Why are the MDC members who use the gifted forum being asked to justify why their threads belong there? Why are we not asking that of the Waldorf forum or the special needs forum or the multiples forum? I'm sure that if the parent of a child with special needs posts about needing advice for handling a three-year-old's meltdowns, there are plenty of people on the gentle discipline or childhood years forum who could offer advice. However, someone might choose to post such a question in the special needs forum because they want answers from parents who might be dealing with more similar issues. Sure, there are probably some parents in gd or childhood years who could also offer good advice, but why should someone have to wade through all the posts of people who don't understand the situation in the same way because they haven't been through anything similar?
Originally Posted by artgoddess
I think that in answer to your questioning why only the gifted forum needs to "justify" their questions belonging in the gifted forum is off base. This happens in all of the other forums, threads are moved, people are reminded that something belongs elsewhere, and it can be frustrating when you don't think that you posted it in the wrong place, but it is moved anyway. So it's not just here, if you read the other forums regularly enough you will see that.
Second if you really and truly don't want your thread to benefit anyone but yourself, and you only want specific answers that apply to your specific situation exactly then I think a parenting forum isn't the place to ask the question. That's kind of the point of forums, and yes threads are going to get sidetracked and there are going to be people that go on and on about their own situation when it clearly doesn't have any bearing on what you asked in the first place. It's the nature of a place with a thousand or more members. if you need something more specific I am sure you can find a gifted only, prove it with a faxed copy of your kids assessment, kind of forum to post your questions and then only receive answers from people with kids who have children with intellects that match your own kids.
First, I recognize that threads are moved, and in most cases they have made sense to me.
But, if we don't want our threads to benefit anyone but ourself??? Wanting a forum with a pedigree?? Seriously?
That isn't what anyone is talking about at all.
What rainyday stated, and what I stated earlier, is what what is concerning to me.
On the front page of the special needs forum are two questions specific to the discussion we are having. To me the questions of calming down a high energy child, and anxiety/negative behavior are absolutely
pertinent in a special needs forum. While general advice can be great, there is going to be advice that is a parent of a special needs child may want for people that have had similar experiences. More importantly, there may be some advice that really only a parent of a special needs can give. I would never make such a statement that 'these parents are only trying to benefit themselves, and that they should get their own board and prove their kids are special needs'.
What concerns me is when it is being specifically said, that questions along the lines of behavior aren't pertinent to a gifted forum, and should only be on a generic forum. (The explicit example of a gifted 3 year old tantruming was given, when they writer of said thread specifically stated that much of it HAD to do with the child being gifted. )
I think the point is still being missed.
A child that is special needs... it isn't something that just affects IQ, it affects many aspects of them from behavioral to social.
A child that is gifted, IS special needs. It isn't just IQ, it is something that can affect them behaviorally and socially. There are entire books that discuss this.
Of course, there are times my questions are best served in another forum. My breast-feeding issues with my very high needs and highly gifted daughter I dealt with on the breast-feeding forums. There are other time, my behavioural questions are best dealt with on a gifted board.