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post #1 of 175
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Hi,

I am hoping for some guidance on how to deal with my neighbor. We live in a duplex, and he smokes a lot! I really don't care what he is doing on his side, but my side is saturated in a weed smell, and I am not okay with that. I have gone over to talk to him when the smoke was especially strong and basically said that the smoke is coming in through our basement and throughout the house, this is not cool, I don't care if you smoke, I just don't want to smell it when you do, please figure something out. The following two days were better and now it's back as it was before. What is the next step to resolve this, I have mentioned it to my landlord-nothing changed. I would rather avoid having to call the police, because I think that would create a high tension living situation afterwords. Right now I feel like just moving to avoid further confrontation, but that is not really realistic. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks!
post #2 of 175
You know, I suggest you loan him a fan, ask him to point it out a far window while he smokes. Then the other solution is to get a fan for your place that will push the smell back through where it comes in?
this is a sneaky idea, but maybe call the fire department? play dumb, like, "smoke is pouring in from my neighbors apartment, I think he's asleep in there, and it smells funny."
post #3 of 175
I second the use of fans. One for you and one for him.
post #4 of 175
Heh I love the fire dept idea... but I'm also PMSing right now.
post #5 of 175
I personally would approach him at a time when he's not in the middle of smoking the stuff before taking further action. Because, to be entirely honest, talking to him when the smoke is especially strong might not stick.
post #6 of 175
You can't really her people do stuff they don't want to do.

A pp said wait until he's not smoking up, but how will you know when he isn't high?
post #7 of 175
It's pretty easy to tell when someone is high or not. Mainly the zoned out stare, blood shot eyes and red face.
post #8 of 175
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Originally Posted by sisteeesmama View Post
You can't really her people do stuff they don't want to do.

A pp said wait until he's not smoking up, but how will you know when he isn't high?
bolded mine

so what if hes high? stoners have a strong sense of comradeship and community (ime) he may be more willing to listen if she goes over with cookies right after the smoke subsides

seriously tho, he needs to learn for HIS sake to control his smell. pot is still illegal. If you go down with the stance of "I can smell your smoke, so can they" he will probably at least make an attempt to curb it. good luck!

oh... are you upset that it's *pot* or because it's smoke?
post #9 of 175
No advice, but I'm sorry you're going through this. Pot stinks, the smell of it makes me ill.
post #10 of 175
We are having the *same* problem right now! New neighbors moved in on Aug. 1st. We have townhouses and theirs is the exact same floor plan as ours, just mirrored. So our children's bathroom upstairs is right next to their upstairs bathroom. I opened the door the other evening to go run them a bath and the smell was SOOO strong!! I hate the smell of pot.
DH and I aren't sure what to do. The neighbors are really nice & we don't want to make any problems. But I don't want my kids to have to smell that crap.
I'm thinking that if it happens again, I'll just go over and ask them to please do it somewhere else, because we can smell it.

OP- since you've already asked, I would maybe give it one more chance, if you feel like being nice. What did the landlord say when you told him about it?
post #11 of 175
I would definitely suggest to him some incense, and some fans. Please don't get the fire dept or cops involved in this...it seems like more a pet peeve than anything else. ( I don't want to get into the legality of smoking MJ. I am of the camp that it is a ridiculous prohibition, and heck, the man is smoking in the privacy of his home, he is not out on the streets or out in traffic. The smell is what I am thinking is bothering you, because I somehow doubt that the actual smoke is invading your home...) I used to have neighbors that cooked the worst smelling food I've ever smelled. It annoyed me to no end, but it wasn't exactly hurting me in any way shape or form.

Hope you guys can resolve this peacefully.
post #12 of 175
Isn't smoking marijuana illegal? I'd call the police. Every time. Totally unacceptable to do anything less, IMO.
post #13 of 175
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Originally Posted by KweenKrunch View Post
Isn't smoking marijuana illegal? I'd call the police. Every time. Totally unacceptable to do anything less, IMO.
Yeah............no. It's a rental, and if she ends up getting her landlord's tenant in jail (no money for the landlord), it could end up a problem for her.

I second the cookies idea or the "if I can smell it, so can they" idea. If it doesn't work, the fan is a good thing too.

This guy is harmless - annoying, but harmless. Calling the cops on him is overkill and irresponsible. Cops are overloaded with REAL criminals.

In the meantime, have YOU (OP) tried burning incense? Or baking? I find that that tends to cancel out the pot smell from OUR neighbors.
post #14 of 175
I'm in the Call the Police camp. I'd contact the landlord again and if nothing changed, call the police. I don't understand why everyone is apologizing for this guy and suggesting the OP bake him cookies!
post #15 of 175
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Originally Posted by alfabetsoup View Post
I'm in the Call the Police camp. I'd contact the landlord again and if nothing changed, call the police. I don't understand why everyone is apologizing for this guy and suggesting the OP bake him cookies!
post #16 of 175
it's second hand smoke. so it's not "harmless" -- in fact, it is harmful.

i have *no problem* with people smoking pot.

would i want to breathe a neighbor's second hand smoke. hell no.

would i want my *children* to breathe it? double hell no.

if this guy is too zoned out to be embarassed/worried that the neighbors can smell his pot smoke, he really is asking for trouble.

now, if it were my situation, what i think i'd do is 1) try to screen out the smoke from my own home, somehow. it sucks that this is happening in summertime when the windows are usually open. you shouldn't have to shut *your* windows. he should be shutting *his*. i'm not crazy about the incense idea -- it's a convenient cover for the pot smoker to cover his odor, but it does nada to erase the harmful reality of the second hand smoke. that's your real problem IMO. you should have fans going in your home to attempt to blow out the smoke. this is for your own benefit.

