Advice Needed: Best Friend's Wedding planned for one week after my due date. - Page 2

[Belle]

Its sounds like the identical thing that happened to us for our first baby.

My SIL planned her wedding on Sept 4 and our baby was due Aug 27. We told her not to count on her brother (dh) being able to make it to her wedding. He told her flat out he wasn't going to leave me if I was in labor or wasn't feeling up to leaving the house. We told her we might go if I was still pregnant. But dh wasn't going to pay for/get fitted for a tux that he might not wear.

What actually happened was I had the baby Aug 17. So she was around 3 weeks old at the time of the wedding. We brought her along with us. She nursed in the church during the ceremony and slept through the extremely noisy reception at an irish restaurant. It worked out pretty well.

[junipermuse]

I wouldn't plan on being able to go. I'd ask for permission to change my mind of course if I felt up to going, but I can't imagine really wanting to go. If the baby has been born but is a week or less old, there is no way I'd take a baby that new around all those germy people. With dd I was still extremely uncomfortable nursing in public (though I got over it after a month or so), I would have been a nervous wreck. In fact nursing was still miserable for me at this point because my nipples were still cracked and bleeding. Also if baby has a fussy period it is likely in the early evening, which is usually when weddings take place. That also would have been nerve wracking for me. I would hate not having something nice to wear to the wedding, but I can't imagine trying to find something to wear to the wedding in my first week postpartum. Also I was still having a lot of discharge (much more than a typical period) and would be worried I'd leak all over the place. And sitting was also very painful for me at 1 week postpartum.

On the other hand with dd I went a week overdue, so I imagine in your situation I would still be pregnant. Unfortunately I was miserable being overdue and all I wanted to do was hole up in my house and not talk to anyone. There is no way I would have wanted to go socialize with people at a wedding. Also I was so huge by that point that even if I had a nice maternity dress it wouldn't have fit anymore. I would have had to go in jeans and a maternity shirt that now looked like a bare midriff top.

It would also be very likely that you were either in labor or have a baby much younger than a week old. I would certainly not count on being able to go.

[jweiwren]

Thank you!

This was the first time I have ever posted a question - anywhere! And I can't tell you how surprised and thankful I am for all the responses.

It looks like there is just no way of predicting, no one right or wrong thing to do, and I'm going to have to play it by ear and see how I feel at the moment - which seems to be the general theme for parenting in general.

Thank you everyone. Fingers crossed that I'm still pregnant. That seems like the best case scenario...

[billikengirl]

We're due date twins and I cannot imagine trying to make that decision NOW, no matter whose wedding it is. Looks like you're thinking the same thing. I hope your friend will be understanding and you won't be disappointed no matter how it turns out.

[tireesix]

I would wait closer to the date!

It all depends on how you feel.

For me, DD1 was induced and I was really not able to go anywhere or do anything for a few weeks after.

DD2 was 3 weeks late but it was a fairly good birth, however, for the first week or 2 after, I was really stuck with major SPD so could barely move

BUT

With DD3, she was right on time and I was happily up and about a few hours later.

So yeah, it is all going to be totally dependent on how you are feeling and what is going on with you!

ETA: Ooooooooo, and my last 2 babies are november babies, DD3 was born on November 1st and DD2 was born on November 24.

Another ETA: Just to warn you, both my November children are full on loonies!