People should not post differently to one forum than they would to another.
Questions about books belongs in that forum, if one desires opinions from parents of young readers then they should state they want opinions from younger readers. It doesn't really belong in the gifted forum.
I am very, very concerned about this.
From some of the response I'm reading, I'm concerned that there is a lack of understand of what giftedness entails. Giftedness is not about just about being smart.
The Columbus group definition is particularly telling.
Giftedness is asynchronous development in which advanced cognitive abilities and heightened intensity combine to create inner experiences and awareness that are qualitatively different from the norm. This asynchrony increases with higher intellectual capacity. The uniqueness of the gifted renders them particularly vulnerable and requires modifications in parenting, teaching and counseling in order for them to develop optimally. (The Columbus Group, 1991).
People shouldn't post differently from one forum to another? I honestly do not understand. If I wasn't going to post differently, than why is there even a gifted forum? I'm not even sure I understand what should be posted in a gifted forum then. A question on a book, is a very classic item a gifted parent would want input from other gifted parents on, and is a question I've seen on any gifted forum I have ever read.
As the definition states above gifted are particularly vulnerable.
If I have a 5 year old who is reading at a 4th grade level, and need to find an age appropriate book for that child, that isn't going to emotionally affect them, then a community of gifted parents that have BTDT with their children are the best people to answer that question, because they have dealt with that issue before. I have posted these sorts of questions on other generic forums before, and the response I have gotten have never been sufficient as to what I would get from those that have dealt with this.
Originally Posted by abimommy
There are so many issues that are gifted but do not seem that way at first glance. For example, my middle child is extreme. He is intense and emotional and sensitive. He has a meltdown a day about one thing or another. From the outside, someone might think he just has behaviour problems and might "move him" to childhood years, but that's not the case. He is the way he is because of how his system and mind work, and yes, from being gifted (and asynchronous).How would moving my thread about him (which is hypothetical) to childhood years benefit me or my son?
That would likely be moved to Gentle Discipline where there are people with extensive knowledge on normal childhood development and may have techniques that could assist you.
If you wanted input from those who post in the gifted forum and would like to direct them to your thread then you could post to the gifted forum in order to direct them to the thread in GD.
Understand I'm not being 'elitist', I'm not criticizing, I'm just trying to help folks understand here.
The above I find beyond concerning.
The above is absolutely about being gifted, and being gifted is NOT normal childhood development. That is what folks are saying here.
GIfted is special needs.
I have a child that is 6 and almost 7 that will melt down screaming, hitting, enraged, slamming doors.
This is all about the special needs of gifted.
This happens to her because
a) Overexcitabilites. These are far more prone in the gifted population compared to the norm. The book Living with INtensties talks greatly about Dabrowski's Overexcitabilities and the gifted. It has to do with a gifted child is often 'more'. They are 'more' intellectual, they are 'more' imaginational, they are 'more' emotinoally intense. In fact a very good article on gifted is one called Intensitive, which combines the word intensive with sensitive and talks about these within the gifted child.
b) Reactive hypoglycemia. This is something that happens with intense gifted kids. Why? Because these kids will deplete their sugar stores far more rapidly than the norm. Even if a child does not have reactive hypoglycemia, the reality is many gifted kids have so much mental processing going on that they deplete those stores quickly.
So, my daughter has a meltdown. The Gentle Discipline board can't help me with the issue, because that is not what the issue is related to. This IS a gifted issue. The issue is related to the OE's of a gifted child, and because my child on a normal day of processing goes through her sugar stores faster than the norm because of the amount of processing happening in the gifted brain, and during a growth spurt it goes through it that much more.
Information that I've gotten from parents on gifted board is what has helped me with it. Talking with parents in my daughter's gifted class, the one's that have kids hitting all five of those OE's strongly, understand EXACTLY what I'm going through, and the tips of how to deal with these strong OE's, and meltdowns. This is not knowledge as part of 'normal childhood development', but information I've only, ONLY learned and discovered through books specific to gifted, and gifted boards.
This isn't about creating an inclusive board, but having a board with a knowledge base of gifted children.
Giftedness is NOT just about that IQ factor.
Please, please explain what is 'acceptable' then to discuss?
I can't ask about input for unschooling a gifted child. If I can't ask for that, it seems I can't ask for input about schooling my gifted child since that is another board.
Does that mean that a parent with a special needs child that is autistic has to go to the school board to ask about schooling their special needs child, and then link back to the special needs board?
I go to the special needs board and one of the first topics that comes up is
"Any suggestions to calm down high energy 3 yr old? "
"Anxiety & negative behaviour with other kids (very long)"
Why is that acceptable on a special needs board, but an analogous thread about asking about dealing with meltdowns in a gifted child isnt' acceptable on a gifted board??
In my personal view BOTH are fine, because BOTH are dealing with special needs that the parents of a special needs child, whether gifted or autistic is in the best position to answer. It doesn't mean others might not have input, but just as a parent of an autistic child would want input from parents of autistic children when dealing with meltdowns, anxiety, negative behavior, so would a parent of a gifted child.
I do not understand the double standard in regards to these sorts of items aren't acceptable for a gifted board, but are acceptable for a special needs board, when the reality this is all part and parcel to what giftedness is. To me all I can conclude is that there is a lack of understanding that giftedness also entails far more than just a raw IQ number.