Originally Posted by learnlovebe
I knew that this time I had to tell her what I needed help w/ if wanted this to be true. So, Sunday-Wed, she did what I told her (mostly getting ds breakfast so I could take a morning nap- which in itself was almost worth her stay entirely). By Thursday, she finally figured out that it was OK to unload the dishwasher and clear the table w/o me having to tell her. By Friday she did a load of laundry w/o being told, and then on Saturday she was gone.
DH attempted to get the point across to his parents but it has turned out to be much like you described. FIL still does nothing- not even taking his empty plate to the sink or dishwasher or flushing the toilet a second time after one of his explosions
MIL has actually listened to some orders but I hate having to tell people what to do. In her own house she knows to empty the dishwasher when full and do the laundry. Here, not so much. We hinted it would be nice to have takeout or go to dinner last night as I was about to explode and they agreed. Fast forward to evening- "we don't feel like it". And then proceeded to sit on their butts as DH and I whipped up a meal.
I know, I wish I had the balls to just starve them or open my big mouth (also Italian, Torre
) but it is just too stressful to start a war right now. Besides, they leave on Sat. and I did announce I will do no more cooking after last night. I also put my foot down about DS- when the kid roots or cries, he eats. No pacifier, no grandma fingertip, no CIO. I have a hungry kid here!
At least they know I'm PO'd, whatever good that does