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post #421 of 719
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Originally Posted by Galatea View Post
Your milk is nasty? That makes me sad.
It makes me sad too... It's not nasty for DS to eat (at least I don't think he thinks that way), but if it gets on DH, it is nasty. BF, intact and CDing are not popular around here at all. No one in either of our families has even considered any of those, that I am aware of.
post #422 of 719
I must say.....don't circ. My boyfriend isn't and I let it be his decision whether or not to have our son circ because I had didn't think I should make that call. I thought that there had to be some reason for the procedure...cleanliness maybe. I was so wrong. Even after being circ you still have to pull the foreskin back and clean it so that it doesn't get stuck or grow back up (when he gets an erection it pops loose, which is painful) just like you do when you're not circ.

I made the mistake of taking a walk while they wheeled my son away to do the procedure. Little did I know that I walked right by the door when I heard my baby screaming bloody murder. I wanted to bust through the door like the Kool-Aid man used to do in commericals and take my baby and run. I was soooooo naive to think that there was a purpose to circs. If I have another boy I will not have him circ! True maybe he may have to have a circ done later in life because of infections but and I stress but he may not. I do not think there is any purpose for the hospital doing this procedure but to get more $$!
post #423 of 719
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Originally Posted by christyl2007 View Post
True maybe he may have to have a circ done later in life because of infections but and I stress but he may not.
I just wanted to say the majority of boys & men with an intact penis never have any infections or issues.
post #424 of 719
That's what I meant, if they ever had any problems at all. Thanks I should have been more clear.
post #425 of 719
I did it because my husband thought we should do it because he was circumcised.

I would never do it again, and i am ashamed at myself for doing something like that without some very serious thought

I WOULD NEVER DO IT AGAIN

i hope he forgives me
post #426 of 719
I feel very bad about circ'ing my son. The thought that he had to endure that pain...I don't know why we did it.
The truth is that now I think his penis doesn't look...right. I hope I did not scar him for life.
post #427 of 719
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Originally Posted by RightasRain View Post
I did it because my husband thought we should do it because he was circumcised.

I would never do it again, and i am ashamed at myself for doing something like that without some very serious thought

I WOULD NEVER DO IT AGAIN

i hope he forgives me
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Originally Posted by WilliamsMama View Post
I feel very bad about circ'ing my son. The thought that he had to endure that pain...I don't know why we did it.
The truth is that now I think his penis doesn't look...right. I hope I did not scar him for life.
Sorry to hear this. It's hard to see through the rhetoric but I hope you'll take your new found information and let other know. You'll be able to make a more informed decision next time.
post #428 of 719
My four year old son is circumcised and I regret it, my dh thinks I am insane for regretting it, he is all for it, but every time I look at his penis, I can feel my shame and know that I can not take it back.

I still remember beign pregnant with my son and my husband telling me how we were going to circumcise and me not knowing anything about it really, just went along with it. But I do remember, deep in the pit of my stomach, something didn't feel right, I knew that there was something wrong about it, but I didn't know where to go (I hadn't found this website), everyone around me agreed with my husband.

The day in the hospital that it was done, I started to feel panic, I held him so hard in my arms and my husband had to pry him out of my arms and I remember saying "I can't believe you are going to butcher him" and my husband just kissed me and said I was overreacting and took him. The whole time he was gone, I felt sick, I knew something wasn't right, but everyone around me just kept reassuring me and I didn't trust my maternal instincts at the time, I was a new mother, I was trying to find my way.

That first night, my sweet boy wouldn't sleep, he was in pain, he cried, we had to give a 2 day old baby tylenol, he cried with every diaper change until it healed. I know it was a bad decision and if we had another boy, I would not circumcise him, I don't care if my dh disagrees, he doesn't have ownership over the penis just because he has one.

