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post #301 of 338
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Originally Posted by SoCaliMommy View Post


The 100 No Excuse Words on the paper under those words is says "Here are 100 words that i must always spell perfectly! "
on the back it talks about the test dates and the parties and says Sincerely,
The First Grade Team
So i think all 1st grade classes are expected to learn the words.

Wow, my daughter would have hated that. She was a very weak speller at that age. She was super advanced in so many areas but this would have been beyond her. She would have felt horrible about missing the parties and about failing to meet peoples expectations. I would be steamed.
post #302 of 338
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Originally Posted by Ruthla View Post
Meanwhile, my DD2 is having a hard time with her homework today. She's just not focusing well- but we figured out why. She just got her first period. : So she's crampy and cranky and generally miserable, but excited that she's growing up. She thought she got it two weeks ago, but that was just a little spotting- now she has AF for real.
My dd shocked us with a couple of days of spotting a couple of weeks ago. She is in total denial. (She just turned 11 and is barely over 70 pounds.) I think she has been more distractible as well.

My dd is struggling with catch up work after being sick last week. Right now I am thoroughly annoyed with the Geometry teacher (again). They were assigned a skit while she was out. Everyone else was in small groups or paired, but she gets to do a solo skit. The skit is supposed to demonstrate a theorem. So, on Friday she comes up with the idea of programming an animation of her skit. It is so cute, conveys the idea well, and she can use the school projector to put it up on the big screen. So she pops in early this morning to her Geometry class and asks if the animation would be okay. I told her it most certainly would - it goes above and beyond the assignment. So he tells her - well, I don't know, we'll see tomorrow. Uh, it is due tomorrow. Is she supposed to improv tomorrow if he doesn't like the program? Sigh.....

Oh and she got braces on today, so she's not really wanting to talk a whole lot anyway. Hoping we decide high school is not worth the trouble next year.
post #303 of 338


Well i got last weeks spelling test back.. it shows how confused Alex is about it shes copying the same words twice, kinda like for their spelling homework they are expected to copy the same word 3 times.

I made a copy because the one that was sent home goes back to the teacher signed by a parent.

She has a appt with her dr on the 19th i made the appt to talk about her speech problems and plan to bring up the possibility she has adhd.


post #304 of 338

I may enroll my children in public school before we all have a meltdown

My youngest is special needs. My older children would go to public school to get a break from him. Even I look forward to my youngest being in school so I can get a break from him. We feel awful about this feeling. My in-laws and parents are uninvolved. We have never had a baby sitter and how would I find one for my special needs child. I am burned out. I have done speech and occupational therapy at home (homework from therapists) as well as bringing my son to speech and occupational therapists twice a week for almost 4 years.

Unless you have SN family members it may be hard to relate/empathize. We are very patient and kind people. My three older children are wiser and infinitely more compassionate than many of their peers from direct personal experience.

I didn't have a good public school experience but my children are not me and they might. I am also not my mother so my children will have different experiences.

Sincerely,
Debra, homeschooling mom of 4 ages almost 13, 12, 10, and 6 1/2
post #305 of 338
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Originally Posted by AuntLavender View Post
Unless you have SN family members it may be hard to relate/empathize. We are very patient and kind people. My three older children are wiser and infinitely more compassionate than many of their peers from direct personal experience.

I didn't have a good public school experience but my children are not me and they might. I am also not my mother so my children will have different experiences.

Sincerely,
Debra, homeschooling mom of 4 ages almost 13, 12, 10, and 6 1/2
Debra,
I have one friend who homeschools one child while the SN sibling attends public school and one friend who homeschools her SN child while the younger sibling attends school. They have definitely had to make decisions based on what is doable in their particular situations. While I think they both feel some guilt for not being able to homeschool both kids, I know they are doing the very best for their family as a whole. You play the cards your dealt the best you can!

