X posting help

[amlikam]

is there a feature to do this? are there times when it is okay to do- or is it a big NO-No??

thanks for your help!

[JessicaS]

There is not a feature to assist with cross posting.

It is permitted.

To cross post simply start a new thread in the forum you are cross posting in and post the link to the thread you are cross posting.

[RandiFlowers]

Disappearing posts and cross-posting problems

That was odd... my question didn't show up this morning. This has been an odd transition from long-time lurker to participant.

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I've been lurking for ages @ MDC, and only just registered today. Unfortunately, the forum I've been following most often has been closed to new posts.

I've read through a series of discussions/debates on the issue of selecting an appropriate forum and am now quite wary of offending others with my potentially errant post.

I have a 4yo son who is still in diapers. He began reading spontaneously at the age of 3y1m, comfortably handling Frog & Toad, etc. He's always enjoyed reading with me while breastfeeding and we've been hoping to separate the two experiences. After reading much on the topic (here and elsewhere), we attempted CLW, but because of my recurring mastitis, we decided that it was time for PLW... cold-turkey, as a matter of fact. This has led to tantrums when offering him bottles of formula. He says he's not a baby and should not have to take a bottle. And now he gets very upset about not being able to read while having his special time with me.

As he is still in our family bed, we are facing the added challenge of his refusing to stop reading when we say so -- he even sneaks a flashlight into bed to try reading under the covers. My SIL, who works at a Waldorf school, says that he is clearly not ready for reading yet and that all this extra reading might actually be harmful -- causing some of the problems we are experiencing. Something about him still having his baby teeth or something -- I forget exactly.

My MIL says that we coddle him too much and need to take greater control, but we really struggle with his excitability and have found our familial arrangements to be quite comforting to him.

My MIL also stresses over the fact that he is still using diapers. She says that a child as smart as he is shouldn't need them anymore. I guess I agree, but have been battling with him on this issue for some time. He uses his diaper as an excuse to not use the facilities prior to bed. He reasons very well for his age. We swear it's like dealing with our DD10 sometimes! (We've had him tested, he is likely HG or EG -- she's perfectly normal, though, thank goodness.)

So the bottom line is, where exactly should I post this problem? Is it ok to cross-post everywhere that might be appropriate?

[fullofgrace]

Right now the Gifted Forum is closed, as is stated by the MDC Administrator in the thread at the top of that forum:

Originally Posted by georgia

I am extremely sorry for the inconvenience this may cause, but in an effort to get a handle on member criticism and complaints, the forum is temporarily closed to new posts while we are reviewing. Thanks for your patience with us! Please PM me with questions

At this time, you can pick one forum in which each separate issue fits and post it there. Post your diaper concern in Diapering or one of its Five Subforums. Post your family bed & bedtime problem in The Family Bed and Nighttime Parenting. Post your breastfeeding concern in one of our Five Breastfeeding Forums. And so forth.

Better focusing each question individually will clear the way to more helpful answers. (It'll also increase your post count, opening more forums! )

Also -- If you posted a thread here that is awaiting moderation, please await the administration to approve it and answer it rather than posting to a separate thread. They prefer things handled that way. If you have some sort of immediate concern, just send them a Private Message -- georgia & abimommy. Thanks for your understanding and patience.

HTH!!

[fullofgrace]

Also, if for whatever reason there are members of a particular forum you want to answer your parenting problems more than others, you can add them to your Friends List and send those individuals a Private Message. You can send messages to up to 5 people at the same time, so it could operate as a miniature private yahoo or google-type group. Our subforums aren't for that purpose, but Private Messages are, so if you want certain answers, that is an option for you.

HTH!!!