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My son is reading my mind. Seriously.

post #1 of 26
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So a few times lately, I have been thinking about something sort of off the wall, and my son has questioned me about it. It literally made my jaw drop when he would ask me.

Once I was thinking of taking him for ice cream, and he looked up at me and said, "Ice cream Mama!!! Go get ice cream!!!" I absolutely know for a fact that I had not mentioned it, and we were in the middle of doing something totally not related. I can't even remember what the second one was, but I do remember him asking me about exactly what I was thinking about and he seemed very confused when he asked me about it. As though he could see what I was thinking about but didn't understand it.

Anyone else out there with kiddos like this? How do you censor thoughts? Am I losing my mind?
post #2 of 26
My son does the same thing. He always has!
post #3 of 26
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My son does the same thing. He always has!
How do you handle it? Do you encourage it, or discourage it? Do you censor your thoughts? Seriously, I am a little nervous some days if I am thinking about things I would rather he not have to worry about yet.
post #4 of 26
DS used to do that all the time. Not so much lately...maybe it fades with age for some? I miss it in a way! Maybe DD will do it.
post #5 of 26
mine does this! i think i posted about it once, maybe in TAO.

recently i was talking to my dad in front of DD about adoption (the possibility of DH and me adopting a child). i was thinking in my mind about a child at DD's daycare who is adopted, but i didn't say anything about him, or about her daycare, or anything.

DD turned to me out of nowhere and said the name of a child at her daycare who is adopted

i suppose it is possible she's heard that he is "adopted" (not that she knows what that means, i don't think) and connected the dots, but...she was just over 2 at the time, and i don't ever recall talking about how he is adopted with her, much less in front of her.
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DS used to do that all the time. Not so much lately...maybe it fades with age for some? I miss it in a way! Maybe DD will do it.
I think it is sort of fun in a way, but also very frightening at the same time. There are just some things that I wouldn't want him to know about. I also think it is just so beyond cool to have that close of a connection with him. Now if only I could get into HIS 2.5 year old head.
post #7 of 26
My dd does this- it always catches me off guard and I'm glad to hear it happens to other people!! I swear they are just more " in tune" with something that we lose along the way.
post #8 of 26
You know how we supposedly only use 1/5 of our brains or something along those lines? Well, do you suppose we are born using more and lose that ability? I mean, I have always believed babies could "see things" we can't (spirits, whatnot), why not toddlers being able to read our non-verbal language in a way most adults cannot.

BTW: my DS (28 months) does this too.
post #9 of 26
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I think it is sort of fun in a way, but also very frightening at the same time. There are just some things that I wouldn't want him to know about. I also think it is just so beyond cool to have that close of a connection with him. Now if only I could get into HIS 2.5 year old head.
Yep, that's why I said miss it "in a way"! The connection is cool...but I don't want him to know how much I think about ice cream now!
post #10 of 26
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You know how we supposedly only use 1/5 of our brains or something along those lines? Well, do you suppose we are born using more and lose that ability? I mean, I have always believed babies could "see things" we can't (spirits, whatnot), why not toddlers being able to read our non-verbal language in a way most adults cannot.

BTW: my DS (28 months) does this too.
I agree. Julian has for sure noticed "spirits" since he could see more then a few inches in front of his face He also responds to what I am thinking, although he is not very verbal yet he does sign things and reacts. I try to keep this in mind as I am helping him to sleep on those long frustrating nights
post #11 of 26
This isn't the same thing, but...

When my daughter was three, my dad got very sick. I knew he was going to die, but I didn't LET myself know it... kwim? I guess I was in denial, and was mostly expecting him to turn the corner and be O.K.

We went over to help my mom with some things at the house. We went in my dad's room to say hi to him. She went in and said Hi, and looked at him with her head cocked to the side. (he did not say a single word... I don't even think he opened his eyes)

Then she said to me, "He says he's going to die now". I was kinda mad and horrified.. I said "No he didn't!!" and I made her go out to the kitchen. A few minutes later, my sister in law and my four year old neice came over. E**** went in, and came back out and matter of factly said "Grandpa needs to die now". I'm still haunted by that. He died the next morning, and both granddaughters who saw him were not only O.K with that, they both said "I know" when they were told. They weren't even together. My nephew who was older and hadn't seen him in a few days was the only kid who was surprised.
post #12 of 26
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You know how we supposedly only use 1/5 of our brains or something along those lines? Well, do you suppose we are born using more and lose that ability? I mean, I have always believed babies could "see things" we can't (spirits, whatnot)
I had a strong feeling about this baby's spirit coming to visit us at the time of conception, that it's a girl, and that it decided to stay with us because DS is part of the package, but I never said anything about it to DS...I guess time will tell if Mama's spidey senses are still intact. I swear my son knew about the baby coming before we ever said a word to him about it. A number of times, he'd be sitting in the living room staring at nothing I could see and say, "Baby, baby!" FWIW, DS is also very certain that it is a 'girl-baby' whenever we ask him, and he's at that 2 year old stage where just about everything is either "no" or a listing of all available choices. And, when he pointed at the lone grainy ultrasound photo we have of this baby, he identified it as the girl-baby and that the baby is in my belly, which demonstrates what is, for him, an unusually clear recognition and exposition of the actual situation...
post #13 of 26
DD used to do this. It doesn't really happen anymore.