You are right that your experience with school will not be your childs. I have pretty bad memories of public school, but my daughter has not shared these experiences. In fact, she has been in a couple of situations that I would have found horrifying (I was very sensitive) but she has dealt with easily and with grace. She finds great positives in both homeschooling and now her time at public school.
post #306 of 338
Debra- using public schools doesn't have to be "all or nothing." If you're burnt out by the special needs child, and your school district can provide services for him or her, then it may pay to put that child in school while continuing to HS the others. Alternatively, if the school can't meet DC's special needs, you might want to put the "easier to teach" kids in school so you can focus your energy on the SN child. But, from what you've shared in your first post to this thread, I would first research putting the 6yo in school, then see how you feel about HSing the older three once he's in school during the day.

I would take an honest look at what the schools can provide for each of your 4 children, independently. Realize that a child who'd been HSed for years is likely to need some extra help the first few weeks of school- and if they're all starting at the same time, you may feel overwhelmed in the afternoons after school. It might be better to start the 6yo in school now, while you still have the older three at home. Then, if you feel that HSing still isn't quite meeting their needs (even with a break from the little one each day), you could start them at the beginning of next school year.

It can be hard for older kids to start mid-year, especially in middle and high school when there may be some comprehensive "end of the year exams" that includes material from the first quarter. For a first grader, this really isn't an issue.
post #307 of 338
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I would take an honest look at what the schools can provide for each of your 4 children, independently. Realize that a child who'd been HSed for years is likely to need some extra help the first few weeks of school.
Agreed. My typically developing child started last year. It was an adjustment for her, and she needed a great deal of help with homework for the first few months. (We didn't do a lot of writing when we homeschooled and it took her longer than her peers to do the same amount of work.)

My DD with mild special needs started this year. Getting her through the first 3 months was exhausting, but the last couple of weeks have gone GREAT for her. I enlisted the help of both the school social worker and a private therapist to help with the transition.

I now believe it is completely absurd that mom should do everything all by herself without any support. It's just a stupid idea. That may not be homeschoooling works out for other people, it's how it worked out for *me.*

Both of my kids are more engaged in learning, I'm more refreshed, and they have more friends. Other than the adjustment phase, there really hasn't been a down side for our family.
post #308 of 338
Thank you for your post Linda. I have one daughter in school and have been looking at when to start the others. My son (the oldest child) will probably start in the fall but the two younger girls have me befuddled and your post gives me more words to use when I am thinking.
post #309 of 338
SoCaliMommy----I'm still feeling very thinking about those poor kids who are excluded from a party because they got spelling words wrong. It's abusive and seriously wrong. Have you followed up on this with the principal? (See, I might have spelled principal wrong, oh crap, no dinner for me!!) That is beyond messed up. How is your child doing in that classroom atmosphere? How are YOU doing? God there are some mean people on the planet. Misguided and mean.
post #310 of 338
No, you spelled principal right. The principal is your pal. Not that I was ever "pals" with a principal, but that's the mnemonic I was taught to keep them straight (did I spell mnemonic right?)

But I agree- this kind of thing is just wrong on principle, and talking to the principal about it is a good idea.
post #311 of 338


freestyler~ Things are going okay. I was talking to a friend that is a teacher and she said that is how they get kids to learn stuff is bribing them like that. She seems to be doing okay in class.They do a card system in class and shes been having a green card still at the end of the day which is what they start on, a week or so back she had a really good day and had a pink card.

post #312 of 338
SoCaliMommy - My youngest ds also struggles with spelling. The last few weeks we have been recording the words and he listens to them while he sleeps. He has gone from getting about 50% of his words correct to getting 100% on his last two tests!

Maybe this would help your daughter with her spelling?
post #313 of 338


Things are going okay here, I took Alex to the dr yesterday and he wrote and signed a note saying ""Alexandria requires an IEP as part of her evaluation for speech delay and poor academic performance" so i took that to the school this morning and the lady in the front office said she would give that to her teacher and they would start a evaluation right away. they keep their word and don't try and delay doing a evaluation on her.
Her dr also gave a referral to a Behavioral Health Clinic with a certain dr he's worked with before and the soonest she can be seen by him is Dec 29th so she has a appt for that day set up also.

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How is everyone doing?

post #315 of 338
I have a special request for discussion.

