I absolutely can't believe they did that without your consent. Did either of you sign any forms? I know I was asked when my son was born and was told I had to sign a form if I wanted that done.
It's weird how I first started thinking about circumcision way before I was even a mother. I teach college and one time we were talking about FGM (female genital mutilation), and some adult male said, "Well, what about what they do to us??? They cut off parts of our penis, and we didn't have a say in that!" Whenever I'd talked to guys about it (on the rare occasion it had come up), they'd talk about how gross it was to NOT circ and how uncircumcised guys were gross (weird looking, smelly, and whatnot), so I was surprised when a BUNCH of men in my class piped in and said "Yeah! What about us! That's messed up!" I was a new teacher at the time, about 24-25, and I was shocked! These were mainly working class men at a community college, like mechanics and landscapers and sort of traditional "macho" men, not a bunch of hippies or alternative types. That's what first got me thinking about it and how weird it was that we'd remove something that boys were born with, something that was natural!
Later I dated a chiropractor, and in school they were all forced to watch a video of a circumcision. He said that he and all the men in his class said they'd NEVER do that to their kids after seeing that.
On the sex end of things, I've dated both circumcised and non-circumcised men, and the circumcised men definitely have a harder time keeping an erection, especially with a condom. It really does remove tissue that's important for arousal!
To top that off were the rare complications that I read about (penises being mutilated) or the more frequent infections. It seems crazy to subject a newborn to possible infection for no reason (no harm/insult meant to those of you who did decide to circ your boys).
After all of that, when I found out I was having a boy, I knew I wouldn't circumcise. If he wants to have it done later, that's his choice!
One thing that's weird to me is that men would even be in favor of this at all. They are generally so protective of penises! It seems weird that they'd be ok with someone coming near their son's penis with a knife under any circumstances. I know there's the impulse for the child to look "normal" and like dad. Thankfully now fewer and fewer boys are having this done, and now "normal" will really start to look like, well, what IS really normal!
(On a random side note, if only we could turn the tide with breast implants! They are so common now, I wouldn't be surprised if we considered that a routine surgery for girls at some point! Geez.)
Originally Posted by unschoolinmom
I'm not sure if I regret it, but I know that I will not circ any more males that i have later on down the road. After reading this forum and then doing research, I sat down with dh and told him no more.
Our ds, was circ'd without either of us being present. I did not fill out the form for that and while I slept, a nurse or doctor, I don't know, came in and took him from his bin and I woke up hearing my child screaming. She (the nurse i believe) brought him back, put him in my arms and said, "he's going to need to be soothed now" then left.
Dh at first wanted him circ'd because he was disgusted by the look of an intact one and wouldn't be able to look at his child. However, after I told him what had happened, he saw what it looked like afterward and hated it.
We are NOT doing it again and luckily our son has no memory of any of it.
We are not doing it