I find all this really hard to admit, but when my son is older, I will talk to him, will tell him about the statistics, about the pain he was in and I will tell him I am sorry.
post #429 of 719
I was bullied into circ'ing DS by my mother. I was only 17 at the time and I was (and still am) strongly against circ. My mom fed me all the usual crap ("so he'll look like dad" "it's more hygienic" "he'll be made fun of in the locker room") and finally I signed the consent form. The second to last day my son was in the NICU, I visited him. By his bed I noticed a little board with the impression of a baby and it read "Circumstraint". That day I went home, threw up, and then cried myself to sleep. I thought by signing that form I had given up my right to change my mind. I'll regret it forever. I tried to make my mom realize all the information she fed me was false but she's still sticking to her beliefs. I'll forever regret circ'ing my son but when he is older I want to provide him with information for foreskin restoration. Any future sons will not be circ'ed. I'm glad that I know better now.
post #430 of 719
So, subconsciously, he did not want HIS son to feel rejected by some (moronic) woman. If some twit were to reject him because of THAT, he's better off IMO.

I now tell myself the same thing because my son is circed. I regret it and wish I had not allowed it to happen, but if a woman rejects my ds for that, he's better off without her.

I will add that I definitely didn't know then (almost 14 years ago) what I know now about circumcision. I had no idea that the foreskin actually has a purpose. That's not an excuse, but it's the truth. If my ds had not been my first child, or if I'd had easy access to more information (again, this was 1993-4 and it was difficult to research medical issues before I had internet access), my ds probably would be intact.
post #431 of 719
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My four year old son is circumcised and I regret it, my dh thinks I am insane for regretting it, he is all for it, but every time I look at his penis, I can feel my shame and know that I can not take it back.....

I still remember beign pregnant with my son and my husband telling me how we were going to circumcise and me not knowing anything about it really, just went along with it. But I do remember, deep in the pit of my stomach, something didn't feel right, I knew that there was something wrong about it, but I didn't know where to go (I hadn't found this website), everyone around me agreed with my husband.

The day in the hospital that it was done, I started to feel panic, I held him so hard in my arms and my husband had to pry him out of my arms and I remember saying "I can't believe you are going to butcher him" and my husband just kissed me and said I was overreacting and took him. The whole time he was gone, I felt sick, I knew something wasn't right, but everyone around me just kept reassuring me and I didn't trust my maternal instincts at the time, I was a new mother, I was trying to find my way.

That first night, my sweet boy wouldn't sleep, he was in pain, he cried, we had to give a 2 day old baby tylenol, he cried with every diaper change until it healed. I know it was a bad decision and if we had another boy, I would not circumcise him, I don't care if my dh disagrees, he doesn't have ownership over the penis just because he has one.

I find all this really hard to admit, but when my son is older, I will talk to him, will tell him about the statistics, about the pain he was in and I will tell him I am sorry.
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Originally Posted by aaronsmom View Post
I was bullied into circ'ing DS by my mother. I was only 17 at the time and I was (and still am) strongly against circ. My mom fed me all the usual crap ("so he'll look like dad" "it's more hygienic" "he'll be made fun of in the locker room") and finally I signed the consent form. The second to last day my son was in the NICU, I visited him. By his bed I noticed a little board with the impression of a baby and it read "Circumstraint". That day I went home, threw up, and then cried myself to sleep. I thought by signing that form I had given up my right to change my mind. I'll regret it forever. I tried to make my mom realize all the information she fed me was false but she's still sticking to her beliefs. I'll forever regret circ'ing my son but when he is older I want to provide him with information for foreskin restoration. Any future sons will not be circ'ed. I'm glad that I know better now.
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Originally Posted by Verity View Post
So, subconsciously, he did not want HIS son to feel rejected by some (moronic) woman. If some twit were to reject him because of THAT, he's better off IMO.

I now tell myself the same thing because my son is circed. I regret it and wish I had not allowed it to happen, but if a woman rejects my ds for that, he's better off without her.