How did putting your children in school affect your friendships? So much of my social life has been with other homeschoolers. With only one child (of five) in school I am not sure where I fit and neither are many of the women I see on a regular basis. I am not sure what I am looking for but I would like to hear what other people dealth with and then how. TIA
post #316 of 338
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I have a special request for discussion.

How did putting your children in school affect your friendships? So much of my social life has been with other homeschoolers. With only one child (of five) in school I am not sure where I fit and neither are many of the women I see on a regular basis. I am not sure what I am looking for but I would like to hear what other people dealth with and then how. TIA
I think it has put a strain on my homeschooling friendships. My dd is half-time in school and half-time homeschooled so we're walking between both worlds and not fitting well in either. Well, I'm not anyway - dd's pretty happy with both most days. I think some of my homeschool friends feel a bit betrayed by our using school, and feel we may be leaving for good. However, I'd be happy to go back to full time homeschooling! LOL
post #317 of 338
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I have a special request for discussion.

How did putting your children in school affect your friendships? So much of my social life has been with other homeschoolers. With only one child (of five) in school I am not sure where I fit and neither are many of the women I see on a regular basis. I am not sure what I am looking for but I would like to hear what other people dealth with and then how. TIA
Well, I kinda cheated. I decided that, with the girls both in school this year, I would be able to focus on DS' needs properly. Last year, he was in school and doing horribly- that school was just a very bad fit for him. So I'm homeschooling him this year.

Every single year, since I started HSing, I've had some in school and some at home. I have yet to have a year with all of them home, and I haven't had a year with all of them in school since I first started HSing.

So I'm still part of the HS group, and I'm still in touch with many of my HSing friends, but it's a different subset of the group because I have an 8yo instead of a preteen/teenager. The moms of DD2's friends have kids around DD2's age, not DS' age. Only a few families have kids in both age brackets. So I'm barely in touch with some of my old aquaintances, and I've made some new friends.

My closest friends, though, were never through the HSing community. I'm closest with people who go to my shul (synagogue) who live near me. I felt I "fit in" very well with the HSing community, but I never managed to make any very close friendships there.
post #318 of 338
Thanks for the responses.

I guess I never felt like I truly felt like I fit in with our homeschooling community as we live in the bible belt and are not religious. I feel like there is a gap in many of my friendships and that some of the more important (to me) real-life, local friendships are not going to survive and thrive as I lean towards putting more of my children in school.

Though I was careful to always say that we took the decision so homeschool on a year-by-year or day-by-day basis I never really thought I would put my children in public school. At this point I can't see homeschool indefinitely into the future.

I still believe in al lthe benefits of homeschooling but no longer feel like I have enough reserves to offer this to my children. It is leaving me feeling a bit lost and lonely.
post #319 of 338
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Originally Posted by mommajb

How did putting your children in school affect your friendships? So much of my social life has been with other homeschoolers. With only one child (of five) in school I am not sure where I fit and neither are many of the women I see on a regular basis. I am not sure what I am looking for but I would like to hear what other people dealth with and then how. TIA


My best friend lives a hour away her daughter is 3months older than my daughter. Before putting Alex in school i was able to drive up there whenever we wanted to go hang out. Now we have to either wait til friday after school and drive up or play hooky her be absent for a day so we could leave early friday morning to drive up.
I have 1 friend around here but we have kinda lost touch, she works now and both her boys are in school. Though i did make a new friend yesterday a mom in my sons preschool class, her boys are 3,2 and a few month old little girl.
post #320 of 338
Ugh.

DD2 was sick last week (over Thanksgiving break too!) and missed the whole week of school. She probably only *needed* to miss 3 days, but it was too hard for her to pull herself together and deal with a whole school day, and start making up work, when she was still sick.

So she went back today. She's still not 100% health-wise, and now she has all this work to make up, AFTER a full day of school. This is something that's new to us. The last time she was in school, she was young enough that missing school wasn't such a big deal. Coming back to school meant easing back into the routine, not jumping back in with extra work besides.

She's having a rough time tonight. She's tired and overwhelmed but she still has so much to do.
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