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8/11/09 at 6:27pm
How sad for your nephew and your brother- and you! I'm so sorry!
Sounds like your brother and nephew would benefit from some respite care or an occasional in-home health aide. Does your brother have a social worker or a contact at his ds's school who works with his disability? They may have resources at their disposal to help them.
I wish I could tell you more. If you know the name of the school your nephew goes to, perhaps you can anonymously report this information to the disability co-ordinator at the school, and he/she could look into it. It's hard to do something from so far away.
Good luck! I hope more ideas come your way!
The big unknown is how will he react to the suggestion that he needs help with substance abuse. After dealing with this problem with his ex and going to Al-Anon, he knows about addiction inside and out. So I'm sure he can see it in himself if he decides to acknowledge it. I think this issue is key to his being able to handle his emotions. I'm going to bring it up, but I may get serious resistance from him, in which case, I'll have to reassess my options. It's also the type of thing that can easily be hidden from or missed by social workers, so again, CPS isn't not the easy answer (at least at this point - to be clear, I have not ruled it out).