Originally Posted by greeny
I would never agree to supervise 4 kids at a pool.
Me too, and I have taken some basic life saving lessons which included dragging a struggling non-swimmer to safety from deep water, basic mouth to mouth and CPR (though I really out of date on those, maybe I should get a refresher course.) Though these skills may one day be necessary, I want to avoid the need for them first. I don't even take just DS swimming all by myself, I only take him to places with active lifeguards. There is just too many things to pay attention to, to believe that one will never take an eye off the toddler.
I would not go the life jacket route. Honesty, I think most water safety flotation devices give a false sense of security. If your DS hadn't been wearing water wings, then your MIL might have used better judgement about letting him near the pool at all.
The fact that there was also a kiddie pool that was for your DSs, actually worries me more. That means that her attention was split between the older kids in the big pool and the younger kids in the little pool. MIL could not have possibly kept an eye on both pools constantly.
Though I do think the lifesaving classes are a good idea, it is only a start. I would also insist on the following:
- two adults present when the kids are in big pool
- constant supervision for the kiddie pool
- a safety fence for the pool (you could offer to slit the cost)
The simple fact that the 2 yo fell in the pool, doesn't seem like a big deal in and of itself. If it had happened when she had another adult present and she knew lifesaving, then I would not think twice about letting her watch him again. Under proper circumstances, he would be rescued swiftly and proper first aid could be administered. However, it happened under circumstances where he was saved by the grace of water wings and was simply lucky. If he had been in distress she wouldn't be able to resuscitate. Since she was alone had it happened more quietly she might not have heard it. Also, since she was alone the other three kids were basically unsupervised while she rescued the 2 yo.