I will add that I definitely didn't know then (almost 14 years ago) what I know now about circumcision. I had no idea that the foreskin actually has a purpose. That's not an excuse, but it's the truth. If my ds had not been my first child, or if I'd had easy access to more information (again, this was 1993-4 and it was difficult to research medical issues before I had internet access), my ds probably would be intact.

(((HUGS))) mamas. Your stories are heart wrenching. Please know that this wasn't your fault. I'm so sorry that America allows this atrocity to continue. ITs sick. Be super sure that you tell your boys that they can sue their doctors when they get older. At least let them know its an option.

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post #432 of 719
I'm sorry every mom on here was filled with lies its a sad thing when doctors think all boys are born with a flaw -thank you all for sharing your s tory
post #433 of 719
Moved to new thread, sorry OP!
post #434 of 719
mama2mason -
I don't have any advice on the adhesions, but I can relate very much to the guilt you feel. I often think back to that moment in the hospital and wish more than anything I could go back and say NO! and crumple up that paper I signed and set it on fire
I'm sorry you are dealing with this, I hope someone else here can give you some advice & your son's issues will clear up so he won't be in any pain...
Thanks for sharing your story here
post #435 of 719
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Originally Posted by mama2mason View Post
Hi everyone,

I am new here, so I hope this is in the right place. This is a repeat of a post I made over at diaperswappers. While I appreciate posts of support, or info about why circ'ing is bad, I am really looking for info from people who have been there, done that...
You might want to repost this as a new thread in Case Against Circ instead of having it in a sticky/regret thread. You'll most likely get more reads and advice than by leaving it in this thread.
post #436 of 719
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Originally Posted by Night_Nurse View Post
You might want to repost this as a new thread in Case Against Circ instead of having it in a sticky/regret thread. You'll most likely get more reads and advice than by leaving it in this thread.
Thanks...I wasn't sure if it would be okay to post there, or if I had to put it here, because it is a regret issue. Thanks for pointing me in the right direction.
post #437 of 719
Wow, this is sad. I had no idea circumcision was unhealthy. I was told by my last OBGYN that her boy had an infection when he was around 5 and had to be circumcised so I thought there would be less chance of infection if I circumcised my son. She even said that it would make it so he didn't have to do it himself later in life when he would remember it, in case he got an infection. And she made it sound like infections in uncircumcised males were very common.

It makes my stomach sick thinking that I did something unhealthy for my son. I only want what's best for him. If I have another boy with this pregnancy, I will not have him circ'd.
post #438 of 719
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Originally Posted by dayiscoming2006 View Post
Wow, this is sad. I had no idea circumcision was unhealthy. I was told by my last OBGYN that her boy had an infection when he was around 5 and had to be circumcised so I thought there would be less chance of infection if I circumcised my son. She even said that it would make it so he didn't have to do it himself later in life when he would remember it, in case he got an infection. And she made it sound like infections in uncircumcised males were very common.

It makes my stomach sick thinking that I did something unhealthy for my son. I only want what's best for him. If I have another boy with this pregnancy, I will not have him circ'd.

Without doctors "help" ( http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=129378 ) intact boys/men are much less likely to have problems in this department that cut ones.

Good for you for educating yourself!
post #439 of 719
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Originally Posted by dayiscoming2006 View Post
It makes my stomach sick thinking that I did something unhealthy for my son. I only want what's best for him.
I feel the same way about vaccinating my first child . I wish I could take it back ...
If you haven't looked into vaccines already, I highly recommend. http://www.mothering.com/discussions...splay.php?f=47
post #440 of 719
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I feel the same way about vaccinating my first child . I wish I could take it back ...
If you haven't looked into vaccines already, I highly recommend. http://www.mothering.com/discussions...splay.php?f=47
Yeah, same feeling for having vaccinated my son until he was 1 as well. I no longer vaccinate since I have been informed though. Thank you for the link to the other thread.
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