2) the second thing i would do is try to talk to the guy again. assuming he works -- try to catch him on his way to work or when he's returning home after work. make this conversation about "second hand smoke." you don't necessarily need to mention that it's pot smoke bothering you, although it's certainly your right to complain about that, too. i would just really impress upon him that you have young children and they have fragile respiratory systems and are being negatively affected by the second hand smoke that is drifting over on a regular basis -- and what can he do to stop this from happening, please? tell him that you don't want to have to call the police about pot smoking, that's not what this is about, but you do need it to stop, and you need him to be the one to take action to keep the smoke in *his* house, instead of drifting over to yours. can he please open the windows on the side of the house that is not next to you, and keep the ones next to you shut? can he please run a fan that blows the smoke in the direction opposite of your shared wall? is it possible that he could only smoke in the rooms that are further away from your shared wall?

if it were me, i would be nice but very insistent about it.

sorry but i'm just not a big fan of second hand smoke. my own husband smokes (just regular cigarettes) and he only does it on the breezeway downstairs, but since we had a new addition added to our house, we now have a room above the breezeway, and wouldn't you know, the second hand smoke drifts up. i've complained but i'm not trying to get him to quit altogether (though that would be nice, quitting is something that the addict has to decide himself and it won't help to harp at him). but i've come back with suggestion after suggestion, and we have finally arrived at a solution that involves open windows in the breezeway, as well as open screen door. i'm no longer catching his second hand smoke upstairs, and i'm grateful. next challenge will be when it's winter, and DH doesn't want to have open windows b/c of "expensive heat loss" and my reply will be that we can save a ton of money if he quits buying cigarettes -- but that's besides the point of helping the OP with her situation.

to the OP: good luck with this challenging situation.
post #17 of 175
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Originally Posted by alfabetsoup View Post
I'm in the Call the Police camp. I'd contact the landlord again and if nothing changed, call the police. I don't understand why everyone is apologizing for this guy and suggesting the OP bake him cookies!
Because pot smokers are harmless. The cops have real crimes to deal with and it's a waste of time, resources and tax payers money to call the cops on him.
post #18 of 175
smoking in apt is a pretty common thing. it is smoke. doesnt matter which one it is. weed or cigarette.

with the cigarette i moved because it was in the privacy of their home.

with pot i tried talking to them. to landlord. then moved.

next when i rented made sure landlord knew about smoking. thankfully found a place where smoking is not an issue.

i know others who have had to move due to smoking. a person who didnt smoke inside their house, but right under my friends window.

so far i have never come across anyone finding a way out of the situation without moving.
post #19 of 175
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Originally Posted by MusicianDad View Post
Because pot smokers are harmless. The cops have real crimes to deal with and it's a waste of time, resources and tax payers money to call the cops on him.

Wow.......just......wow. Clearly we have not known the same pot smokers.
post #20 of 175
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Originally Posted by ElliesMomma View Post
it's second hand smoke. so it's not "harmless" -- in fact, it is harmful.

i have *no problem* with people smoking pot.

would i want to breathe a neighbor's second hand smoke. hell no.

would i want my *children* to breathe it? double hell no.

if this guy is too zoned out to be embarassed/worried that the neighbors can smell his pot smoke, he really is asking for trouble.

now, if it were my situation, what i think i'd do is 1) try to screen out the smoke from my own home, somehow. it sucks that this is happening in summertime when the windows are usually open. you shouldn't have to shut *your* windows. he should be shutting *his*. i'm not crazy about the incense idea -- it's a convenient cover for the pot smoker to cover his odor, but it does nada to erase the harmful reality of the second hand smoke. that's your real problem IMO. you should have fans going in your home to attempt to blow out the smoke. this is for your own benefit.

2) the second thing i would do is try to talk to the guy again. assuming he works -- try to catch him on his way to work or when he's returning home after work. make this conversation about "second hand smoke." you don't necessarily need to mention that it's pot smoke bothering you, although it's certainly your right to complain about that, too. i would just really impress upon him that you have young children and they have fragile respiratory systems and are being negatively affected by the second hand smoke that is drifting over on a regular basis -- and what can he do to stop this from happening, please? tell him that you don't want to have to call the police about pot smoking, that's not what this is about, but you do need it to stop, and you need him to be the one to take action to keep the smoke in *his* house, instead of drifting over to yours. can he please open the windows on the side of the house that is not next to you, and keep the ones next to you shut? can he please run a fan that blows the smoke in the direction opposite of your shared wall? is it possible that he could only smoke in the rooms that are further away from your shared wall?

if it were me, i would be nice but very insistent about it.
: Try to reason with him, when he isn't high as a kite. That's probably the best idea. Honestly, it is in the privacy of his own home, and all that, but it's invading the privacy of yours. So that does make it an issue worth discussing.

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Originally Posted by MusicianDad View Post
Because pot smokers are harmless. The cops have real crimes to deal with and it's a waste of time, resources and tax payers money to call the cops on him.
There's that and the fact that unless the dude is dealing out of his house, they aren't going to do anything about it. Even if he WAS dealing, he'd have to be moving some serious goods before the cops would take more than a passing interest. Calling the cops will only cause hard feelings all around and likely accomplish nothing whatsoever.

PS - I'd rephrase that to say "smoking pot is harmless," rather than "pot smokers are harmless" in general. Good people AND bad both smoke, and while MJ may not be the drug that induces violent behavior, there are some violent people who use it. (just my opinion, though!! )
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