She also told me I had a baby in my tummy approx. 2 days after I conceived. We had NOT been talking about this to her.

Also, she randomly started saying "See grandpa, see grandpa" and crying the day FIL took the fall that put him in the nursing home where he eventually died. (I had no idea he had fallen when she said this, nor was he under discussion.) They were not close and she had not seen him or talked about him in months. I actually have never told my DH this story.
post #14 of 26
My oldest ds (now 11 ) did this often when he was younger... it stopped somewhere around 4-5... he even told me about being born once. We had many many instances where he said things I was thinking. Some could have beeb coincidence (like driving into town, me thinking of going somewhere, then he says it...) But there were many times that it was just too random to be coincidence, kwim?

None of my other three children have done this.
post #15 of 26
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Originally Posted by Pumpkin_Pie View Post

Once I was thinking of taking him for ice cream, and he looked up at me and said, "Ice cream Mama!!! Go get ice cream!!!" I absolutely know for a fact that I had not mentioned it, and we were in the middle of doing something totally not related.
My dd did this once when I was thinking about chocolate covered raisins, which are her absolute favorite treat. I was trying to figure out how I could sneak some without her seeing me, and just at that moment she dragged me across the room and into the pantry and pointed at them. Totally freaked me out! She hasn't done that since, but she's still only slightly verbal, so we'll see when she starts talking more.
post #16 of 26
I've sworn my dd has done this a few times as well, but always have dismissed them as coincidences. Like maybe the same thing that turned my train of thought one way, did the same to her. I can't remember any specific examples though. Weird.
post #17 of 26
My now 6yr old has always done this and still does. I don't find it creepy and we have a laugh about it now. I kinda like the connection and joke that he's in my head again (happens usually once a week or so and mostly when I'm really absorbed in myself thinking or planning in my mind as I'm doing something). Apparently FIL was the same with his mother and is clairvoyant but doesn't do anything with it. He just knowingly nodded when I told him about DS but didn't want to engage in it as he had some bad experiences that put him off (ie used to use it as a party trick as a teenager and freaked himself out one time). I don't think DS is (and I'm not) clairvoyant but he and I definitely have some sort of connection there.
post #18 of 26
my daughter, now 27 months, I guess has ESP. even while I was pregnant, she was pretty amazing. She "quickened" at only 11 weeks development, the kick was felt by both me & my midwife at my 13wk prenatal. also, I could hold my hand about an inch from my belly & she'd follow it around with her movements, during the 3rd trimester. and she's read my mind lots of times, just like others have mentioned.

I don't do anything special to "handle" it, I don't worry about it. I answer her questions, explain things best I can, I guess. I think it's pretty common, really, moms & kids have intuitive connections even deep into adulthood.
post #19 of 26
My daughter will be 2 in a week. Since she first started speaking, she has commented on my thoughts. I imagine she could "read" them even before birth.
post #20 of 26
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my daughter, now 27 months, I guess has ESP. even while I was pregnant, she was pretty amazing. She "quickened" at only 11 weeks development, the kick was felt by both me & my midwife at my 13wk prenatal. also, I could hold my hand about an inch from my belly & she'd follow it around with her movements, during the 3rd trimester. and she's read my mind lots of times, just like others have mentioned.

I don't do anything special to "handle" it, I don't worry about it. I answer her questions, explain things best I can, I guess. I think it's pretty common, really, moms & kids have intuitive connections even deep into adulthood.
I too felt my son move for the first time at 11 weeks, and I was a first time mama. Nobody believed me, but a co-worker felt him kick at around 13 or 14 weeks too. So funny!

I forgot to add with my first post that twice now, DS has been staying with a friend of mine for the day. She lives on the second floor apartment and you have to "buzz" people in through a locked entryway. There is no way to see or hear a person who is at the door before you push the buzzer. Both times, he has looked up at my friend, literally seconds before I push the buzzer and says, "Mommy!" and goes running for the door. It totally freaked her out the first time, and now she laughs when he does it.
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