We go with the "something to wear, something to read, something you want, something you need" formula for the immediate family (dh, dd1, dd2, ds, and I). I'm making baby legs for each child, dd1 and dd2 will get magazine subscriptions while ds will get a home made texture book, "want" is a My Little Pony for dd1/a ballerina outfit for dd2/a play silk for ds, and "need" is hat/scarf/gloves/slipper set. DH is getting flannel jammies, a magazine subscription, a dvd, and that knitted hat/scarf/gloves (his mom always makes him slippers so I skip that).
Stockings are usually an orange, some chocolate, a trail mix of nuts and fruit, fruit leather, and coloring supplies. The regular gifts go in the stockings too... I'm making everyone new stockings this year!
For extended family we make a donation and give a related (small) gift. For example, when we donated honeybees through heifer international we gave people a card and a jar of honey. When we donated ducks (again through heifer international) we gave a card and a rubber duckie. One year we supported families through the holiday helper program and gave people cards and a paperdoll family for their own kiddos. This year we're making donations to a local reading program and giving people homemade books written/illustrated by the kids. It's something that works well since you can donate any amount (the recipient doesn't need to know how much/little you can afford), it helps others while also being a gift, it doesn't add to clutter/consumption/materialism, and it works for everyone.
I'm having more trouble with the freezer meals though.
DD1 has Celiac and we need to stay gluten free. DD2 can't eat dairy. And it looks like ds is sensitive to egg in my diet (dd1 was as well). So we need easy to freeze/reheat, festive, seasonal gluten/dairy/egg free dishes!
Other than a lifetime supply of rice/beans and chicken I'm drawing a blank for "main dish" type items. Veggie sides are no problem, and I'm loving the sweet potato fries and the cran relish, but the rest is driving me a bit bonkers.
The master bedroom is the children's bedroom is the guest bedroom. So I get another week! I think the small house is enabling my lazy holiday cleaning.
Though we finished framing the walls of the addition so progress towards a children/guest space (and a real living room) is happening. Yay! Though the weather is not helping. It's been raining/sleeting and generally cold/miserable. Since dh does the work when he gets home it's also usually dark. Poor dh!