It seems like dh doesn't like the new baby - Page 2

[Mama2 '05'06]

((Hugs!))

My dh has gotten more distant with each baby. When dd was born, he'd rush home from work to hold her. He rarely changed diapers but will if he has to. He's just not big on the baby stage. When they get to where they can play and interact with him, he likes them better. Now at 21mo, 3yrs, and 4yrs he enjoys taking them to the park, to the hardware store LOL etc. But....he wants little to nothing to do with me. It makes me mad, jealous, and heartbroken all at once. Its like he likes the kids more than he likes me. He also refuses to talk about it. Tells me I'm making it up so I have somethin to complain about.: ANyway. I hope you get it worked out.
HUgs!!!!

[GenomicsGirl]

Wow. He doesn't care, so he walks away and ignores you mid-sentence. He refuses to change diapers, too. Lovely. : I don't know how long you should "give" him to snap out of this - it sounds like he's angry and isn't going to communicate with you at all. He seems to have no respect for you, actually. I'm sorry if I sound harsh, but I wouldn't wait it out - I'd be up in his face demanding an explanation. Maybe that wouldn't make him feel better, or improve, but it certainly would make me feel better! I'd need to get it out, I'd need to at least tell him that he's not supporting me or showing his new baby love.

[mymary]

Originally Posted by 2boyzmama

Men can--and often do--go through their own versions of PPD, so it's possible that's some of what the problem is for your husband. You can try to bring it up yourself, or you can call your OB/MW or you husband's PCP and ask for their advice.

This IS true! I'm from January, but my husband goes through a change after each baby is born. He gets a little pouty. Not to that extent, but they feel the change too and they get a liitle weird. Hopefully, this will pass.

[marlygf]

There's got to be some way you can talk to him about it. I mean just find out what is going on in his brain. See if he would admit he isn't happy about the baby. I mean even if he isn't at least he could admit it and you could start doing something about it. I mean that's what a relationship is about. He needs to be able to open up to you. Explain you aren't trying to nag him, you just want to understand where he is coming from. This just doesn't sound good and if not taken care of will just get worse.