almost no conflict now that we aren't homeschooling. We have all been sick, but we've restarted our winter echinacea/acidophilus/multivitamin regimen so hopefully we're past that.
post #244 of 338
So, mid-quarter academic warnings were supposed to go out last week, and ds12 didn't get one for English, so I thought we were in the clear... guess what I got on Friday? Ds12 is failing English. The "good" news is that it's only by 2 points, mostly it was due to his not turning in homework, and the teacher is giving the class a bit of amnesty. Apparently, lots of students had missing homework. It's against her official policy to take late work, but she gave them the weekend to make it up.

Guess what ds spent this weekend doing? I think he'll think twice before blowing off his homework again, given how much time he spent on it this weekend, and how much I yelled.

I wouldn't have been mad if he'd failed "honestly," but slacking on assignments and letting me think he'd turned them in is just NOT on. I asked ds WTF, and he was fairly incoherent. What I gather is that he didn't understand the assignments, felt anxious, and instead of asking for help, decided to play "If I close my eyes, you can't see me!"

We have to all conference with the teacher, the principal, and the guidance counselor. Bleh. It's especially embarassing, because not only do I work at his school, but everyone knows I'm a former English teacher!

On a more pleasant note, ds5 started Saturday morning by saying, "Thank you for taking me to school, Mommy-- I love it!" Woo hoo for untraumatized 5 year olds!
post #245 of 338
Welcome Runnerbrit!
post #246 of 338
Thank you!

Day 2 and so far all is well. They have 1/2 day all week so the boys are able to gradually get used to the longer school day. The both think the idea of "speed tests" is pretty funny. My 5th grader said "Mom what is the point of doing them fast if you get them all wrong?" Apparently he only finished 1/2 of the problems in the allotted time but got them all right; the rest of the class finished all of the problems, but got most of them wrong. My 3rd grader was happy that his seat mate got a retainer yesterday so that today the little boy could not talk so ds got to do his work "in peace".

Homework - still a novelty - I wonder how long that will last?
post #247 of 338
Did public schools just begin this week, or did your kids start after the school year began?

If it did just start, do you mind sharing what general part of the world you live in? I thought that Long Islanders were among the latest to start schools, and we've been at it a month already!
post #248 of 338
Ruthla - We started the year homeschooling so they are jumping in late.

Anyone here know anything about the GATE program?
post #249 of 338
GATE programs vary greatly from place to place. When done well it can be a great place for kids to stretch their imaginations and creativity. When done poorly it can be seen as extra work you have to do because someone decided you were a bright kid. It can be of social benefit and help in finding kids with similar interests.
post #250 of 338
My dd's school had the PSAT this morning. They encouraged 8th graders to take it for practice. They did a practice PSAT a few weeks ago and it freaked out a bunch of the 8th graders. So, yesterday they said they had come up with an alternate plan for the 8th graders while the rest of the school, except seniors, took the test. If an 8th grader wanted to take the test they could. Well my dd's classes would not be held because they were during the PSAT, so I offered her the chance to stay home. She didn't want to stay home, she wanted to go take the test. So, off to school she went. Of all the 8th graders, there were 3 who chose to take the test. They were all homeschoolers until this year! LOL
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I just got a phone call from one of Alexs teachers about setting up a parent teacher meeting for next week to talk about Alexandria. eeek

post #252 of 338
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I just got a phone call from one of Alexs teachers about setting up a parent teacher meeting for next week to talk about Alexandria. eeek

Any news on the meeting or what it is about?
post #253 of 338


I'm sure it's because she's not able to get the classwork done and has been bringing that home on top of her normal homework. The other day she had 9pages of work that was classwork that came home as homework on top of having to do her normal homework for the day.

She has pretty much failed every test they have had so far, even with us working with her more and trying to help her. This one from last week, she got a 1- Not Proficient

post #254 of 338
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post #255 of 338
Hopefully this meeting will be to set up something to help her- maybe testing that will lead to an IEP, maybe moving her down a grade- but if she's "failing" first grade then it's really that the school isn't meeting her needs- and you need to find ways to get her needs met. Sending her home with extra writing homework is NOT the way to meet her needs!

DD2 is still doing well in school, although we're dealing with a new challenge right now. She's a little bit sick- sick enough that I'd keep a little kid home, but not really sick enough to stay home in high school (while she's in middle school, she is taking 2 high school level classes, and needs to make up missed work in ALL classes.) She didn't relish the thought of having to stay after school to make up a test later this week, especially since there's no guarantee that she'll be feeling any better by then. So she went, even though it would have been better for her body to stay home and take things easy.

It was kind of funny yesterday morning though. She had trouble getting up (since she was starting to get sick but I didn't know it) and then whined "Who said I had to go to school every day?" I responded "You did." She then looked at me kind of sheepishly when she realized I was right. (Of course, she still continued to complain a bit about the way schools were set up.)
post #256 of 338
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I'm sure it's because she's not able to get the classwork done and has been bringing that home on top of her normal homework. The other day she had 9pages of work that was classwork that came home as homework on top of having to do her normal homework for the day.

She has pretty much failed every test they have had so far, even with us working with her more and trying to help her. This one from last week, she got a 1- Not Proficient

I would ask the school to evaluate her. If she is not passing in anything this far into the school year, something is not right. If I were you, I would send in a letter saying you want her evaluated and state the reason being that she is failing all of her tests, is not having enough time to write her words out during spelling tests, having tons of classwork come home, and just not getting it. I am actually surprised that the school has not suggested that she be evaluated, as this is not a normal situation.
post #257 of 338


Chrissy~ Thanks for the hugs

Ruthla~ Thanks for the hugs. I agree it's for sure not working for her. Dh was shocked at the sending home of 9 pages that she wasn't able to complete being sent home as homework

mommy2maya~ I plan on telling Dh to bring that up at the meeting, he suggest that he go to the meeting instead of me.

I found a great looking Private Montessori School but don't think i even want to know how much that would cost lol. I loved how they show the way they do math and stuff on their website. IvyCrest Private Montessori


post #258 of 338
You should both go to the meeting if possible - as it provides a united front.

A child should not be able to bring home 9 pages of unfinnished sheets as homework as a 1st grader should not have 9 pages of sheets during the day!

It sounds like either the teacher or school is not a great fit for your child.

Evaluate her? The idea squiggs me out a little....

If you think there is something wrong i.e a learning disability - then go for it! Have an evaluation done. If you do not think there is anything wrong with her I would skip it. I would change schools (and I sincerely hope there is lots of school choice where you are )

I think some school are very quick to give a child an IEP (my children's old school had something like a 30% IEP rate). Sometimes it is political and about funding, sometimes it is because parents and educators have figured out it is the easiest way to differentiate the curriculum, etc. However it has costs - there is a stigma attached to IEPs to some degree, at least where I live and no matter how much educators say there isn't. YMMV.

Good luck!

Kathy
post #259 of 338
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A child should not be able to bring home 9 pages of unfinnished sheets as homework as a 1st grader should not have 9 pages of sheets during the day!

Kathy

Perhaps sitting down filling out worksheets is not her learning style. I can't think of many 6 year olds who would find it a favorable learning style!
post #260 of 338


kathymuggle~ We have no one to watch both kids so we can go together. Dh wanted to be involved more so he said he'd go to the meeting.
I do think there is something off, she according to the audiologist doesn't have problems with her hearing yet i constantly have to repeat what i asked her a few times before she responds. I know she has a pretty short attention span.


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