I'm much more open to sharing about our experience, DH not so much. I guess I've relayed enough of the horror stories (involving CPS) from here and other forums to make him pretty nervous.
We have learned what crowd is accepting and when it's best to just keep quiet to avoid making someone else feel awkward.
For example, I was at a small party and one mother was going on and on about how unsafe it is to have a baby at a small town hospital (like the one available here), she had nothing good to say and told everyone it's only safe to drive 1-2 hours to the large micro-managing hospitals. I kept to myself, then someone pipes up "Hey! why don't you tell everyone about YOUR birth experience!". The poor lady turned purple after I humbly told them what we did.
But like someone else already pointed out, by telling people and getting it out there, it puts that seed in their head.
I sure wish I had known people UC before I had DS1, his birth probably would have been much much different. I wanted to UC, but I didn't know it even had a name and I certainly didn't know anyone actually DID that.
We have learned what crowd is accepting and when it's best to just keep quiet to avoid making someone else feel awkward.
For example, I was at a small party and one mother was going on and on about how unsafe it is to have a baby at a small town hospital (like the one available here), she had nothing good to say and told everyone it's only safe to drive 1-2 hours to the large micro-managing hospitals. I kept to myself, then someone pipes up "Hey! why don't you tell everyone about YOUR birth experience!". The poor lady turned purple after I humbly told them what we did.
But like someone else already pointed out, by telling people and getting it out there, it puts that seed in their head.
I sure wish I had known people UC before I had DS1, his birth probably would have been much much different. I wanted to UC, but I didn't know it even had a name and I certainly didn't know anyone actually DID that.
). We're planning another UC, but we're not flat out telling anyone that we are. People were kind about the last one, but also treated it like some emergency that was just lucky to have gone so well. Most of the reason I don't want to talk about it this time is that I don't want to deal with the negativity. But I do still have a lot of the same fears about talking about it afterwards as a lot of you here. My question is, if you've had more than one UC, even if you don't talk about the subsequent ones, people will obviously know that the rest were UC's as well (at least in my case...small town, all family local *sigh* )...so how do you approach that, since you can't really go by the "let them assume it was a hospital birth" or just a "regular" homebirth thing?
) since that birth, and now I'm much more comfortable telling anyone who asks what happened.
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