Accountable Kids

[koru]

In attempt to decrease threats & yelling & yucky parenting behavior, I recently bought the Accountable Kids kits to try and encourage, well, accountability. (www.accountablekids.com). My kids are still young, 6, 4.5 & 2, but DD1 & DD2 are getting to ages where I believe they can start doing a few things without me having to remind them over & over (and over & over) again. So far I've just started reading the book & looking at the materials but I'm wondering if anyone out there has tried this & what your opinions are. Thanks!

[koru]

Anyone?

[Surfacing]

The values it espouses are attractive: self-control, self-discipline, integrity, respect, motivation, etc. Reminds me of the values Barbara Colorosso (sp?) works to develop in her parenting techniques in her book, Kids Are Worth It.

I haven't used the resource you're talking about it, but it looks pretty good to me. I know some here are very much against a sort of reward system. But I think for some kids it really does work. My older dd1 really THRIVES on that sort of structure and is a much happier person when there are clear guidelines and attainable results. Do you think your children like that sort of structure?

[koru]

Thanks, Surfacing. I still go back & forth about the rewards thing but I appreciate the fact that the AK program encourages intermittant rewards as a way of encouraging your kids & not one-to-one rewards that tends to foster behaviour only for the reward. And I also like the fact that I make up my own rewards. Like just now, for instance.....I asked my girls to clean up their mess in the living room before heading upstairs for showers & bed. They were dawdling & chatting & playing and I casually went in & reminded them that the faster they clean, the more books we get to read before lights out. They finished, lickety split, and ran upstairs to hop in the shower. Now that's a reward!

I also recently talked with someone who said the AK program used to be more rewards & punishments but they modified it to exclude the punishment aspect, which I appreciate, as well.

Anyway, thanks for commenting. Anyone else have some first hand experience?