Originally Posted by Daffodil
Speaking of body image, reading these posts has me thinking that it's really kind of sad that girls are expected to go through all this pain and hassle for the sake of looking pretty. If a girl hates having her hair combed to such an extent that she's regularly screaming and trying to avoid it, it seems like the obvious solution is to give her a short haircut and stop torturing her. Isn't it interesting that so many girls want to keep their hair long anyway? There are obviously some powerful messages out there about being pretty. I wonder if keeping a girl's hair long even if it's making her suffer gives her yet another message that long hair and looking pretty really are important.
In my older daughter's case, she wants long hair because she likes long hair, simply because she likes it long, not due to any outside influences.
She likes to swing it around, she likes to brush it, she likes to swing her head back and feel it tickle her back.
It's got nothing to do with pretty for her.
My younger daughter has no opinion as of yet regarding hair length.
My younger daughter gets the worst tangles and her hair is very short.
There is no suffering involved with either. Sure, they get tangles, and I gently take care of their hair.
Length of hair doesn't cause tangles. It can make it worse for some hair types, but not necessarily.
I just wanted to say in our household, there is no pain as long as I'm patient and gentle.
They both went through the screaming while being combed/brushed because I was in a rush and not so gentle which programmed them to expect some pain.
So for a very short period of time, the youngest one would scream if I even suggested I needed to brush her hair, before I even had the brush. But then again, she's an overly dramatic Leo. Everything is a big deal according to her.
Once I changed my approach, which I did very soon, they no longer disliked the experience itself.
I remained calm, I took it slow, and never forced them to stay through to the end.
If I could get some done, I was happy, even if the younger one would run off before I could finish much of anything.
Now, they bring me the brush if their hair is feeling out of sorts and ask me to brush their hair, or insist upon doing it 'by myself!'.