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post #21 of 34
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Originally Posted by MCatLvrMom2A&X View Post

Dh said I should tape the visits so that people could really see how irritating and upsetting a visit like that can be. When I told dh what the Dr. said he said BS my cousin J's was way longer than ds's and obviously he is fine since he has since fathered several kids.
My DH has a "long" foreskin, and has no problems at all with erections or UTIs. His one and only run in any inflammation was soap related.
post #22 of 34
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Originally Posted by MCatLvrMom2A&X View Post
A bit OT here but worth mentioning.

I didnt mention it in the OP but he also unbuttoned and unzipped dd's pants to check her lower tummy and femoral pulse. He did not ask dd if he could do this : He did it so fast though I didnt even have time to think about it. *sigh*
I hadn't been to a well-child visit since I was 6. Then my parents suddenly decided that I needed to go for one when I was 13. The dr unzipped my jeans w/o asking or telling me what he was doing. And he massaged my pubic hair. I was so humiliated. I am burning thinking about it. Please consider not allowing doctors to do that to your kids. I will never allow a doctor to grope my children that way. (I realize that you are a caring mom. The anger in my post is at the doctors and the government regulations supporting their racket).
post #23 of 34
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After this I am going to go with a no checking under the pants rule. I am still torn about ds though what if he has a hernia and I miss it? It appears that some dr. do it and some do not so I am thinking it isnt really needed. I am going to tell dd in the future that she can say no if they start undoing her pants again. I just didnt think honestly I was worried about how the no vax was going to go and worried because I knew there was a chance I would have to remove a dr's hand from ds after I had said no.

So much to think about and half that shouldnt even have had to be an issue. Once I said religious exemption that should have been the end of it right there. The same goes for leaving ds's foreskin alone I should not have to watch them like a hawk to make sure he was not hurt.

I am going to check for next year about the free physical at school and if they just do the basics and leave the genitals out of it I am going to go that route.

This parenting thing is hard enough without having to deal with things like that. *sigh*
post #24 of 34
what are they checking for anyways? WTF difference does it make to attend school?

What does my childs penis have to do with arithmetic?
post #25 of 34
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Here they have a physical for pre k, K, 1-3rd then they skip a year or 2 and have to have one again. It isnt a coincidence IMO that that timing meets up exactly with the recommended vax schedule. :

DS has made it nearly 5 years with his foreskin that way growing as he grows now all the sudden it is to long amazing how it is viewed like a dorment volcano just waiting to erupt and cause all kinds of horrible issues :
post #26 of 34
You absolutely can decline the physical on religious terms.

-Angela
post #27 of 34
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How can I justify saying no to a physical on religious grounds but still take them to the Dr. to get meds when they are sick?

I dont have a problem with a physical other than the genital check and the grilling about vaxing.
post #28 of 34
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Originally Posted by FernG View Post
I hadn't been to a well-child visit since I was 6. Then my parents suddenly decided that I needed to go for one when I was 13. The dr unzipped my jeans w/o asking or telling me what he was doing. And he massaged my pubic hair. I was so humiliated. I am burning thinking about it. Please consider not allowing doctors to do that to your kids. I will never allow a doctor to grope my children that way. (I realize that you are a caring mom. The anger in my post is at the doctors and the government regulations supporting their racket).
I am sorry you were humiliated like this! This reminds me of something my brother said in regards to raising children. He said "We don't get to chose the moments our kids will remember forever."

The liberties that medical staff regarding basic matters of respect are so wrong.
post #29 of 34
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Originally Posted by MCatLvrMom2A&X View Post
How can I justify saying no to a physical on religious grounds but still take them to the Dr. to get meds when they are sick?

I dont have a problem with a physical other than the genital check and the grilling about vaxing.
this is probably philosophical, but you could be opposed to waste. take verses about being a good steward and run with them. since physicals aren't necessary medical care, they waste medical resources causing you to violate your religious beliefs about being a good steward.
post #30 of 34
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Never even thought of that FernG thank you.
post #31 of 34
I just don't get America. The only time any of my childrens groin area has been checked is for the following reasons:

As babies to check bladder (and that is literally just palpating the bladder) and check hip joints

OR

if I have specifically asked for them to be checked for thrush.

Otherwise, they don't go near it or if they do, they ask for my permission and the childrens permission also (even when they were 1-2 years old and I was given a chance to explain to the children what was going to happen so they wouldn't be scared). It doesn't matter which doctor I take them too, that is the way it goes. Always asking for permission from both parent and child and always doing the bare minimum of touching and in fact, trying to avoid it as much as possible, so asking me to help as well).
post #32 of 34
Yeah. Or you could write something up about the human body being sacred and only viewed/touched by others if there is something amiss...

-Angela
post #33 of 34
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Originally Posted by craft_media_hero View Post
Am I the only mom who doesn't think my kid needs to go to the doctor unless it's life-threatening?
I don't take my kids to the doctor for simple illnesses, but I do take them for yearly physicals even though we homeschool.

My son passed the vision test at the DMV even though his eyes were pretty bad. Scary, huh? We probably wouldn't have known he needed glasses if I hadn't taken him for a physical.

My friend (adult, but still...) had been suffering from mysterious aches and pains for years. She tried lots of different natural remedies, kept getting worse. Nothing life-threatening, just life-draining. She had Lyme disease and had no idea until she went for a physical.

When I was in the Navy I did an EKG on a guy who had not been for a physical in 5 years (only had one at that point because the Navy requires a full physical every 5 years), and discovered that he'd had a mild heart attack at one point and didn't know.

I take my kids for check-ups, just like I take my car for tune-ups. We have moved frequently and my kids have seen lots of different doctors, and none of them have touched or looked at private areas without warning or even asking. Maybe we've been lucky.
post #34 of 34
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See that is a major fear of mine there are things that could be wrong with the kids that I wouldnt know about. I catch most things but there are some I just would never know about.

I am going to ask the school nurse what all is done at the physical at school and then decide where to go from there.
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